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JELOUSY PROBLEM
« on: October 23, 2012, 08:42:35 PM »
Well, problem ko na to ever since. It's not that im insecure. Cute naman ako, Sexy naman ako, Matalino naman ako and im a loving gf (Kapal ng mukha no? haha) pero bakit ganon. Everytime na magkasama kami sa mall or somewhere at pag napapatingin siya sa ibang girls. Nagseselos ako. Well mararamdaman mo naman yun di ba, na tinitignan niya yung girl. Kahit sinasabi niya na "hindi, yung poster yung tinitignan ko." Well, I mist admit na alot of guys talaga mapapatingin sa attractive girls kahit attractive ka na. Human nature na yun e. But bakit ganon. It Turns me off talaga everytime na tumitingin siya sa iba. I feel so bad, and parang gusto ko na lang makipaghiwalay. HELP please. :(

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Re: JELOUSY PROBLEM
« Reply #1 on: October 23, 2012, 08:47:36 PM »
Human nature din po ang pagseselos ng babae once na nappatingin ang guy sa ibang gurl. Best solution is to talk to your bf. Sabihin mo sa kanya na d mo gusto yun para itry nya i avoid. Syempre hindi naman agad mababago nya yung ganun pero once na alam na nya at talgang mahal ka nya he will try to avoid looking naman for sure. You can also dress yung tipong sayo lang titingin ang bf mo :).

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Re: JELOUSY PROBLEM
« Reply #2 on: October 24, 2012, 06:57:35 AM »
Sis, kaya nga attractive, guys would tend to look.  Sabi mo nga you are also attractive.  Do you think your bf now will be your bf if he is not attracted to you in the first place? 

Pero it is the feeling he gives you kasi.  If he assures you na he wont hurt you, he wont cheat you - backed by actions syempre.  Pero the fact na hindi ka 'secure' sa kanya, there must be something he is doing that does not make it quite right. 

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Re: JELOUSY PROBLEM
« Reply #3 on: October 25, 2012, 04:23:17 AM »
Thanks sa mga advice sis, im just worried kasi.  :'( Anyway i'll just have my trust in my bf na lang. Alam kong hangang tingin lang naman siya e. Thanks Alot mga sis! :-*

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Re: JELOUSY PROBLEM
« Reply #4 on: October 25, 2012, 10:41:19 AM »
Well, I mist admit na alot of guys talaga mapapatingin sa attractive girls kahit attractive ka na. Human nature na yun e.


sis quotable talaga to.  ;D

anyway on a serious note, yun nga, tulad sabi ni sis girltalker2, may kasalanan ang bf mo if he's not doing anything for you not to feel jealous.

pero sis, may pagkapossessive much ka rin kasi, tingin lang naman yun, break up na iniisip mo. eh pag asa work siya for sure may girls siyang nakakainteract. so pano na yun sayo?

from pov ng babaeng pinagselosan ng todo ng isang insanely and abnormally jealous gf: ang hirap kaya magdeal sa kanila. talagang naglelessen ang productivity. kaya mahirap din magdeal minsan sa mga boys-with-girlfriends.  >:(
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Re: JELOUSY PROBLEM
« Reply #5 on: October 30, 2012, 12:07:55 AM »
Can i join? :)
ako? 2 tao lang pinagseselosan ko. yung maharot niyang ex at best friend niyang babae :(
haaaaaay. T.T
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« Reply #6 on: October 30, 2012, 05:46:44 PM »
Thanks sa mga advice sis, im just worried kasi.  :'( Anyway i'll just have my trust in my bf na lang. Alam kong hangang tingin lang naman siya e. Thanks Alot mga sis! :-*

One thing I have learned about relationships is never be complacent.  Pero at the same time you should not act jealous!  Ang hirap ah.  Lagi ka dapat nakabantay lalo na kung alam mong capable ang bf mo mangaliwa. yung nakatingin ka lang sa corner ng eye mo hehe.  :P Lalo pa kung pinoy ang bf mo.  Kung ayaw mo magbantay, then let go if you do not trust him.

You cannot say "I will trust him nalang" blindly.  If there are signs, you have to make sure you address it.  Tandaan mo, malakas ang intuition nating mga babae.  Kung ramdam mo something is wrong, then something is wrong. Tried and tested ko na iyan.




