A lot of women fake orgasm. Why? One reason is they want to send the message, “I love you baby, you don’t suck in bed.” Another is to get it done and over with. Or maybe it’s simply because they don’t really know what a real orgasm is in the first place. I wish all men and women are aware of the changes their bodies go through during orgasm; yet couples often shy away from discussing such topics. That is why I would like this to be a soft way of educating you both about orgasm.
When you are about to reach orgasm, muscles tighten all over your body. Your breast and areola enlarge, your nipples are engorged, and your vagina widens from a potential space to an actual space. During my lectures, I usually joke that you can solve the Rubik’s cube inside once the girl is really randy.
Basically everything becomes pronounced except the clitoris. Instead of swelling continually, it begins to retract under the clitoral hood. This is a sign that orgasm is imminent for most women, as long as stimulation continues. That’s why your man should never stop stimulating you down there, especially when the clit is starting to hide. Moreover, it is never bad to touch your clit during sex. Not only will it stimulate you, but you will also know your own bodily changes during the sexual act. You may also ask your man to stroke you so he will feel the changes himself.
Let your man read this part: The man should pay attention to the woman’s body language and physiological changes more closely than to his ego or member when making love. When a woman moans at the top of her lungs, it does not mean that she absolutely came. If the gal’s face is seductive and attractive while purring, there is a great probability she’s faking it; in real orgasm, a woman’s facial expression appears to that of being confused or in pain. Moreover, her words should be “wait,” “enough,” “oh my god,” “sh*t,” and the like, instead of “Don’t stop,” said in a sexy voice. “Don’t stop” is like something out of a porn flick and is meant as an ego-booster. “Wait” and “enough” are honest expressions since orgasm for her feels like she is on the verge of passing out or even dying, thus there’s too much fear building up.
She may also complain of having the urge to pee, especially when she’s about to female ejaculate. And then comes the big implosion that lasts from three to 15 seconds; her body shivers, followed by a series of more three-second-long little cum. After the action, one more indicator that she really came is the scent of the fluid she released. The man may want to insert his fourth and third finger and gently swab the vaginal wall. This may sound weird but the female cum smells a little sweet on a final note. The female’s lubricant smells differently from her cum. While it is generally influenced by her diet, the final kick smells sweet or fruity.
Always remember that the clit is the key sensual receptor for climax (though it’s true that the entire body is somewhat involved). Thus, without engaging the clitoris directly or indirectly, there can be no prospect of orgasm. Usually, men intend to thrust deeply, thinking that the deeper the penis, the more orgasmic it would be for females. Yes, it would be pleasurable, but ironically, the deeper the penetration, the fewer the sensual receptors there are. The clit must then be stimulated by the man directly using his tongue or finger or indirectly by pushing and rubbing his pubic area against the clit as he thrusts.
Following these tips can truly help you achieve orgasm. If your man knows how, he will be able to please you, his queen. And if you must guide your man, don’t hesitate to do so.
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