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Do you believe that the brain is the largest sex organ?

A full desire translated into an imaginary act can actually result to an orgasmic feeling. During sexual intercourse or daydreaming, we sometimes imagine romantic scenes which arouse us. One of my students told me that at the onset of the act, slipping his member into his partner feels like a conquest. He feels and thinks like a conqueror. This can be considered a sexual fantasy; a deliberate or patterned imagery that enhances sexual feelings.

However, fantasies can also "turn off” undesirable factors that affect the act. For instance, a woman can fantasize to keep herself from thinking about her bodily imperfections and odors; some guys, on the other hand, entertain non-sexual thoughts to avoid premature ejaculation.

Sexual fantasies are helpful. They can serve as an outlet for real-life restraints, and can help you plan future sexual encounters. In daydreaming, you can assume any role you never had. You can play the powerful one or the victim who enjoys being a slave; you can also imagine having multiple partners. It is sad that sexual fantasies have taboo status, and that’s why it becomes private; it remains repressed and never enacted in real life.

Sexual fantasies can be simple or out of this world. A number of people resort to fantasizing a simple walk in the park, while others linger on BDSM: Bondage and Discipline(B/D), Dominance and Submission(D/S), and Sadism and Masochism (S/M). For BDSM, the fundamental principle is voluntarily giving up control.

Half the male population finds being restrained from pleasure erotic. So in their fantasy, they want to be chained or cuffed while the woman is pumping on top. On the other hand, females have a penchant for the rape fantasy. Women tend to fantasize about being forced to surrender or becoming overpowered, but not being hurt. While reading this, you might say that this fantasy is overboard. But believe me when I tell you that these activities, be it just a daydream or reality, involve a great deal of responsibility. If you desire this, you are not weird or deviant but just adventurous. Just remember that BDSM involves an “SSC principle" (Safe, Sane, and Consensual).

Now let's talk about common fantasies, those that we can openly talk to our friends and partner about. In general, both sexes fancy reliving their most erotic sexual experience. It can be with their current partner, or while imagining having sex with a different partner. Women think of having sex in romantic locations, she in the irresistible lead role. Men daydream about having sexual power over multiple sex partners.

Whatever your fantasies are, it would be wise to share it with your partner. It will bring you closer and help you gain more intimacy and trust. It would be better for your man to involve you in his fantasies than achieve it through your best friend. You wouldn’t want him uttering another name while you're doing it, right?