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« Reply #7 on: October 30, 2012, 06:29:27 PM »
^mas prone ba ang mga pinoy na magcheat?
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Re: JELOUSY PROBLEM
« Reply #8 on: December 21, 2012, 02:15:38 PM »
Tandaan mo, malakas ang intuition nating mga babae.  Kung ramdam mo something is wrong, then something is wrong. Tried and tested ko na iyan.

I so agree with this post. Ako sobrang selosa din pero never naman naging cause ng pag-aaway namin yun kasi pinag-uusapan naman namin in a nice way. If you feel something's wrong, might as well talk to your guy kaysa break agad, medyo mababaw kasi ata un. But anyway, matagal na pala tong post na to hehe I hope everything's fine now :)

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Re: JELOUSY PROBLEM
« Reply #9 on: December 21, 2012, 02:30:00 PM »
TS, dahil nga hindi naman yata pwedeng sabihan na lang si bf na WAG SIYANG TUMINGIN SA IBA (ikaw lang lalabas na masama, possessive, irrational, etc), eto mga suggestions ko sis:

- unahan mo na tumingin sa iba. "uy, may sexy oh. ganda ng legs WAW" (ok, baka bisexual ang dating mo nito pero marami naman talaga kasing magaganda sa mundo, you're just appreciating beauty)
- ipahalata mo na may ibang lalake na SAYO naman tumitingin. so ayun patas lang.
- pwede ka rin tumingin sa mga gwapo, macho, etc. at sana mahalata niya.
- if talagang issue sayo ang pagtingin niya sa iba (whether intentional or not, whether totoo nga o akala mo lang yun), and willing ka to break up with your current bf para lang maiwasan ang ganitong feeling, find a different guy, this time, yung laging nakayuko. or wag na lang kayo lumabas.

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Re: JELOUSY PROBLEM
« Reply #10 on: December 21, 2012, 11:16:20 PM »
Ay super natural yan sa mga lalaki. Its ok to look at other girls basta hindi sya gagawa ng iba pang bagay. Hindi mo na rin kasi maalis sa kanila yun, lalo na kung attractive, sexy at mayaman ang hinaharap. Pansin agad yun! Di ka naman kailangan makipagbreak, basta make sure hanggang tingin lang ginagawa ni bf sa ibang girls at ikaw lang ang one and only na.
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« Reply #11 on: December 22, 2012, 01:11:03 AM »
TS, dahil nga hindi naman yata pwedeng sabihan na lang si bf na WAG SIYANG TUMINGIN SA IBA (ikaw lang lalabas na masama, possessive, irrational, etc), eto mga suggestions ko sis:


- if talagang issue sayo ang pagtingin niya sa iba (whether intentional or not, whether totoo nga o akala mo lang yun), and willing ka to break up with your current bf para lang maiwasan ang ganitong feeling, find a different guy, this time, yung laging nakayuko. or wag na lang kayo lumabas.

tama! or yung bulag na lang.  ;D
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Re: JELOUSY PROBLEM
« Reply #12 on: December 25, 2012, 02:05:42 AM »
Sorry mga sisses if now lang nakareply ulit. I've been observing alot. As in alot. And i've realized. sya rin pala nagseselos. What i've learned, hirap magpaganda especially if nakakabutas ng bulsa talaga and no pain no gain talaga. Ayun lang. Siguro need lang natin palaging fresh. wag haggard ahaha :))

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Re: JELOUSY PROBLEM
« Reply #13 on: December 25, 2012, 07:14:08 AM »
My bf aminado pagtumitingin sya sa iba i mean pag sa mall pag may nakikita magagandang girls hindi naman ako insecure i know where i stands... sinasabi nya lang mahilig talaga sya sa maganda ang sabi ko nga kaya pala ako gf mo hehe... hindi ako masyado affected lalo na pag may nagpapacute sa kanya basta un reactions ni bf hindi pang flirty... 2 girls lang pinagselosan ko sa kanya lalo na un isang badtrip talaga ako mabanggit lang name...Sya hindi makatagal pag may tumitingin sa akin bigla agad hahawakan ang kamay ko at may mga side comments pa ako naman tinatawanan ko lang... Ang masasabi ko lang sis kung sa mall lang naman at public place theres no harm for me ha.. Be confident...

