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Author Topic: Boyfriends/Husbands who let their Girlfriends/Wives keep their salary  (Read 1246 times)

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Hi mga sis! I would just like to ask if better ba na ladies ang mag manage ng pera niyo even if you guys are not married yet? Ako kasi humahawak ng money ni bf then pinag aaral niya ako ngayon. Kaso lang naguguilty ako na walang ipon pero naintindihan naman niya.
So majority ba ladies talaga ang manager? :)
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Re: Boyfriends/Husbands who let their Girlfriends/Wives keep their salary
« Reply #1 on: November 15, 2012, 01:26:50 am »
Hello girl, matagal na kayo? Almost 3 years na kami pero ni kung magkano sweldo namin di naman dinidisclose at dinidiscuss madalas. Hehe.

Nag uutangan kami, but that's it.

Kung ako kasi, awkward lang. Parang violating boundaries na. May mga kilala nga akong mag asawa na hindi fully merged ang finances.

Pero siguro iba naman in your case. Kung si bf mo naman ang may gusto nang ganon. :)

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Re: Boyfriends/Husbands who let their Girlfriends/Wives keep their salary
« Reply #2 on: November 15, 2012, 02:52:44 am »
samin naman ni husband he's giving me the budget pero hindi buong sweldo. meron lang kaming agreed amount na kailangan nya ibigay sakin  ;)
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Re: Boyfriends/Husbands who let their Girlfriends/Wives keep their salary
« Reply #3 on: November 15, 2012, 03:05:31 am »
no, pero medyo nangengealam ako kay bf sa mga gusto nya bilhin only when I think what he wants is not that important. like suggest lang kung ano mas okay unahin na pagka gastusan.
siguro sa mag asawa it's different, ako siguro i wouldnt mind na hindi buong sweldo ibibigay sa kin basta sapat sa mga kailangan sa bahay, (i dont know if that will change in the future though)
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Re: Boyfriends/Husbands who let their Girlfriends/Wives keep their salary
« Reply #4 on: November 15, 2012, 03:11:38 am »
Nagstart lang ako hawakan money ni bf now hubby nung engage na kami at nag aayos ako ng wedding. Pero nung bf/gf palang hindi kasi bread winner sya so ayoko panghimasukan pagdating sa money. Saka awkward nga rin plus i have my own work naman.
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Re: Boyfriends/Husbands who let their Girlfriends/Wives keep their salary
« Reply #5 on: November 15, 2012, 11:37:01 am »
hindi ko alam kung counted yung pagpapatabi ng atm niya sakin lol..

nasakin atm card niya kasi ayaw daw niya magastusan so tinatabi ko lang pero hindi ko ginagalaw pera niya dun kahit alam ko pin niya kahit pa minsan nagigipit ako at sinasabihan niya ko na kumuha muna sa atm niya hindi ko ginagawa..

naguutangan din kami pareho pero bihira..

we bith know each other's sweldo..hindi ko pinapakelaman kung ano pinagkakagastusan niya..on dates naman may times na siya sasagit may time na magsshare ako or may time na hati kami pareho para fair..

pinipigilan ko na lang din siya sa mga unnceccessary na gastos kapag kasama ko (like kakain sa mamahalin or magtataxi instead of commute) para makapagsave siya..

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Re: Boyfriends/Husbands who let their Girlfriends/Wives keep their salary
« Reply #6 on: November 16, 2012, 10:12:12 pm »
Sis monbla - Hello sis, siguro mutual understanding yung sa inyo na kelangan may privacy pagdating sa money/income :-) Oo kasi wala syang ibang pwede pahawakin ng allotment nya kasi sis wala syang father, tapos not in good terms sila ng mom nya. Bali 4 years na pala kami sa March :) pero bata pa kami sis.. I'm 21 and he's turning 24 naman.

Sis charmedwitch776 - Hello sis, ganon yung gusto ko mangyare pag settled down na kami. Naawa kasi ako sa daddy ko, yung mom ko kase kinukuha lahat ng sweldo niya. ayoko naman ng ganun.

Sis tomatostellar - Ganyan din ang gusto kong set up. Sinasabihan ko din sya about priorities, siguro naturally, ganun ang girls no? hehe pero ok [textspeak!] naman yung minsan gagastos sya sa gusto nya of course naman pera nya yun e. :-)

Sis chedz.03 - Ah oo, breadwinner naman pala si hubby. magaling yan sa pag budget hehe, i can attest to that hehe :-) Ako naman sis, ako yung breadwinner kaya siguro may tiwala sya saken pagdating sa money hehe

Sis snix - Hawak ko din atm nya sis, pero di ko mapigilan kumuha ng panggastos sabi naman nya kumuha lang daw ako, kasi wala rin akong choice e. Eventhough I have my own work, binubuhay ko kase mommy ko and naintindihan naman niya. Maganda nga yan sis, tinutulungan mo siya mag save. Kasi in the future kayo rin naman makikinabang e :-)



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Re: Boyfriends/Husbands who let their Girlfriends/Wives keep their salary
« Reply #7 on: November 17, 2012, 03:50:54 pm »
i let my bf manage his own money. i refused when he let me handle/keep his atm card. i let him be with his own finances, so that he will also learn how to budget. if i sense he's spending too much on unnecessary things, i just remind him of that. hindi ko talaga pinakikialaman yan. but if i get married, of course, i'll have a say on his finances na. of course, gusto ko pa rin na we have our own account/s, own budget for personal stuff, etc.

