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You kiss your boyfriend goodbye and alight from his car. You are wearing his ring, promised to be together for life. But upon ascending the stairs, you see your colleague smiling at you. You smile back, because you recall the perfume he’s wearing last night when he’s kissing your body. Suddenly, someone taps you and asks how you are, and then you wipe that smile away because she’s your officemate’s girlfriend.  

Infidelity! It happens everywhere. Offices, call centers, hospitals, and even in churches. Infidelity can be affairs that are emotionally intense but are non-sexual; purely sexual involvements with no emotional bond or can include both sexual and emotional involvement.

You have to be careful. Co-workers often are required to function together, thus resulting to closeness. And if both are weak, it can develop to feelings of intimacy. Wipe out that smirk on your face! Be honest with yourself. Are you dressing up to please someone at work? Or when you are making love with your partner, are you thinking of another person?

Attractions are a fact of life when men and women work side by side. Temptations are ubiquitous and irresistible. It is inevitable that sometimes you have romantic or sexual thoughts about another person. Now, what should you do if this happens? If you are ready to hurt your present partner and switch to a new guy then respond to your officemate’s flirtations. But if you think that you can’t lose your boyfriend, then STOP before you regret.

Warning Signs:

1. Proximity. If you think you are attracted to that guy, physically pull away every time he’s trying to press his body parts against yours. Don’t give him a signal that you like it.

2. Internet temptations: Emails can be very encouraging. If you need to email that person, always have a professional tone.

3. Texting: Nowadays, this is the most common avenue of flirting. Simple words like “Good morning,” or “Have you eaten?” may lead to a more intimate conversation. Both of you may have sleepless nights because you are marathon-texting till 4AM and what’s weird, you told your boyfriend you slept early so he wouldn’t bother you.

4. Peers. Sometimes your friends just can’t stop teasing you because they can see compatibility, or you look good together. Sometimes the group itself tolerates infidelity.

Usually office affairs start from infatuation. You feel this excitement and you are addicted to the feeling. When you are out of the office, you don’t feel good and you are easily irritated with your boyfriend’s presence. Then come arguments—it goes to vicious circularity and eventually break-up. Just a word of caution, how sure are you that your officemate loves you as much as your present beau? How sure are you that this euphoria will last long? Is it worth it? If not, then forget it before you regret.