Just when you thought things were going great between you and your guy (you can even imagine spending your life with him), he leaves you, just like that. It may be for another woman or he simply fell out of love. And here you are, wondering what you did wrong, obsessing about how to get him back, and just desperately wishing you’d be happy again.
In case you didn’t know, there is life after a breakup. A great one, at that. All it takes is the will to move forward and knowledge of ways to do that it in the healthiest time and manner possible. Pick up a few pointers from this breakup survival guide from Cosmopolitan Philippines and iVillage.com.
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Give yourself time to wallow in pain, then move on and think rationally about the situation. “You do need to confront it and feel the emotions, but you need to put a cap on it as well,” says New York psychologist Dale Atkins, author of Sanity Savers: Tips For Women To Live A Balanced Life, in last month’s issue of Cosmopolitan. Find a balance between wallowing in pain and reflecting on what actually happened. Limit crying time to 8PM to 9PM for instance, but after that, you must stop and analyze factors that led to the breakup in the first place, so you can avoid them.
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it's really very hard to move on but we have to. in my situation, my boyfriend for more than 5 years dumped me without explaining what really went wrong. it's very painful especially that he's also my first boyfriend. i'm really devastated. maybe it's just too hard because this is the first breakup I've experienced.
January 20, 2009 at 9:02 pm