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“Nothing, nothing turns me on more than a long, sensual French kiss,” says David Bernardo, a 28-year-old banker. “When I love the way a woman kisses, I hunger to find out what else she can do.”

While slow, deep, sensual smooches are usually considered a female fantasy, seductive lip locking is key to unleashing a man’s sexual desire too. “A great kiss is at once ecstasy producing and intimate,” explains Gerard Lim, a 23-year-old website designer.

How can you become a make-out maestra so masterful he’ll be moaning for more? Expertly mouthing off isn’t just a matter of puckering up and planting a wet one. A fabulous kiss is an intricate balancing act involving tongue technique, pressure control, and moistness monitoring. Here, real guys and lip-service pros spill their best smooching secrets so you can mesmerize him when you go mouth-to-mouth.

Lip Lesson 1: Make him long for your lips.
Your first step toward a mind-blowing kiss: Establish great chemistry. “When you’re talking to a guy, if you’re dying to touch him, taste him, feel his body heat, you know you’re attracted,” says William Cane, author of The Art of Kissing: Book of Questions and Answers (St. Martin’s Press, 1999). But how can you tell if he’s blinded by your science? “Look for signs like sustained eye contact and keen interest in what you’re saying,” says Cane.

Once you know the attraction is mutual, invade his space with a tantalizing kiss-me telegram. That’s what works for Karen Liong. “I make tempting ‘innocent’ body contact with a new man so that he knows subconsciously that I want to get physical,” says the 25-year-old physical therapist. “It creates such sexual sparks that when we finally do kiss, it’s like lightning striking.”

Or if lip-licking vixen is more your style, get orally erotic with the way you eat. “I love to watch my girlfriend savor a meal,” admits Alan Ramos, a 28-year-old musician. “Watching her sensual lips and mouth relish the flavor drives me wild—I can’t wait for her to devour me in the same way.”

Lip Lesson 2: Synchronize your smooching styles.
Everyone has their pecking preferences. And as most of us already know, forcing yours on an unwitting partner can instantly make him kisstory. “Ninety per cent of guys prefer French kisses with a little roughness,” says Cane, referring to surveys he conducted to research his book. Most women, he says, prefer light, feathery kisses. So if you want a make-out session that’s mutually satisfying, you have to give in—at times—to each other’s personal tastes.

“To clue a woman in to what I want in a kiss, I’ll smooch her the way I want to be smooched back,” says Steven Laurio, a 27-year-old PR manager. Since we unconsciously mimic other people’s manners, alternate kissing your man the way you like with letting him take the lip lead.

But what if he’s a complete smooch goof? “When I first met my husband, it was like making out with a vacuum cleaner,” says Maya Young, a 25-year-old accountant.

If that’s the case with your kisser, it’s important to give him the proper peck-ed as soon as possible, according to Cheryl Cohen Greene, a sex surrogate in Berkeley, California. “It’ll save you a lot of sexual suffering and him a lot of embarrassment.” That’s exactly what Maya did to clean up her kissing klutz. “As soon as he started tongue-tackling me, I’d very sexily say, ‘Stop.’ Then I’d pause, teasing him for two seconds, and tell him, ‘I want to kiss you the way that turns me on,’” she explains. “Within a month, he was returning my kisses with finesse.”

Lip Lesson 3: Take your mouth moves to the max.
“As long as I live, I’ll never forget the way my ex kissed,” admits Marc Samaniego, a 24-year-old law student. “She’d kiss passionately all around my lips, then she’d lightly lick the inside of my lips. She was so sensuous.”

Being a gold medalist in the mouth-to-mouth event will turn any man to passion putty. “Honestly, who just wants to be good? You want to be orally outstanding,” says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist in Los Angeles. She devised the following take-his-pout-prisoner plan: First, kiss your lover’s face all over. Start out with dry, baby pecks on his eyebrows, chin, and cheeks. Then, trace the outline of your lover’s lips with the tip of your tongue. When you get to his mouth, don’t dive in; instead, slowly exert a little more pressure. Entice him by pulling back and sucking gently on his bottom lip. Finally, go in for a kiss, this time with a lot of wetness to increase the sexual excitement. “And don’t forget to employ your hands in the make-out mission by caressing his hair, face, thighs, and buttocks,” reminds Cadell. “Men absolutely love it when women take control of the kiss.”

Lip Lesson 4: Kiss his butt (and other body parts).
“I just die when my wife gives me sexy kisses all around the waistband of my briefs,” says Jun Espiritu, a 29-year-old architect. “Nothing gets me hotter or erect faster. I love it when she tugs my briefs and jeans and heads south.”

Men like to be kisses top-to-bottom, side-to-side. So go ahead and explore his whole body, experimenting with pressure, wetness, and tongue techniques. “I go absolutely crazy when my neck is kisses roughly,” admits Alvin Martinez, a 24-year-old production manager.

“Observe his responses to see what he likes most,” says sex surrogate Cohen Greene. “If he stiffens up or seems ticklish when you’re kissing a certain spot, move on. To each his own erotic zone.”

“I’m a belly button boy,” confesses Neil Ojeda, a 25-year-old artist. “I get mega-turned on when my girlfriend gives me wet kisses around my navel with a little tongue right in the button.”

But if you’re not sure where to start your ecstatic expedition, begin with Cohen Greene’s round-his-world kiss: Gently flip his nipples with your tongue and kiss down his body into his pubic zone. Nuzzle your nose in his genitals, then kiss the inside of his thighs. Then, work your way up to his penis, and kiss it with pressure. Move back to his inner thighs, voyage down his legs.

Just don’t be surprised if, in response to your global warming, he sends you to a totally uncharted sexual stratosphere.