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Just as with getting a promotion or carrying off an extremely trendy, out-of-the-ordinary outfit, you can also become the good partner you want to be in the bedroom through a good amount of self-confidence. Believe that you know how to please your man and that you are the only one he has eyes for, and for sure, this self-assurance will shine through and make you truly glow with the light of desirability.

It doesn’t even mean that we go all out and suddenly turn ourselves into sex goddesses or someone who has mastered even the unimaginable sex moves. Sex is not really just about the skill, but the intensity and confidence by which we perform the act, and how much of ourselves we put into it.

But we can take a leaf or two out of a porn star’s book. Not the moves, mind you, but the attitude and tricks they have up their sleeves, which Cinderalla Was a Liar author Brenda Della Casa compiled in her article, 10 Things Good Girls Can Learn from Porn Stars. Know what they know, and no one else would have to know—except your pleased and satisfied boyfriend, after you’ve mastered these tips.

1. Show a little enthusiasm. Enjoy what feels good without reservation, and show your partner how excited you are by engaging him with your speech and movements.

2. Speak up! Communicate what you like to your partner: tell him what he does that you like best, the spot you want him to touch or something new that you would like to try.

3. Love your thighs! Stop complaining about its many flaws, and know that no matter what, he loves it when your legs are wrapped around him.

4. Know yourself. Figure out what moves work for you by touching your own body. This is the only way you can communicate it perfectly to your man.

5. Get a new bedtime script. Get comfy with the pillow talk by writing down some sexy thoughts and reading them out loud alone a few times. In bed, start small by giving him a play-by-play of the action or asking him if he likes what you’re doing to him.

6. Get a little uncomfortable. A lot of women would usually sacrifice comfort over style, and this also extends to your bedroom attire. We don’t mean you go all-out in porn star regalia, but wearing a thong under your jeans when you meet him will be a delightful surprise.

7. Fantasize! Don't judge the desires of your partner or take offense at what turns him on. As long as the boundaries of your relationship are maintained, fantasizing is a healthy aspect of sexuality.

8. Get creative with the merchandise! Always try to find out what works and what doesn’t for your man by touching him and doing new things to different parts of his body each time.

9. Be a little selfish. Self-maintenance is a high priority. Do something that makes you feel and look good regularly. Feeling like you're worth the splurge will not only boost your confidence, it will make you glow.

10. Stop doing favors. Do things you know your partner will enjoy, while asking for what he wants in return. Find out what your partner likes, and as long as you are comfortable with it, give it to him generously. The only "requirement" you should have is that he reciprocate on the same level.

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