Get weekly updates via email!
tip of the day SUN 26 OCT 14
Worried about your performance at work? Find a mentor and ask for guidance. Learning from a senior will help you get better at your job.
  • Good House Keeping
    Judy Ann Santos-Agoncillo returns to our cover this September issue and gets candid about money, marriage, and motherhood.
    Good Housekeeping
  • Women's Health
    Drop two sizes fast—with simple exercises you can do at home! This month's ultimate weight-loss special shows you how. Plus, real women share how you, too, can shed and keep off excess weight for good.
    Women's Health
GIRLTALK

Author Topic: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?  (Read 7227 times)

xyreldc

  • Newbie
  • *
  • Posts: 32
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #20 on: November 19, 2012, 04:40:43 PM »
i'm with a girl din..before i am so sure na i want to be with her up to my last breath..lately napapadalas na misunderstanding namin at hindi ko na alam if it will last longer pa..pero kahit ganun i'm sure pa rin naman na ayokong mawala siya. kaso sinabi niya mismo sa akin na hindi niya nakikitang ako ang makakasama niya throughout her life..kaya ang hirap na din ibigay yung buong tiwala na magtatagal pa. in the end ako lang din ang masaktan. ang sakit pala marinig directly from your partner na hindi ikaw ang gusto niyang makasama sa buhay niya. kahit mahal na mahal ko siya ang hirap na ding umasa, and now parang dapat ko na ata sanayin na wala na kami (although di pa kami formally break)..i'm so sad now..i do not know where will this go..

trizh

  • aiming high :)
  • Senior GirlTalker
  • ****
  • Posts: 851
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #21 on: December 10, 2012, 08:18:07 AM »
 ^ eh di parang wala ng reason para icontinue pa ang relationship. pero nasa sayo din naman yan.


 
Learn to wait for the perfect time so that you may discover that all pain found in waiting has a magnificent and awesome purpose ϋ

xyreldc

  • Newbie
  • *
  • Posts: 32
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #22 on: December 12, 2012, 11:16:00 PM »
^ on off talaga kami, aso't pusa, tom n jerry hehe pero mahal ko pa rin siya. Complicated! Okey nga uli kami ngayon. gusto niya daw ako kasama niya forever. Then pag nag away uli ayaw na naman. Gulo namin. Haha happy pa din naman ako with her. lalo pag hindi kami nagaaway :))))

kiz_me1109

  • Super GirlTalker
  • *****
  • Posts: 1208
  • happy_mom_of_aidan
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #23 on: December 12, 2012, 11:32:22 PM »
I think It depends parin dun sa 2 tao na involve in that kind of relationship. May mga kilala akong lesbians na hindi tumagal yung relationship nila and meron naman din na nag survive.

I have a HS classmate dati na nagka bf pa siya. Then, na realize niya na lesbian pala siya and girl talaga ang gusto. Siya yung parang guy sa relationship (I don't know ano tawag sa kanila). Now, sila parin ng gf niya and they already live together sa ibang bansa.

Meron din akong classmate nung college na since bata pa daw siya e lalaki na siya talaga manamit and girls ang gusto. Madami na siya naging bf pero 3 months ago nagulat kami nung makita siya na girl na siya and may bf. hehe

I think depende talaga yun sa 2 tao. If you really love her, kaya mo ba i sacrifice yung family mo? What if hindi matanggap ng parents mo na siya ang gusto mo?

Madami kasing sacrifices sa ganyang relationship kasi hindi pa talaga yan tanggap sa Philippines. =)

savine

  • Probationary
  • Posts: 4
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #24 on: December 15, 2012, 09:11:20 PM »
Hi! I'm just new here and I can't help but share my opinion because I can relate. It is possible. But just like any other relationships, it's not easy. Hindi sya yung typical na heterosexual relationship where you think about getting married, having a family, having children, raising your kids together, etc. Pero possible pa din naman sya mangyari kung gugustuhin ninyo. Kasi para saken, nasa inyo naman yun e. kung masaya ka, homosexual or heterosexual man yan, masaya ka pa din. Sorry, medyo relate lang ng konti kasi I was in a relationship with someone for 7 years kaso kasalanan ko, medyo nagka-doubts tapos na-realize ko mahal ko pala but then she's ready to move on na. Ayun, may ka-date na. Pero gradually, pinipilit ko naman tanggapin. It's bittersweet. Masarap lalu na pag nag-iisip na kayo about your plans for the future, etc. Para din naman yan mag-bf gf. Malungkot pag di meant to be.

xyreldc

  • Newbie
  • *
  • Posts: 32
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #25 on: December 17, 2012, 02:54:07 PM »
^^ awww.. :-[ sad naman ng story mo sis..true yun, saka marerealize na importante yung tao sayo at mahal mo siya by the time nawala siya sayo. ganyan din nangyari sa amin ng ex ko..by then she was playing around, di seryoso and everything..until we decided to break up na lang. nagkaron siya ng another relationship at pati ako i already moved on..then after 10years we met again, good thing we're friends :) the first time we met after long long years, i am with my current partner na at ganun din siya. gulat lang ako kasi we we're talking serious then tapos bigla niya sinabi "i still love you now, nakapagsorry na ba ako sayo". so i asked sorry for what. sagot niya, narealize niya daw na mahal niya talaga ako by the time we broke up, sorry for not being serious during our relationship. yun lang..since we both moved on na, happy naman kami for each other..