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Re: Boyfriends/Husbands who let their Girlfriends/Wives keep their salary
« Reply #8 on: November 18, 2012, 12:50:52 pm »
Yup, binibigay niya sakin yung sahod niya hehe. Though before I told him na he can keep and handle his own money, coz I got money on my own hehe. Kaso ayaw niya, dapat daw asawa talaga ang nag ha-handle ng budget. Hinihingi niya lang sakin yung allowance niya until sa next sahod.
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Re: Boyfriends/Husbands who let their Girlfriends/Wives keep their salary
« Reply #9 on: November 19, 2012, 11:04:13 pm »
Hubby is giving me his entire salary ever since we started living in the same house. He trusted me with his earnings and he let me do the budget so very transparent din naman ako to ensure that our income (since halos same lang naman salary namin) are put to good use. With my budgeting skills ( ;D) we are able to buy what we need, provide allowance for our kids and save enough for the family. Our savings are divided into three: daughter savings; son's savings; and joint account savings. I also ensure that we get at least once a year na out of town trip with the kids usually during summer para vacation sa school. ;)

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Re: Boyfriends/Husbands who let their Girlfriends/Wives keep their salary
« Reply #10 on: November 20, 2012, 08:28:41 pm »
Live in kami for four years before we got married. Never ko nahawakan atm nya. Until kasal na kami at nagkaproblema sa budgeting. Kung d pa kami nag away di mapupunta sa akin atm nya. Hay mahirap pag awayan ang pera.

And if hawak mo na pera nya at nagkaaberya, ikaw pa di marunong magbudget. Mabuti pa kkb na lang joke

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« Reply #11 on: November 29, 2012, 07:21:01 pm »
Ewan ko pero di ko ata gusto yung idea na mag bf-gf pa lang kayo, ikaw na may hawak ng datung. Kasi diba, hindi pa naman yon "conjugal property"? Kung ako yung guy di ako papayag haha. What more kung malaman nung family nya diba?

Pwera na lang kung siya willingly nagbigay nun, ibig sabihin may tiwala talaga siya sayo at sa financial management skills mo. :)

Sa case namin, nung magsyota kami, walang pakialamanan talaga (sabagay parehas naman kaming estudyante noon). Ngayong mag-asawa na kami, ganon pa rin. Kanya-kanya kaming accounts, BPI Trade man o TD o sa ibang banks wala kaming care. Basta may "pool" kaming inaallot for expenses. Yung excess, bahala na kung san napupunta.

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Re: Boyfriends/Husbands who let their Girlfriends/Wives keep their salary
« Reply #12 on: November 29, 2012, 08:23:56 pm »
We've been together for 15 years na ata, 5 years na kaming kasal and since day 1 ng kinasal kami nasa akin na yung ATM / sahod nya,may allowance [textspeak!] sya for a month and the rest ako na ang bahala. Para macontrol din ang expenses namin.

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Re: Boyfriends/Husbands who let their Girlfriends/Wives keep their salary
« Reply #13 on: December 06, 2012, 10:01:12 pm »
~ pa subscribe mga sis :D  ako simula nung naging kami at nag live in kami ako na nahawak ng atm nya.. or should i say pera nya..  sya mag withdraw tapos sakin nya lahat binibigay :D  pati naman yung mom nya okay dun eh hehe..
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Re: Boyfriends/Husbands who let their Girlfriends/Wives keep their salary
« Reply #14 on: December 06, 2012, 10:59:06 pm »
Almost 4 years na kaming live in, 2 years old na anak namin. Hindi ko hawak ang ATM nya pero may naka set ng amount na kelangan nyang ibigay sakin tuwing sweldo. Technically, ang natitira lang sa sweldo nya e pang allowance nya until next pay out. Nagstart lang 'to simula nung nagka-anak kami.

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Re: Boyfriends/Husbands who let their Girlfriends/Wives keep their salary
« Reply #15 on: December 19, 2012, 02:12:31 pm »
^I think kapag hiningi ko ibibigay niya... Kaso ako na mismo ang nagsabi na ayoko hawakan ang money niya.  Basta bigay lang niya savings and bayad sa bills. Now na LDR kami, savings na lang ang dinedemand ko hehe.
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Re: Boyfriends/Husbands who let their Girlfriends/Wives keep their salary
« Reply #16 on: January 16, 2013, 09:41:33 pm »
My bf and I live together but KKB on most things. :) I pay the bills and I just ask for the half that he owes me. Half kami on rent, utilities, grocery, appliances, etc. Apart from that, sa kanya na however he wants to spend his salary. Same with me.

When it comes to dates, minsan ako maglibre, minsan sya. Most of the time may nanlilibre talaga. But sometimes kung medyo kapos kami sa pera, KKB na din sa date.

When it comes to personal budgeting, I keep a spreadsheet of monthly income/expenses, including predicted income/expenses. I make my bf do the same for himself. That way, we don't overspend. :)

 

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