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When it comes to making you squirm with satisfaction, any man who considers himself a carnal connoisseur knows it’s crucial to tease and tantalize you from head to toe. So how come when it’s our turn to do the pleasing, we direct most of our erotic energy below the belt? Sure, he gets off. But you miss the chance to uncover all the secret erogenous zones throughout his body—and boost his pleasure. To help you break free from mattress monotony, Cosmo has drawn up the ultimate guide to a guy’s lusty landscape. Read on, and you’ll become the master of your man’s domain (and leave him groveling gratefully by your bedside).

1. His Eyes
“A man’s eyelids are a prime place to lavish attention because they’re packed with easily aroused nerve endings,” explains William Cane, author of The Art of Kissing (St. Martin’s Press, 1995). “Also, guys aren’t used to this sexy sensation, so he’ll be caught off guard.”

One male mush maneuver: Instead of laying on a typical lip lock, touch the tip of your nose to his lashes. Next, brush the warm, wet inside of your lower lip against his eyelids. “The softness of your inner lip against the delicate skin will spark an amazing feeling,” says Cane. Finish by gently sweeping your lower lip against his eyelid, nibbling his mouth, then heading back to his other lid for more lip play. “A series of soft kisses will prep him for even more passionate moves to come,” says Cane.

2. His Ears
These often-overlooked ecstasy entrances are a way more excitable zone on your man’s topography than they are on yours, says Lou Paget, sex educator and author of How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure (Broadway Books, 2000). “Women don’t understand how crazed with desire a man can get after a minimum of oral action here,” says Paget.

Make the most of this randy region by gently poking the wet tip of your tongue into his ear and wiggling it around the inside edges. But don’t ignore his earlobes or the outer ridges. Alternating between inside wiggles and outside nibbles is sure to rev his erotic engine. Tease-him tip: Gently breathe hot air behind his ear. “Your guy will be so surprised by how good this feels, he’ll beg you to do it over and over,” Cane says.

3. His Neck
You know how lingering neck pecks make you purr with pleasure? Well, these won’t work as well with your man; guys tend to crave stronger, more forceful mouth moves. “In general, men have thicker skin than women—especially on their necks,” says Paget. “You’ll need a firmer touch to arouse your guy.”

Rather than kissing him softly, use your whole mouth to suck on his skin. Or alternate sucking with gently biting a path up and down his neck. (Just be careful not to use too much pressure—you don’t want to leave a love mark.) “Guys interpret aggressive mouth moves as a sign that you’re turned on, so the more pressure you use, the more excited he’ll think you are,” says Cane. And knowing that you’re turned on is a big-time libido booster for him.

4. His Palms
The 40,000 nerve endings in each of his palms are just waiting to be tickled, teased, and tantalized. One handy move: “Lightly scratch small circles into his open palm using one or two fingernails,” suggests Paget. Then gradually widen the circles so you’re delicately tracing the outer edges of his palm as well. Finally, run the pads of your fingertips up and down his outstretched fingers.

Extra palm play: Cup his hand against your mouth and flick your tongue quickly in and out of the center of his palm. “It’s an unusual yet exciting sensation,” says Susan Crain Bakos, author of Still Sexy (St. Martin’s Press, 1999). Feeling your wet tongue on his outstretched hand will make him think that you might be planning to flick him down below the same way.

5. His Nipples
You probably don’t give your main man’s nipples nearly the same attention as he pays to yours. But his headlights are excitable erogenous zones. Make them stand at attention with this manipulation move: While lavishing kisses up and down his chest, tweak his nipples between your fingertips. “Remember, men enjoy more pressure than you do, so don’t be afraid to be a little more forceful,” Paget says.

As your sweetie becomes more and more turned on, suck each nipple for a minute and blow on the moist surface gently. The alternating hot and cold sensations will send him to sexual seventh heaven, Bakos explains. “His nipples will tingle and get extremely hard, setting off a chain reaction through the rest of his body,” Bakos says.

6. His Treasure Trail
The area between his belly button and pubic bone is packed with pleasure points. To arouse them all, trace a vertical line from his navel down to where his pubic hair beings. “Massaging this area encourages blood flow to his entire pelvic region, which enhances his erection,” says Paget. You can also use your tongue to lap, lick, or nibble along this divine divide.

Changing directions will also send him into orgasmic overdrive. Trace a horizontal line across his abdomen from one hip to another. Imagine that there are 10 dots along this line, five on each side of his navel spaced equal distance apart. Gently rub each point for three to five seconds. Then retrace your path by teasing each spot with your tongue.

7. The Head of His Penis
Before you manhandle his member, beware—it’s so sensitive, you have to use a lot of TLC. Form a snug fist around the base of his shaft (slathering on massage oil first makes this maneuver slicker and easier). Then glide your hand up his penis, gripping it firmly. “Once you reach the crown, twist your wrist and open your hand so the flattest part of your palm is resting on the head,” says Paget.

Caress the head—alternating back and forth and circular motions—for just a few moments. Then grip your palm around the head and continue down the shaft with closed fingers. Repeating this wrist-twist trick while upping your speed will take him to the brink of incredible climax (or push him over the precipice).

8. His Perineum
This is the passion patch between his scrotum and his anus. His prostate gland—the behind-the-scenes pleasure of a guy’s body—is located deep under the skin. Playing with this external G-spot guarantees your guy’s orgasm goes from so-so to earth-shattering.

Here’s a two-second trick that will take him to the erotic edge. Press your first two fingers firmly into the sensitive skin in front of his scrotum for one second, then release for one second. Do this press-and-release move several times. The pressure should be firm, but make sure you don’t press too hard—you don’t want to hurt him. “Touch him this way while you’re pleasuring him orally and he’ll have the power orgasm of his life,” says Paget.

9. His Buttocks
Once he’s aroused, lightly spanking, pinching, or kneading his bum will make your guy go gaga. That’s because when a man’s turned on, his body releases feel-good chemicals called endorphins, making stinging slaps feel like pleasurable pats.

During missionary-style sex, gently tap his buttocks. Or try reaching around and giving his buns a mini massage with a firm kneading motion. Another cheek-pleasing check point: Run your nails along his backside and tickle the spot where his back and butt meet. “Men like ample pressure, so use the fingers of both hands to press into him as he’s thrusting,” suggests Bakos. “The unexpected erotic sensation will add additional oomph to his already supercharged orgasm.”

10. The Crease in His Thigh
Admit it: You probably never thought to linger around these body border zones. But the fleshy folds between his torso and legs qualify as his most covert hot spot. Press your thumbs delicately into one crease, massaging your way from his hip to his inner thigh. Then give his lust level an extra lift by continuing to caress him here while kissing the long-ignored insides of his thighs.

Another sexy step: Run your first three fingers down the crevice in the direction of his penis until they touch the underside of his testicles. Pause to press his perineum gently a few times, then sweep your fingers up the other crease. Apply pressure—you want to tantalize him, not tickle him. “This move is a sexy build up to oral sex,” says Paget.