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July 02, 2010

Why I Dance Like A Madwoman

In the face of tragic and untimely death, Lara serves up the best reason to run, dance, and play--to live life to the fullest.
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Me, at play! (Photo credit: Eddie Boy Escudero)

My reputation at my fave watering hole, M Café, is pretty solid. I am the “Energizer Bunny.” On Thursdays or Fridays at M (or at any spot for that matter that plays absolutely fab dance music), you’ll find me in front of the DJ booth, dancing with abandon. Do I care what other people think? Obviously not.

On June 30, my friend and distant cousin, Fran Ribaño, passed away. She was only 44 years old.

The news last Sunday evening that Fran lay comatose at Asian Hospital came as a shock since I had just seen her less than 24 hours ago, alive, beautiful, resplendent in white, and her usual bubbly self at a theme party the night before. Fran had been nursing a bad knee after a torn ACL (anterior cruciate ligament) and I knew she was taking it easy with late nights out. So it was a wonderful surprise seeing her with friends on the dance floor.

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The effervescent Fran Ribano (Photo credit: Paolo Navarra)

The cause of her death says her family, was a brain aneurysm that ruptured. The Mayo Clinic website defines a brain aneurysm as “a ballooning blood vessel in the brain.” When this swollen blood vessel leaks or ruptures, it leads to bleeding in the brain and causes a stroke. This can be fatal.

A year and a half ago, another blazingly wonderful woman and friend, singer Anabel Bosch, also succumbed to a brain aneurysm. She was just 32.

Brain aneurysms are insidious. A brain aneurysm “doesn’t rupture, create health problems, or cause symptoms,” says the Mayo Clinic. You only find out it’s there when you get tested for other medical conditions, or, at the exact moment it unfortunately bursts. It’s kind of like an ex from a bad breakup that you haven’t seen in a while who pops up just as your life is going smoothly.

Your predisposition to brain aneurysms is determined by the following:

Family history. You’re twice as likely to develop an aneurysm if someone in your family has it. Oh great, that happens to be me. My dad died in 1996 from a brain aneurysm. He slipped into a coma after an operation to clip the aneurysm (to ease the pressure) and died on New Year’s Day.

Gender. Dig this: “Women are twice as likely to develop a brain aneurysm or to suffer a subarachnoid hemorrhage as men,” says the Mayo Clinic. A subarachnoid hemorrhage is bleeding from the ruptured aneurysm that occurs in the space between the brain and the brain tissues.

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Anabel, the songbird. (Photo credit: Erving Go)

Hypertension. If you suffer from high blood pressure, the risk of suffering a subarachnoid hemorrhage is greater. “You must treat your hypertension because it is high blood pressure that makes aneurysm rupture,” Carlos Francis Santiago, M.D., an endovascular neurosurgeon at the Makati Medical Center tells the Manila Bulletin.

Smoking. Aman Patel, M.D., director of the endovascular neurosurgery program at Mount Sinai Medical Center in New York City has this to say: “If you have a known aneurysm, you have a higher risk of rupture if you smoke.”

 

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Me, still at play! (Photo credit: Ocs Alvarez)

So I am not going to be all doom and gloom here. Just because I’ve found out I have a genetic predisposition to aneurysms doesn’t mean I can’t do anything about it. In keeping with the title of my blog which is “You Can Do This,” you can do something to reduce your chances of that darn blood vessel causing your friends and family grief at your unexpected demise.

1) Be aware of the symptoms. When an aneurysm is still intact, it exerts pressure on areas in the brain. Watch out for severe headaches, blurred vision, changes in speech, and neck pain. When an aneurysm has ruptured, the signs leave you in no doubt. These are again, a sudden severe headache, neck pain, nausea and vomiting, sensitivity to light, fainting or loss of consciousness, seizures.

