Sure, attention from a suitor can be flattering but you’re just not seeing yourself committed to him.
Be honest and direct to him; leave no room for misinterpretation, because apparently, guys tend to misread a friendly gesture. Here are some tips to reject a guy BUT NOT break his heart:
1) Apologize if you've given him the wrong impression or led him on in any way. Let him know that you appreciate the attention but you aren’t available for a romantic relationship yet.
2) He should not feel like trash at your rejection. Instead of giving out personal comments about him, tell him you’ve enjoyed meeting him BUT you’re just not interested in seeing anyone right now. Explain that you're busy with work, school, or extracurricular activities and that you won't have time to talk.
3) If he still pursues you, display subtle clues. If you’re both employed in the same company and work in the same department, allow him to overhear you tell a colleague about a new guy you met or a rekindling romance with your ex. If he’s in your social circle, make sure he sees you flirting with another guy.
4) When all else fails, set him up with an acquaintance or a friend. Assure him he would probably match with someone else instead of you.
If he persists in asking you out, just be firm and clear. Sooner or later, you'll get the message across.
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Add CommentKrynn77
So that's how women think.... truthfully is better you say it flat out... gives him the chance to move on earlier.... you say those 1-3 comments when you are uncertian of what you feel for certain person that keeps him hovering around you.... till you are certain what you really want to do... 1-3 makes him hover around and waits for an opportunity he thinks apt for you to fall for him.. Be honest, yet polite it's always better to say you feel you got a friend in him and you don't feel anything else Based on my experience as a persistent suitor I would still move heaven and earth to win your heart if i hear those words 1-3 from a girl i am courting. Use 1-3 instead as a test of sincerity not as a method of rejection.... been there done that, guys that give up just on 1-3 either have a really tiny sense of confidence or just testing the waters with you Advise number four is the best thing I think almost all guys would get the message if you do that the only thing is just be sure you won't live to regret what you have done like Julia Roberts on my Best Friends Wedding type or Don't set up a guy who isn't really worthy of being set up just to keep him off your tail After reading the article again.... I think the advise from 1-3 is really apt for non filipino suitors or those who in to the western type of thinking really not your typical filipino suitor
May 9, 2008 at 5:38 pm