When Bf and i became a couple, his GBF (girl best fried)was the first to know. She texted my bf that she wanted to meet me, "kilatis" was the word she used ..with matching " i love you bestfriend! xoxo"- that alone made me uncomfy. Seriously, i have a BBF (boy best friend) and i dare not say those words whether were both single or not, plus, out of respect to all of my BBF gfs, i lay low. Meaning, i dont text or call nor see each other unless its urgent or may occasion. He does the same thing to me when in a relationship. But hey, it didn't want to put any malice that time.
Back to the story, the first time i met GBF - she was pleasant naman althou not really warm,. she came with a girl friend. In the middle of dinner, she excused herself to go to the washroom and after a few minutes, the friend followed her. Almost 1 hour had past, hindi pa rin bumalik. Worried, bf asked me to checked on the girls. When i opened the washroom, there she was crying her heart out. They said it has something to do with her recent breakup with ther ex.
OK FINE. BF and GBF were still talking while making our way to the parking lot. Mas naging friend ko pa the girlfriend ni GBF , we exchanged numbers and already made plans to do our nails together. GBF made beso and said goodbye to my bf, ako ni ha ni ho wala. I took it that maybe she was that depressed, lost or lucid.
The second encounter was worse. Their group had this mini get together. I begged my bf not to take me, i wasnt really in the party mood but he insisted that he wanted me to meet his other friends. So during the party, bf and gbf had this "im depressed about my lovelife session", i was there, listening and trying to give advise to her as well. But i was sleepy, tired and tipsy to stand. So i requested to sit down and wait for them to finish, plus GBf might not feel comfy telling her problems with me around. It took them almost 2 hours.i was left there all alone and i couldnt see them from where i was sitting. On top of them, before i left them - they were touchy feely like akbay, clasp ng kamay. Initiated by both parties. (ok given that they are close friends and a bit drunk i still felt disrespected). You probably have an idea how our night ended.
My bf kept apologizing for what happened. He gave me all the usual "platonic girl boy reason" hindi ko siya gusto, hindi ako attracted...if i wanted her the i should have courted her, etc.
I forgave him. I just felt that it was too callous and insensitive for these people not to notice. I know that their group have been relentlessly teasing BF and GBf together prior to us dating, touchy feely na sila even sa pictures sa facebook. To settle the issue, Little did i know that bf texted GBF to stop texting or lessen the communication.
On succeeding meetings, hindi na talaga kame nagpapansinan ni GBF, even her friends avoided me. Eventually bf admitted that he texted her about avoiding her.
I dont know if she is mad at me because she felt that i asked bf to do that, which i never did. All i asked was for them to take one step back because i wasnt comfy with the "closeness" they had. or is she mad at BF because he had to chose between me and her?
Did i ruined the so-called platonic relationship?