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Gia Recio, Contributor

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April 03, 2010

Love beyond Borders: The Couple’s Guide to Long-Distance Relationships

Missing your love from miles away? Female Network offers you these tips to help you and your cross-country partner strengthen the spark in your relationship. By Gia Recio

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Lourdes Espanol Apr 03 2010 @ 09:26am Report Abuse

All it takes is commitment to make the relationship work and plenty of time online.
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marchineness09 Apr 05 2010 @ 01:04am Report Abuse

It is still much better for two people to be able to see each other actually than be apart for so long. Individuals don't grow much as couples when they are apart even if they claim they already know each other.
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adellekristine Apr 05 2010 @ 03:26am Report Abuse

i used to shun the idea of an LDR but now that there is a big possibility that i will be part of one, i need all the help i can get because i desperately want to make this work. :)
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pinkpie Apr 05 2010 @ 08:56pm Report Abuse

This is really hard. It needs a lot of patience and love.
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mary Apr 05 2010 @ 10:42pm Report Abuse

I used to have a long-distance love affair but it didn't work. Nambabae siya, nanlalake ako, I was 16 years old back then, same age kami.
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Bagel Apr 06 2010 @ 09:27am Report Abuse

I honestly don't know if I will be able to survive a long distance relationship. I think it is better that your partner is actually with you while you are discovering yourself.
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zyramae_12 Apr 06 2010 @ 09:38am Report Abuse

In a long Distance relationship, faithfulness and trust is very important, especially the trust because if you trust your partner, jealousy and other suspicious thoughts won't come up
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Joie Apr 06 2010 @ 11:05am Report Abuse

I think long distance relationship is difficult for those whose language of love is through touch,time and service.
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gandangAUH Apr 06 2010 @ 09:31pm Report Abuse

i agree with Bagel. i myself had a very bad experience in having LDR. i had discovered my husband was sms-ing others (ladies of course), when he went home to visit me since i delivered our first born. we were apart only for 5 months!
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Cathrina Myla Lim Apr 07 2010 @ 09:44am Report Abuse

I really admire those who are in a long distance relationship. It's like the hardest thing to do! I've never been in one so I really don't know but thinking about it, it already breaks my heart. Thanks for this article, my best friend is in an LDR. This will help her. Thanks very much!
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ria villareal Apr 07 2010 @ 11:40pm Report Abuse

i had been in the same situation and it did not work out. i guess it really depends on how committed both parties to each other.
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shey Apr 10 2010 @ 01:58am Report Abuse

i am into long distance relationship for 7 years and the only secret to make the relationship work is "TRUST" aside from the love that u have for each other.
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dette Apr 12 2010 @ 11:50am Report Abuse

i came from a 5 yr long distance relationship..and its really not easy...u just have to have that trust, understanding and open communication..be extra sweet and mindful of any occasion...its exciting yet frustrating a lot of times..
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samlauren Apr 14 2010 @ 11:42pm Report Abuse

helo guys.. its really hard 2 be in LDR. my partner is away 4 almost 2 yrs. before he get out of dis country I totally believed that he will NO NO to cheating, but this time there"s this woman's instinct that im feeling, with some evidences.. its really hard,, thanks 4 this network so i could talk to woman's out there for advises.. thanks guys..
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edna ruiz Apr 15 2010 @ 10:20pm Report Abuse

im related to it kz mgkalayo kmi ng hubby ko at sobrang patience at trust tlaga ang dapat na iinvest pra prating ok..
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anggeh Apr 22 2010 @ 03:24pm Report Abuse

never had a LDR before. i admire those who are in it and still in love with each other as if there's no distance between. :)
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honeypadz08 Apr 23 2010 @ 11:41am Report Abuse

others says long distance relationship is not effective for lovers,,,i should say IT'S DEPEND! me and my boyfriend is million miles away.. he is at KSA Riyadh and Im here in the Philippines, yet our relationship become much more stronger than before..constant communication, understanding and patience is the key guyz,,
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january Apr 28 2010 @ 10:11pm Report Abuse

Find time to communicate more often.
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mfbigalbal May 28 2010 @ 08:15pm Report Abuse

i don't believe in long distance relationship
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EJ Jun 02 2010 @ 08:43pm Report Abuse

Im in a pseudo LDR for almost 4 yrs now. Pseudo kasi pareho lang naman kaming andito sa Pinas, Luzon, NCR. We hardly see each other, almost once a year. Yes, ganun katindi! :)

But its true, love, commitment, faith (to Him and to him) and honesty will keep you together. Though there are boundaries and definitely bumps on the road, its up to the couple to make it work. And we do. I just pray that we do keep it until the Lord wills it. ;)
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rei_ricci Jun 07 2010 @ 12:15pm Report Abuse

my family migrated in canada and i had a bf since college for almost 6 yrs now.we're in an ldr for 9 mos and it's hard.but trust,honesty and communication is important.we're trying our best for our relationship.we also have a blog where we put all the things that happened to us that we're not able to talk about just in case we're pretty busy. sometimes there are surprise posts which would make us laugh like pictures. :)
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mhelglen Jul 05 2010 @ 07:59am Report Abuse

me and my hubby always find time everyday to have at chat and i wait for him at night so we can have a video calls.it helps us a lot to stay connected, it makes our distance shorter and it really became a part of our everyday routine from waking up in the morning and before sleeping at night.
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graaciah Apr 27 2011 @ 08:26am Report Abuse

8 years ago ive been in this situation, ldr..now im taking risk again because happiness is a matter of choice and i still believed that every man is totally different from each other. =)
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darling Jun 24 2011 @ 11:35pm Report Abuse

LDR is really very hard for a couple especially those who were just starting their relationship as lovers, like me and my bf.communication and trust is the best foundation.
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Sade Jul 27 2011 @ 05:50am Report Abuse

It can be tough sometimes, but with trust, understanding, and determination, you can make a LDR work! I'm in one right now, and my bf and I are both trying our best to make things work. One thing I find to be difficult though is conversation - it gets boring at times when we run out of topics to discuss.
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Lyn Sep 19 2011 @ 11:11pm Report Abuse

Wala talaga kasiguruhan ang long distance affair kahit na puno ka ng love at patience, Kung manloloko ang partner mo balewala ang effort mo.......
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Liza Mae Feb 08 2012 @ 02:28pm Report Abuse

“Ask permission before going out."

I don't agree with this for it is kind of controlling, long distance relationship or not. Plus we are in separate time zones (13 hours), I can not wait to get his permission.

Other than that, this article was pretty good and long distance relationships difficult but you need persistance, perseverance, and positive outlooks.

My take on "How to make a long distance relationship work"

http://www.lizamae.com/entry/431/how-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/