Just as we know that no one can escape death, we are aware that no one is exempt from the unrivaled pain of losing a loved one. Yet not even this awareness can spare us from devastation when the inevitable comes.
The world seems to stop, even as you try to get over the pain as quickly as you can. However, there really is no need to rush your stages of healing. "People who are grieving often feel as if they're watching themselves from the outside go through these emotions," says clinical psychologist and traumatologist Therese Rando, Ph.D. "It is normal to have distress when dealing with the loss of someone you love. Grievers need to understand that the normal course of grief involves feeling worse before you can feel better again."
You must also remember that grieving is an individual process, and you can never tell how or when a person will be able to move on from such loss. But little by little, you'll find the strength to move on, even though life may never be the same. Learn how to deal with your grief at the loss of a loved one with this survival guide from Hospice.net and the American Hospice Foundation.
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Take some time alone and with others. You don't need to hurry the process of grieving, nor choose how to spend your time grieving. If you find peace in staying quiet and meditating, do so. Yet this is also the time to share your feelings with friends or family members who also need to let out their sorrow. Don't reject expressions of care from others.
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i am struggling very hard to walk the road less travelled. i became a widow recently. at a tender age of 29, my world stopped when my husband left us for good. he left me a very intellegent and adorable 7 yr old son in which i get all my strength to make it through everyday.i know the wounds are still fresh but i am looking forward in seeing another sunny day in my life.
January 26, 2009 at 1:07 pmjc_tigress
hang on juliefiona_22, maybe your husband already accomplished his purpose here on earth. he gave you an adorable son and i'm sure he showed you the sides of life that you have never seen before. take care.
January 26, 2009 at 6:21 pmmamabonzai
i understand what your into now juliefiona_22...what a coincidence we have the same experience and name...i lost my husband too 3 yrs ago...i know its hard but you have to help your self and be strong for your son...just pray to god to give you strength and guide you always and your son..godbless!!!
March 18, 2009 at 11:56 am