Paano ba natin mahuhuli si Mister na may kabit?
One school of thought is yung sinabi ni sis aquacharly, dadating at dadating ang ebidensya. For me, it came as a dream.
But does not hurt to always be cautious, pero huwag naman over. Kasi mamaya sya ang pumatay sa relationship nyo sa sobrang suspicious mo.
Sakin naman kasi na experience ko na iyan, it was all very traumatic. Hindi ko nga kasi ine expect. Then when the time came, hindi ko alam ang gagawin ko. Kaya I am just sharing what I should have done.
Pag nahuli mo na, never ever ever ever confront him unprepared. Pero dahil sa bugso ng emotions, this is very hard to do. When I say prepared -
1. prepared ka dapat na - if i-deny nya, may proof ka na hindi sya makakahindi.
2. prepared ka rin to walk out anytime kasi kung umamin sya at sinabi nya na mahal nya ang kabit nya - ano ang gagawin mo?
3. prepared ka rin dapat to make the marriage work and forgive him - kung umamin at nagrepent.
Because of what happened to me and what I am also seeing now, I just cannot trust men. And for me, kahit ano pa sabihin ng wife na mahal na mahal sya ng guy, one way or another, I always believe na 99% of the guys have been unfaithful somehow - this is in the Philippine context ha. So kung hindi pa nangyayari sa marriage nyo, huwag mo hayaang mangyari and try to do everything to avoid it. The problem in the society kasi is there - LDRs, willing mistresses or single/married women willing to have extra marital affairs without commitment, men feeding their friend's ego by encouraging them and telling stories na they have gotten away with it, and simply there are the people who just stand there and watch and cheer. Not to mention how our government and the famous people (government officials and actors/actresses) show such bad examples. The laws they pass simply condone such behaviors.