It is crystal clear to some people when the time has come to let go of an unhealthy relationship. Unfortunately for a lot of women, not only do they not know when to get out of one, they also find it hard to tell if their man is already being abusive.
As with any problem, the first step really is in recognizing and acknowledging it. According to WomanSavers.com, abusive relationships are characterized by “control games, violence, jealousy, and withholding sex and emotional contact.” These are things you unfortunately cannot know immediately about a man you are dating. But the moment he begins to show signs of being abusive, it’s time to reassess your relationship or leave.
Among the signs listed by WomanSavers.com are control, superiority, manipulation, drastic mood swings, inconsistent words and actions, disrespect, and a history of abusing women or being abused himself.
You must also realize that there are, in fact, four different types of abuse, according to Psychology.Suite101.com. They are neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse, and emotional abuse. Of the four, emotional abuse is the most difficult to recognize, as it is sometimes mistaken for intense love. Hence, you must heed warning signs like feeling depressed, anxious, and unhappy in your relationship, being scared about upsetting your partner, and looking down on yourself when you’re together.
Identifying the signs is one thing, but deciding to get out of the relationship is an entirely different matter. Some women are prevented from leaving not just by potentially violent or suicidal partners, but also by their own lack of confidence and sense of security. Here is a survival guide for abusive relationships from ezinearticles.com, Country-Couples.co.uk, and MayoClinic.com.
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Get to know the mind of an abuser and realize it's not your fault.
Read as much as you can about abusive men. Become strong mentally and understand why you are being treated this way. You will recognize that it's not your fault, and none of the terrible things he says about you is true. Anyone can be a victim of abuse, but it is your choice to rise above this situation.
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