2) Get tested. If you’ve mentally ticked “Yes” to all risk factors I mentioned above, see your family doctor and get yourself tested for a brain aneurysm via a Computed Tomography Angiogram (CTA) scan, which evaluates the state of your blood vessels; and a Magnetic Resonance Angiography (MRA). The results of these will help your doctor determine what steps need to be taken next if you do have an aneurysm. These are offered at Makati Medical City and The Medical City.

3) Stop smoking. Has anyone seen any positive health benefit or medical research extolling this habit… Duh. I didn’t think so.
       
4) Relax, relax, relax. Avoid or lessen the sources of stress that lead to high blood pressure.

I won’t go into the reasons that triggered the brain aneurysms of Fran and Anabel. Nor am I walking around with a cloud over my head thinking I may probably have a ticking time bomb in my own brain because of my family history.

Though I miss Anabel and Fran and look forward to the day I dance again with them in heaven, these two beautiful lives cut short have reminded me of two things: One, to take good care of myself, whether it’s through exercise or proper nutrition. What I say next might surprise you: If I exercise, it’s not because I want to live longer—which leads me to my next life lesson: Seize the moment. When I run, swim, bike, dance, or even write this blog, it’s a celebration of my body and my mind being intact and functional at this very moment. I cannot ask for more. I am already blessed. I live life fully, right here, right now. And that’s why I dance like a madwoman.


July 5, 2010

Like a lightning bolt from out of the blue, I realized again why dancing as a metaphor for life is such a strong image: Rewind to December 15, 1995. The morning of the day Dad suffered a stroke that was a harbinger of his brain aneurysm, we were all at the breakfast table, my twin sister and I, my two brothers, and my mom. Dad and Mom just came from a Christmas party the night before and Dad was all excited about a new dance they learned—the Macarena. To groans of “Daaaaaadddd! Not now!” he popped in the Los del Rio CD and wheedled us groggy-eyed kids into getting up and following him as he did the slap-your-arms-and-wiggle-your-butt routine. Little did we know that was the last we would see of him alive and vibrant. By evening of that day, he was in the Intensive Care Unit of Makati Medical Center, hooked up to tubes. That bittersweet memory of him and Macarena is why I dance like a madwoman.  I embrace all that I inherited from him—my love for dancing, my confidence, my hairy arms and bushy eyebrows, the bossy attitude, and yes, the predisposition to aneurysms. Thank you for all your wonderful words. I’m glad this touched you in some way. Vamos a bailar!


100702_womens_health_agot.jpg—Lara Parpan is the editor-in-chief of Women’s Health. The July issue is out on newsstands right now.

 

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  • sheila Jul 02 2010 @ 06:35pm Report Abuse
       
    Yeah, girl! Go mad woman! :)
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  • Scho Jul 02 2010 @ 08:52pm Report Abuse
       
    Well said! Now let's go LIVE it up!
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  • Rina Az Jul 02 2010 @ 09:01pm Report Abuse
       
    Couldn't agree with you more Lars. Seize the moment. Go for it talaga! Life is too short to waste it.
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  • PM Jul 02 2010 @ 10:05pm Report Abuse
       
    I have a friend who survived an aneurysm while travelling in Asia. He lives like a mad man--always seizing the moment!!!
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  • Dina Merino-Tillman Jul 03 2010 @ 01:24am Report Abuse
       
    Thanks for posting Lara. I was a good friend of Fran too. Very good insight, I am with you on taking good care of yourself and looking forward to that day when you dance with Fran and Anabel in heaven.
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  • Frederika Taduran Villacarlos Jul 03 2010 @ 07:16am Report Abuse
       
    Hi Lara, you and I must be distant cousins as well. Fran is my first cousin on the Taduran side. Now that I'm 40, I too, am trying to live life more fully than I've had in the past. Thanks for sharing this. -- Peach
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  • SallyLyn G. Estrella Jul 03 2010 @ 09:10am Report Abuse
       