savine

  • Probationary
  • Posts: 4
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #26 on: December 17, 2012, 09:54:36 PM »
^wow! 10 years?!? tagal din non ah. sobrang tumalab talaga sa ken yung quote na to:"Dont take people for granted. No matter how much they love you, people get tired eventually.." Kaya nga sobrang sising sisi ako. pero nung time that I was having doubts, it never crossed my mind to date anyone kasi alam ko na hindi pa sya ready. kumbaga, nirerespeto ko naman sya. we're good friends kahit magkasama pa din kami dati kasi nga hindi ko din naman kaya na mawala siya sa ken. pero baka napagod na din sya sa kakahintay that's why she decided to find someone else. ako minsan, napapaisip din if i can still find someone else. kung ako din magkakaroon ng happy ending. we still talk, thru text. kaya lang, friends say i shouldn't talk with her unless i can finally say that i'm ready to be friends with her. kasi siguro iniisip ko na everytime we talk,kahit sa kanya as friends lang, parang saken laging may meaning so lalo ako umaasa, ako lang din nasasaktan. :'(

xyreldc

  • Newbie
  • *
  • Posts: 32
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #27 on: December 20, 2012, 01:40:51 PM »
^give it time to heal..mahirap talaga magmove on lalo na kung mahal mo yung tao..eventually you will move on and find a happy ending :) tingin tingin ka lang dyan sis madaming nakakalat hehe

savine

  • Probationary
  • Posts: 4
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #28 on: December 20, 2012, 05:48:57 PM »
thanks, xyreldc. time is my best friend now. kasi syempre, bago pa lang. sabi mo, tingin-tingin. saan ba pwede makakita? hehe. nagsign up na nga ako sa mga online dating sites. wala naman ako balak magcommit ulit agad. i just want to meet new friends kasi siguro for 7 years kaming 2 lang palagi magkasama. sinasanay ko na din yung sarili ko na mag-isa na lang lagi pero malungkot syempre.

trizh

  • aiming high :)
  • Senior GirlTalker
  • ****
  • Posts: 851
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #29 on: December 21, 2012, 08:05:48 AM »
SAVINE


  -- tama ka. Hindi talaga ito yung typical na relationship. Honestly, nung bata pa ako, ang dream ko talaga ay maging isang mommy. Kasi I grew up na walang mother na gumagabay. But now, parang I can sacrifice my dream para lang sa kanya. Any way, we can still adopt. Ganun ko siya kamahal.


XYRELDC


  -- OMG kinilig ako sa I still love you. haha.  :)  Sayang yung 10 years sis.. Pero dibale at marami pa namang iba dyan  :)




  QUESTION: Paano kapag hindi nageeffort ang partner? For example, monthsary niyo, then wala man lang siyang plan. Magkasama lang kayo sa house nila. Kahit kain sa labas wala. Hindi naman ako materialistic, kaya lang kasi last week anniv namin. Tapos siya, wala man lang plans. As in wala. Ako pa ang nageffort. Nagabsent ako para makasama ko siya. Sana kahit card man lang meron, para maramdaman ko na masaya siya na nagaaniv kami. Mali ba ako?
Learn to wait for the perfect time so that you may discover that all pain found in waiting has a magnificent and awesome purpose ϋ

savine

  • Probationary
  • Posts: 4
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #30 on: December 21, 2012, 11:20:59 PM »
^pwede pa din naman kayong magka-baby.madami namang ways like adoption or invitro, pero kung talagang decided ka to be with her, kelangan mo din i-consider na madaming hindi makakaintindi. dun naman sa monthsary, pwedeng nakalimutan lang or di talaga sya ganun. depende din kasi talaga sa tao minsan. pero baka nakalimutan nya lang siguro. or baka may prob sya kaya di na nya naalala.kung once lang naman nangyari, baka di naman sinasadya.

may alam ba kayong nag-oorganize ng exclusive parties? hindi ba dyahe pumunta ng mag-isa lang kasi wala talaga ako masyadong friends na katulad ko.actually, lahat ng bestfriends ko straight. gusto ko din sana maka-meet ng tulad ko kasi syempre masaya din dahil we have something in common. medyo kelangan ko talagang lumabas-labas para maaliw.

trizh

  • aiming high :)
  • Senior GirlTalker
  • ****
  • Posts: 851
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #31 on: December 22, 2012, 12:53:30 PM »
 ^ thanks po sa pagsagot. hindi lang niya once ginawa yun kundi every monthsary. Pati narin nitong nakaraan na anniv namin. Wala talaga kahit ano.

About exclusive parties, wala akong alam eh. Pero mas okay talaga kapag may nakakausap ka na makakarelate ka.
Learn to wait for the perfect time so that you may discover that all pain found in waiting has a magnificent and awesome purpose ϋ

xtense_15

  • Newbie
  • *
  • Posts: 27
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #32 on: December 28, 2012, 07:00:38 PM »
super yes noh :) regardless yung orientation mo, happy ending is still possible.

