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Admit it: we swoon when we receive text messages from a guy we like—anything from “How are you, pretty?” to “You looked gorgeous last night!” followed by “Can I see you again this weekend?” But did you know that texting is actually not good for your dating situation—and the potential relationship you could have with this guy?

Yes, August in FemaleNetwork.com is Budget Month, which draws to a close today. But we never meant that you should let the guy you are dating scrimp on money, time, and effort on you, especially when it comes to something as vital as communication. Besides, wouldn’t it be more kilig if he actually calls you instead of simply sending you all these messages (sometimes in cryptic text language)?

This month’s issue of Cosmopolitan Philippines tells us a lot about what’s going on in a man’s head—and how to handle them expertly and get them to treat you the way you deserve. Among the many interesting tips and stories found in the issue are the following pitfalls of texting in dating and how to deal with a man when he relies too much on this to communicate with you.

Pitfall: There is great risk of misinterpretation or miscommunication.
How to handle: Encourage him to call you more by not replying to his texts but answering his calls promptly.

Pitfall: It allows him to slack off by sending you messages asking you to plan the date and by staying a safe distance from possible rejection.
How to handle: Limit this by replying with “Call me later,” suggests Hilarie Cash, PhD, co-founder of Internet/Computer Addiction Services in Washington.

Pitfall: It allows him to avoid intimacy and limit your interactions.
How to handle: Next time he calls, give him positive reinforcement and say, “It’s so nice to hear your voice,” suggests Cash.

Pitfall: It’s the easiest way for him to flake out on you—and disrespect you in the process.
How to handle: Tell him, “It would’ve been nice if you’d called to check in/say you couldn’t make it.” And if he still won’t call, do not reply or communicate with him again. “He’s just not that into you”—and you totally deserve a better man who is worth your cellphone load.

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