Aileen Santos, CPC MAC

aileen_santos_author_page.jpgAileen Santos is an internationally Certified Relationship Coach with a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology, and she has made it her mission to help smart single men and women learn better relationship skills to help them recognize and grow the love life of their dreams.

She has been happily married for 12 years (and counting!), and considers herself a lifelong learner of love.

"Think of it this way," says Aileen. "If we learn to build better relationships, then we create happier marriages. And if we create happier marriages, then we'll naturally build stronger families. And I believe that what the world needs now is stronger families."

Aileen Santos is also the author of Seduction Secrets That Really Work! (A Novel), an ebook that follows the transformation of Celine Anne Sison from shy-and-lonely call center agent into an engaging man magnet. What's even better is that her novel shows you the exact (psychologically-based) techniques that Celine uses to attract and find true love--so Seduction Secrets is like a love story and a self help book rolled into one.

Download a sample chapter now by clicking here.


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I'm in Love with My Best Friend

Relationship Coach Aileen Santos shares her advice to a reader struggling to let go of someone who won't commit to her.

How can I tell if he's decided about me?

A reader asks Relationship Coach Aileen Santos to help her understand what her boyfriend feels for her.

How do I get over my problem with my boyfriend's family?

A reader asks columnist Aileen Santos whether she should forgive and make friends with her boyfriend's family after a hurtful event.

I Don't Want to Be Someone's Mistress

A reader asks Relationship Coach Aileen Santos for advice on how to deal with loving a married man.

What should I do when he flirts with other women online?

Columnist Aileen Santos offers advice on dealing with the increasingly common problem of online infidelity.

How can I make her want me too?

A male reader asks columnist Aileen Santos for advice about his love problem.

He Says He Only Sees Me as a Friend

A reader asks columnist Aileen Santos whether she had a special connection with a guy or if it was all in her head.

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

A reader asks Relationship Coach Aileen Santos for advice on whether she should break up with her boyfriend or keep working at her relationship.

What do you do when the love of your life chooses someone else?

Columnist Aileen Santos gives advice on how to cope when you realize that you're not The One.

Relationships 101: Real Life vs. Fairy Tales

Do you really know the difference between real life relationships and fairy tale expectations?

Relationships 101: Men and Women--Different But Complementary

The key to any healthy relationship is accepting your partner's quirks, flaws, and all.

Relationships 101: What kind of relationship are you in?

All romantic relationships fall into one of three categories. Relationship coach Aileen Santos shares how to find out which kind you're in now, and which could lead to real and lasting love.