Going furniture shopping with your man should be an exciting milestone in your relationship. After all, what could be more exhilarating than picking your first sofa together or your first real bed as a couple, right? Unfortunately, reality is a bit less picture-perfect. In fact, we could even go so far as to say that furniture shopping brings out the worst in a man and a woman: clashing design aesthetics, tight budget limitations, and a range of small but subsequent arguments. Before you know it, you’re ready to bury your man six feet under a Louis XVI sofa! To stop you from killing your relationship, we’ve come up with an easy guide for you and your man. Check it out below:
1. Agree on a budget plan.
The first thing you have to consider when buying furniture for your home is the budget. Talk about figures that you’re comfortable with, and listen to what each other has to say. Your goal is not to force your man to accept your budget (nor is it for you to be forced accept his), but for you two to meet somewhere in the middle.
2. Present your individual pegs to each other.
Trying to explain what you want for your home can be a bit difficult, so give yourself time to produce pegs. Ask him to do the same, so you’ll also have an idea of his vision. You'll never know just how much you might actually like his urbane organic style or how much he might actually agree with your industrial glamour aesthetic.
3. Reach an agreement on the design.
Now that you’ve seen each other’s ideas, see if you can come up with a coherent design for your home, based on your pegs. Introduce several elements from his design in one room and several of your ideas in another. Once you’ve agreed on several points, make sure to put everything on paper. A verbal agreement is not a done deal.
4. Settle all differences before leaving the house.
Don’t go furniture shopping if you still have important matters to discuss. You don’t want to start arguing inside the furniture store. Apart from causing an embarrassing scene, fighting in public can really hurt your relationship. Make all the important decisions before you even step out of your front door.
5. Avoid making unprecedented moves.
Don’t sneakily buy that expensive cow hide rug or that designer lamp, especially when you know how much your man would hate it. It may not seem like such a big deal to you, but it’s definitely going to look a lot like betrayal to him. After all, how is he going to trust you with the big things when he can’t even trust you with the small ones? Likewise, your man shouldn’t make an impulse buy that he knows would piss you off.
(Illustration by Sabrina Lajara)
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