I have 2 lesbian friends who have been together for 6 years na, they've been through a lot of tough times and I witnessed how strong they were in facing every challenge that came along. They just got married nung 1st week of December :)   


xyreldc

  • Newbie
  • *
  • Posts: 32
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #33 on: December 31, 2012, 01:32:54 AM »
@trizh shocked nga ako nung narining ko yun na sinabi niya ..kala ko nagbibiro pero seryoso pala. well ganun talaga, people come and go..ours is over..and im happy with who im with now :D

@savine dito sa forum baka may makita ka.in time mahahanap mo din siya :)

trizh

  • aiming high :)
  • Senior GirlTalker
  • ****
  • Posts: 851
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #34 on: January 06, 2013, 08:32:52 PM »
super yes noh :) regardless yung orientation mo, happy ending is still possible.

I have 2 lesbian friends who have been together for 6 years na, they've been through a lot of tough times and I witnessed how strong they were in facing every challenge that came along. They just got married nung 1st week of December :)


  -- got married? saan po?
Learn to wait for the perfect time so that you may discover that all pain found in waiting has a magnificent and awesome purpose ϋ

xtense_15

  • Newbie
  • *
  • Posts: 27
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #35 on: January 07, 2013, 10:43:27 PM »
^sa Germany po :)

beachpatrol

  • witty title here
  • Senior GirlTalker
  • ****
  • Posts: 560
  • nostalgic wander kid
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #36 on: January 25, 2013, 08:25:10 PM »
Imo, wala yan sa kasarian, nasa pakikitungo sa isa't isa. Yung mga hetero nga dyan eh, nauuwi din sa hiwalayan. Gender is not the only basis for a lasting relationship :)
Nothing worth having comes easy.

jelly_bean

  • Probationary
  • Posts: 1
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #37 on: January 27, 2013, 11:15:03 PM »
Hi! Im in the same relationship for 5 years and counting.. I'm in love with my bestfriend, actually it started with a kiss (lol). So far, we're happy, contented, satisfied kahit na mdmeng misunderstanding and hardships, still we are together and both happy.

soulflygirl

  • best things in life are free
  • GirlTalker
  • **
  • Posts: 195
  • yo! spread kindness
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #38 on: February 23, 2013, 09:06:22 PM »
I wanna share my story too.

I am currently in a long distance relationship with a Butch. She lives in the US while I'm here in Manila. We've known each other since my college days but sad to say we lost communication for 4-5 years. we started talking again last year.  we were both in a shaky relationship with our respective partners (mine with a softbutch for 3 years and hers naman with a femme for almost 2 years) and both broke up with partners after some time. we continued talking to each other tapos syempre nadevelop na which we never expected especially i was not open to having a relationship with a butch.

So now, we are so in love with each other. It's the first time i have introduced someone to my parents and the first to tell my parents that i am in a girl to girl relationship. They accepted me without any hesitations. I want to be with her so bad!! We already want to be together. I never expected that i'll love someone as much as i love her, i want to settle down with her. as in get married.  Sad to say she can't petition me for fiance visa as it is not yet permitted for same sex relationship. that's what makes us sad  :( but we are trying to figure out how we are going to be together.

I know it is possible to lesbians to have happily ever after. It's a choice. If both of you wants to grow old with each other then nothing is impossible. be true to yourself. Don't be intimidated with what others will tell you. Trust your heart.

Welcome to the GOOD Life =)

soulflygirl

  • best things in life are free
  • GirlTalker
  • **
  • Posts: 195
  • yo! spread kindness
Re: I'm inlove with a lesbian. Is happy ever after possible?
« Reply #39 on: February 23, 2013, 09:07:56 PM »
Hi! Im in the same relationship for 5 years and counting.. I'm in love with my bestfriend, actually it started with a kiss (lol). So far, we're happy, contented, satisfied kahit na mdmeng misunderstanding and hardships, still we are together and both happy.

wow nice 5 years. :) i admire lesbians couples who stays in love with each other. :)
Welcome to the GOOD Life =)

 

ADVERTISEMENT
follow us
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Featured Articles
5 Steps to Financial Fitness in Tough Times
Instead of grumbling about the plight of the peso and dwelling on the negative, try these helpful tips to stay afloat. Remember--a little discipline goes a long way!
You're the breadwinner: Now what?
You want the freedom to spend your money as you wish but you know that if you don’t bring home the bacon, no one else will.
Getting money-wise: Why women are naturally capable of managing cash
She works hard for the money but she doesn’t know how to invest it. Here, Pearlsha Abubakar tells us why women are capable of managing their money well, but don’t. Read and get smart with your money.
Never go broke again! The FN guide to financial freedom-forever!
Fear not bankruptcy or eternal dependence on your parents (or a man!). There's a financial strategy for everybody. Read and get money-wise.
Wise up: Start your own business!
Tired of living from paycheck to paycheck? Why not go into business? Read on and find out how just a little cash can become a lot.