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You see, it doesn’t just happen in movies, to the likes of Julia Roberts or Carrie’s Mr. Big. Jennifer Wilbanks was just a regular bride-to-be, scheduled to tie the knot in Georgia in 2005. But due to a massive case of wedding jitters, she disappeared on the day of her wedding, a stunt that earned her the notorious nickname “Runaway Bride.” Another unfortunate case of cold feet involves Tatsuhiko Kawata of Japan, a married man who was set to wed his mistress. He changed his mind at the last minute, and set the venue on fire to make sure the wedding never took place.
It’s common for soon-to-wed couples to feel an onset nerves as the wedding day approaches, but those who fail to keep them under control end up having these regrettable tales. So how do you deal with wedding jitters?
Find out if it’s cold feet or just plain old stress. Tres Sugar points out that planning an elaborate wedding is no easy task, so brides should be careful not to mistake their stress for cold feet. To make your load lighter, get your family and friends to help you out.
Talk it out. Discuss your pre-wedding nerves with your partner, and you might even come out of the conversation stronger as a couple. If you’re worried that your confession will hurt him, talk to a close friend or family member, preferably one who is married, to help you gain perspective. If you’d prefer not to share your woes with anyone, write your thoughts in a journal instead.
Take a break. Get away from the hectic preparations, even for a while. Relax by spending time alone, bonding with your fiancé, or taking a vacation.
Focus on the good stuff. This article encourages you to identify what you love about your partner and why you think your relationship will last.
Keep the romance alive. All that wedding hoopla may have been putting a stress on your union. As this article points out, spending quality time will sustain the thrill between you and your future husband.