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« Reply #14 on: December 25, 2012, 08:16:06 AM »
Your boyfriend has a wandering eye. This habit will never go away. It will just turn worse. It is a sign of cheating.
When we were still dating at university ages ago, i have already noticed that he would sit in a restaurant facing the door, look lustfully at other women, read women's mags like vogue, eyes are continuously roving, etc. These are tell-tale signs of cheating. I just ignored everything back then and told myself that this is normal behavior. NOT!
Now that we are married. His condition deteriorated into sexual addiction. He engages in masturbation, voyeurism, pornography and flirting.
He became physically violent and verbally abusive later on when I confronted him about this problem.
Nope not all males are like this. Men with high moral standards, well-bred and have respect for women do not have a wandering eye.
It is just plain WRONG to look at other women intentionally if you are in a relationship or married (especially).
Consider yourself warned.
Get rid of him asap.

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« Reply #15 on: December 25, 2012, 08:56:03 AM »
Hindi naman lustful makatingin si bf basta parang na patingin lang... But not to the extend na magflilirt ibang usapan na... Minsan ituturo nya sassbihin nya kahawig nito ni ganyan ang comment ko naman it depends sa nakikita ko... Bestfriend nya girl never ko pinagselosan siguro kasi wala naman ako nakikita dapat ibang selos in a relationship din kasi bestfriend nya at kita ko naman sobrang inlovey sya bf nya nagtatampo na nga bf ko hindi na sya pinansin i mean nagrereply sa mga message nya pero pag si best naman my problema buhos ang messages sabi ko nalang sa bf ko intindihin at madly inlove pa ngayon hehe..

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« Reply #16 on: December 25, 2012, 09:47:17 PM »
Siguro malalaman mo namang yung mga wala lang looks at she looks nice sa girls at lustful looks na sa mga babae. So wag siguro magdecide na bad bf na si bf once nakatingin sa mga attractive girls.
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« Reply #17 on: December 27, 2012, 09:03:58 AM »
TS, dahil nga hindi naman yata pwedeng sabihan na lang si bf na WAG SIYANG TUMINGIN SA IBA (ikaw lang lalabas na masama, possessive, irrational, etc), eto mga suggestions ko sis:

- unahan mo na tumingin sa iba. "uy, may sexy oh. ganda ng legs WAW" (ok, baka bisexual ang dating mo nito pero marami naman talaga kasing magaganda sa mundo, you're just appreciating beauty)
- ipahalata mo na may ibang lalake na SAYO naman tumitingin. so ayun patas lang.
- pwede ka rin tumingin sa mga gwapo, macho, etc. at sana mahalata niya.
- if talagang issue sayo ang pagtingin niya sa iba (whether intentional or not, whether totoo nga o akala mo lang yun), and willing ka to break up with your current bf para lang maiwasan ang ganitong feeling, find a different guy, this time, yung laging nakayuko. or wag na lang kayo lumabas.

Sali lang.
Natawa naman ako dito sis sa last mo sinabi.  ;D

Well karamihan talaga ng guy ganyan. Ewan ba sakanila. Paganda ka na lang lalo sis! Ganyan ginagawa ko pag kasama ko bf ko para nasayo lang attention niya at pati ng ibang guy! chos!

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« Reply #18 on: December 28, 2012, 06:55:37 PM »
sali :)

ako naman problem ko is the other way around. sobrang hindi ako selosa. hehe. to the point na ipagpapalit nako sa iba, kebs parin.

share ko lang yung experience ko with a guy friend na merong gf na uuuuubbbbeeeer selosa. lahat ata ng babae na makausap netong bestfriend ko eh pinagseselosan, pati ako. minsan nakakainis kasi dumarating dun sa point na hindi ko makausap yung friend ko kasi pinagbabawalan sya, na hindi ko magets kasi we've been friends for so long and we had already known each other even before she came.

sabi naman nung iba kong friends, may iba-iba raw level ang pagseselos -- meron daw nagseselos dahil sa insecurity (due to bad experiences in the past or low self esteem), or to protect the relationship (due to each individual's characters). tama ba to?

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« Reply #19 on: December 31, 2012, 10:30:26 PM »
^sis naku naexperience ko na yung uber selosa gf. kainis! up to a point na di pumasok during exam day yung friend ko kasi nga naghihintay siyang patawarin ni girl dahil nagseselos ng sobra. mga deterrent sa improvement ng guy. alam mo yun. anlaki ng potential nung friend ko and uber selosa gf is just pulling him down. and to think na hindi naman gwapo si guy friend. haha!
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