    What a great write-up! So informative and insightful! I completely agree with U, MS.LARA...we have to learn how to TAKE CARE OF OURSELF (MORE). Gotta take care of our health and as they say, "live each day as if it were our last"... Let us be happy! Let us spend more time with our loved ones! Let us seize the moment! CARPE DEIM! :-)
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  • sheila margarito Jul 03 2010 @ 09:48am Report Abuse
       
    very well said!!
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  • rodawin Jul 03 2010 @ 03:51pm Report Abuse
       
    what a nice article..thanks for sharing. This is to inform us to have a healthy living style to live life to the fullest!
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  • BoyetSison Jul 03 2010 @ 05:27pm Report Abuse
       
    thank for this wonderful tribute to our friends dear...i'm pretty sure they are smiling and singing and dancing in that big party up there !!!
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  • Juliet Jul 04 2010 @ 12:28pm Report Abuse
       
    Lara, thanks for this article. It seems to me a lot of our friends are being downed by aneurysm. I don't know if you've met DJ Tuck, the founder of Big Fish. He was complaining of back pains for some months and IGNORED IT.



    Fran, on the other hand, never knew she had high blood pressure.



    It is really sad when people so vibrant and at their prime are suddenly taken away from us. So, love your family and friends TODAY, like there is no tomorrow.



    I, too, dance like a madwoman, for dancing is an expression and celebration of life. And I will be sad on the day when we couldn't dance anymore. ;-)
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  • Ida Jul 05 2010 @ 03:49pm Report Abuse
       
    Thanks for the article... It helps put some sense into the unexpected losses everyone has experienced. And yes, this is the time to LIVE, albeit the sensibler way.
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  • Kathy C Jul 05 2010 @ 06:27pm Report Abuse
       
    beautiful article. i shared it with some friends as well. and i love it that living life "in abandon" should still be done responsibly. be healthy, don't stress, have a positive outlook ... then dance like a madwoman. haven't had the chance to dance like that in a long time... so i'll just run =) cheers!!
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  • z Jul 06 2010 @ 04:41pm Report Abuse
       
    i actually saw you at F1 rocks dancing like a mad woman :) thank you for the reminder that we are all blessed and must seize every moment possible!
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  • Aina Lacson Jul 06 2010 @ 06:43pm Report Abuse
       
    Thanks for posting Lars. You've always danced till you dripped sweat all over during our Antioch days and since then I've admired you for it (among other things). Basti's mom just died of an aneurysm in January. Perspectives have really changed since then. Thanks for the reminder.
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  • Cinty Jul 06 2010 @ 10:34pm Report Abuse
       
    LIVE everyday as if it were your last and CELEBRATE the beauty and blessings abound.

    Yesterday, my good friend in HK passed away following a brave a courageous battle with cancer. She was 42.

    I am constantly reminded that our lives are only borrowed. I love you , Lara dearest!:)
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  • mari Jul 08 2010 @ 01:08pm Report Abuse
       
    many thanks for sharing! my mom and my bff survived brain aneursym miraculously! praise and thank God!!!
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  • Lara Parpan Jul 19 2010 @ 08:18am Report Abuse
       
    @Z: You saw me at F1 Rocks ? Ha ha! Hope I didn't step on your toes! Thanks for reading this, Z!
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  • T Nov 23 2010 @ 02:55pm Report Abuse
       
    Hello Lara,

    I enjoyed reading your post as I had a sister who succumbed to complications of a brain aneurysm in 2005 at the age of 43. Her case was likewise a ruptured aneurysm which was clipped and she lived for about a year till the complications happened. It was a very painful experience which left a void in our family. I guess the experience and the depth of emotion can only be understood by those who have lost a loved one. Thanks for reminding me that life is to be LIVED and ENJOYED to the hilt!
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  • Live life to the fullest Feb 28 2011 @ 01:32pm Report Abuse
       
    Good work ..



    live life to the fullest
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