Gusto mo ba ikaw ang BOSS?

[maigrichonne]

Do you tend to play a certain role when you're in a relationship? Mas gusto mo ba na ikaw lagi nasusunod o siya? Mas dominante ka ba o ikaw ang napapasunod? Nagiging source of problem niyo ba yan? Na-feel niyo ba minsan yang power struggle bet you and your partner or prospective partner?

[mooncake and leaves]

i prefer being dominated, actually. though i really don't like not getting my way especially when i know i'm right. so kahit pa sabihin kong i like to submit to a guy, my tendency is to control. ok naman. my bf understands.

[Chinito]

ok lang if occasionally, given na sa girls ang mood swings. kaya minsan akala ng mga guys trying to be dominant sila. pero sa totoo lang nagpapaka brat lang at sometimes may sumpong.
in terms of serious matters, i prefer being balance; ok lang may resistance sa mga decision para makita yung POV ng partner  but not to the point na pagmumulan ng confrontation.

when in partnership; number 1 rule is not to be controlling.

[lonelymiss28]

asawa ko naman he always ask me if may ipapagawa ako sa kanya and sometimes he calls me "boss", he would tell everyone na ako boss sa bahay.

[snix]

i prefer it being balanced..though sinasabi niya sa iba na ako ang boss at ako daw nasusunid..at pag nainis ako sa kanya nakakaawa na nakakatuwa pag sinusuyi niya ko lol..

we have set certain rules and boundaries for each other so i guess balanced lang talaga..too much control is nakakasakal..

[ladychris17]

IMO, wanting to dominate is a sign of immaturity,

We are naturally control freaks, we like to pay attention to details and plans, and sometimes that's good, but you're not God, you're not outside space and time, you make mistakes, and you are flawed. So hindi palagi, ikaw ang tama, hindi palagi ikaw ang dapat masunod.
When we start to recognize that, we mature as women.

[tomatostellar]

term of endearment namin BOSS, may mga time na gusto ko ako nasusunod, pero syempre gusto ko sa lalake eh may sense of AUTHORITY ..

[amethyst028]

no relationship will thrive pag isa lang ang parati nasusunod. dapat give and take.

it's nice to be a boss in the relationship, but if your partner lalo na guy let's you always have your way
that means he is not strong enough. gusto mo ba ng partner na under sayo?

for me turn off iyon. ayaw ko ng weak na partner. i want someone who can hold his own in the relationship hindi yung bow lang ng bow sakin. ayaw ko rin ng under ako. gusto ko equal in a way na sometimes i let him have his way and sometimes he lets me have mine.

[ladychris17]

^ same. I want someone who will stand for his beliefs, who walks the talk, knows right from wrong, and doesn't easily get swayed by emotions; someone who will listen, but will als think and speak.
This is the kind of guy who will not cheat, however tempting, because he knows it's wrong.

[polymath2012]

It takes two to tango. Ang romantic relationship parang business partnership lang din, hindi lang isang tao ang dapat namumuhunan, investment has to come from both partners.

[ppperez]

No, not really.

Anyway, lagi naman akong sinusunod ni boyfriend. Kapag sinabi kong wag, sumusunod naman sya. Maliban na lang kung gusto nya talaga, at feeling naman nya walang mali. In those cases, I let him be.

[Mommy•Shey]

Nope. Pero most of the time mas gusto ni hubby na ako ang nag de-decide lalo na pagdating sa kids and sa house.

[crazycoolchic19]

nope, submissive type ako pero kontrolado ko sya

[schumine]

It's a give & take. Sometimes he's the Boss, sometimes Me. 

[simplecathy143]

pantay lang kame. there are times na ako ang boss at my times na sya.. balance lang

[maigrichonne]

Ako naman, di ko talaga ma-take kahit pag-ikut-ikutin mo ang mundo yung masyado akong kinikontrol. Yung tipong tanong lang ng tanong kung nasaan ako, naiinis na ko. Gusto ko rin pag may gusto akong gawin, masusunod ako.

Siguro kaya di pa ako nagkaka-serious relationship ever kasi ganito ako. I guess I'm too independent.

Sana nakahanap ako ng guy na itatrato akong BOSS hehe. 

[17arci]

I don't want to be the boss, but I think I'm headed that way. I just hope I don't micromanage. -_-

[ri-anne]

nung magbf-gf kami, ako ang boss...now si hubby na ang boss pag major decisions, we talk about it, pros and cons etc, kung ask sya whats my input i tell him. sinusunod nya rin naman pag sa tingin nya yun ang best. Pag pareho kaming may idea about something at parehong ok, sya na bahala sa final decision.

[angelzero]

gusto ko balanced. kahit stronger personality ni bf, equal naman kami. pero napansin ko, pag ako may gustong ipagawa sa kanya, natatanggihan nya ko. nag aaway kami minsan, minsan naman pinapalagpas ko na lang. pag sya naman may hihilingin na favor most of the time sumusunod ako. minsan natatapakan pagkababae ko. on second thought, mas boss pala sya. 

[sweetcheeks]

Overall, I trust my fiance to lead our relationship, after all, our men only want the best for us. We've been together for 2 years and we've never cooled off or broken up. We've had major issues but seems like we've gone through it happily and it made us more in tune with each other, mainly because he leads the tone of our partnership. He is also quick to listen to my inputs and also quick to apologize when he's wrong. I'm very OC and bossy with my tasks hehe, But with him, hands off ako kasi I know I'm in good hands.