Need your advice regarding padala issues from a close friend

[^Vain_Chiq^]

Ganito kasi yun mga sis, magbabakasyon kasi kami ni bf sa pinas this month and I have a close friend who is also in another EU country na gusto magpadala from pinas to EU. Because she's my close friend, I said yes to her thinking it will just be around 2-3 kilos. Pinagbawalan na nga ako ni bf tumanggap ng mga padala kasi baka ako pa daw mapahamak and syempre additional luggage yun instead na para sa akin eh mapupunta sa iba, sa akin I don't mind naman kasi nga close friend ko sya so itatakas ko na lang sa bagahe ko para hindi makita ni bf and walang masabi.

And eto na, sabi nya sa akin the luggage that will be sent is 8 kgs. Whoa! She's willing to pay naman the excess but the thing is ayoko naman syang magbayad and we will not be carrying too much pesos around in the airport pagbalik, and it's impossible that my bf will allow to shoulder temporarily the cost. Excess baggage costs 60usd per kg so it is also hefty. Kasi if she will send 8 kgs then the bag is 4 kgs, then I will be left with only 8 kgs to bring back, my bf is sure to get mad at me for being nice again and accepting it.

The question is, how do I tell her that I cannot accept 8 kgs? Naka-pack na kasi yung padala nya and she is my close friend kasi and I don't want her to be disappointed. The thing is, I'll be also be lugging that extra kilos around in the airport lalo na we'll just take the train going back. If I accept her padala though, ok lang ba to tell her to pay the excess kgs beforehand kahit mga 5 kilos lang? I feel bad naman kasi if I will charge her the whole 8 kgs but ayoko din naman maminimize ang dadalhin ko just because of that. Please give me advice on this girls. Thanks!

[evilwoman]

^ i don't see anything wrong sa pagsingil mo agad ng fee for extra baggage. natimbang mo na kamo kasi yung dala mo and for sure lalagpas ng x kilos. sya din naman ang nagoffer na magbayad so singilin mo na nga. pag ayaw nya, then you have the reason na para ireject ang padala nya. alangan namang ikaw ang magbawas ng gamit.

pwede mo din isuggest na masyado sya mapapamahal if ipapadala sa yo kasi nga lalabas na excess na talaga so baka pwede ipabalikbayan box na lang nya padala nya (or kahit portion nung package).

[aquacharly]

Charge for the entire 8kgs, get her advance  payment.

Tell her sorry you have no excess space for her at all coz your bf is bringing back a lot.
That way, next time magiisip sya if makipadala  sya ulit.

Warn her that you need time to inspect the stuff. Hindi puede you will just accept it all packed up. Be very careful. She may be your friend, pero with people who want to make it rich quickly as with drugs - walang friend/kamag anak/even family.

There is also  the consideration of how that 8kg is packed. 
You may be particular like me about travel luggage.    Hubby & I don't travel with  boxes, basta.  And all our luggage match -- Black Rimowas of 1 style.  I say maarte ako, pero basta.  So though we have unused luggage allowance friends/relatives are dying to use - Nyet, , unless put in the same color & style of Rimowa. 

[showermist]

Ask her to pay for the 8kgs. Huwag Kang mahiya. Sya nga na alam pala beforehand kung gaano kabigat ipappadala nya--Hindi nahiya eh Alam naman Nya yung luggage allowance

[cynth_pink00]

And since you mentioned you were travelling by train from the airport, carrying an extra 8kl is no joke on top  of your luggages. You may ask your friend to meet you in the airport to pick up her stuff. I also agree with checking the box before hand. It's scary now a days to carry stuff not knowing what is inside. Watched locked up abroad. Nakakatakot.

[^Vain_Chiq^]

Thanks for all your reply and advices. I already talked to her and told her nicely that I can't carry 8kgs for her but I would consider up to 3kgs and she understood naman. Lately, she sent me a message na hindi na raw sya magpapadala and I said ok. We're still good friends though.