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Author Topic: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)  (Read 63080 times)

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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #80 on: October 19, 2012, 03:37:23 PM »
bro, mabuti naman kun wala ka kabit, kasi hassle lang un in the long run...

gaya ng nangyari sa dad ko, 3 kami anak nya sa mom ko (the legal wife), then 3 din sa wife-wife-an nya...eh un mga anak nya dun eldest nya nasa highschool pa lang...so 50 plus na dad ko ngayon, pag nag 60 cya nagpapa aral pa din cya ng anak...instead na pahinga na cya...

saka sabi nya din dati sakin, mahina daw kasi cya dati...kaya ngayon he's paying for it...

"The LORD is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge. He is my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold."
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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #81 on: October 27, 2012, 08:55:15 AM »
ako din hinde ko na yata makakalimutan ang pain at mga nangyare sa amin ng asawa ko dahil sa pambababae nya. not once but thrice!

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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #82 on: October 27, 2012, 02:22:22 PM »
sis snowflakes, 3 times??? wow buti magkasama pa kayo ngayon?
"The LORD is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge. He is my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold."
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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #83 on: October 27, 2012, 10:32:04 PM »
oo sis... yun yung time na nasa pinas pa kami at nagkipana mga haliparot. kaya nga ayoko na umuwe jan sa pinas eh, baka madagdagan pa kabit ng asawa ko. yung isa sa kabit eh ex nya rin.

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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #84 on: October 27, 2012, 11:22:39 PM »
mahirap talaga makalimutan ang pagkakaron ng kabit ng asawa lalo na pag ramdam mong may nabago sa kanya after non. kaya minsan naiisip mo na baka gusto niya pa pa rin yung kabit  :-\

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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #85 on: October 28, 2012, 02:15:47 PM »
ang tatag din ni sis snowflakes, kun sakin un di ko alam kun ano magagawa ko hay
"The LORD is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge. He is my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold."
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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #86 on: October 29, 2012, 12:38:01 AM »
iba ibang girls mga sis, isa ex nya, isa kasamahan nya sa work na may asawat mga anak, isa naman kaibigan ng kapitbahay namin sa pinas.
nakoh mga sis wag na kayo magpa kwento kase ngayon pa lang kumkulo na dugo ko. baka maka apekto sa baby ko eh. nagpapalpitate na ko now sa galit! :-[

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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #87 on: October 31, 2012, 04:57:06 PM »
tama sis, kwento mo pag maluwag na sa loob mo...pero grabe lang ha, saludo talaga ako sayo at natiis mo un....

"The LORD is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge. He is my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold."
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kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #88 on: November 04, 2012, 01:03:35 AM »
wala pa namang new thread nito mga sis diba?

open lang ako new thread.

share ko lang,

ka officemate ni hubby ang involve. ichi-chikka ko lang :D

while browsing hubby's fb last night nakita ko tong si wife ni officemate ni hubby ang dameng post about sa 3-month affair ng husband nya sa agent nya..binasa ko lahat ng post ni wife pati yung picture ni agent e talagang pinagkalandakan nya sa wall nya..she even changed his husband's pw sa fb para hindi nya rin ito ma-access.pati change of emails pinost nya and nung nag text si sup kay wife pinost nya pa yung sinabi ng hubby nya..namababae na rin yung husband nya before pero pinalampas nya because of their child..now according to my hubby mag fi-file na ata ng kaso yung wife..kwento pa ni hubby, hindi daw pumasok si sup at agent nag inom na lang sila at after e nag mot-mot pa..grabe lang huh, dun nila inayos yung problema nila.. >:(

naawa lang ako sa girl,sabe nya nga sa post nya.. hindi porket ginawa nya yun e wala na syang pinag aralan. hindi nya yun ginawa para humanap ng kakampi at kaawaan.. ginawa nya yun kase durog na durog na raw sya at wala syang malabasan ng sama ng loob.. feeling ko sasabog na sya kung hindi nya ginawa yun..

nagkaron na rin si hubby ng "sideline" before..halos 4 months pa lang si baby ko nun..buti trained ako ng nbi at csi =))) ayun nahuli ko rin.. kanina kinonfront ko si hubby about this,pero he assured me naman na talagang naawa lang sya dun sa girl kase binubugbog yun ng asawa nya..inamin naman nya na nag kamali at nasaktan nya ako..and i believe him..oo minsan may doubt or i can say na paranoid ako..pero mag asawa kami e..kelangan ko sya pag katiwalaan..thank God wala ng incident na ngyareng ganon..at sana wala na forever.

I keep on praying na sana wala ng asawang manloko, ewan ko ba. ang sakit ng ganong pakiramdam.  :'(
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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #89 on: November 04, 2012, 10:58:52 AM »
nung nalaman kong may kabit asawa ko, i was so devastated, kung wala lang akong mga anak baka nagpakamatay na ako sa sobrang sakit, grabe nagka-insomia pa ako., till now di ako nakakatulog ng maayos kung wala ako tini-take na medicine.  its been 15 months since the discovery and everytime naaalala ko same pa rin ang intensity ng sakit na parang feeling mo kahapon lang nangyari.

sa case ko kasi iba eh, diba usually pagnabuko ang lalaki magso-sorry sila.  sa case ng husband ko ito sabi nya "bakit ako hihingi ng tawad, wala akong ginawang mali sayo", bagkos sa akin sila nagalit to the point na pinapalayas at minumura ako lagi ng asawa ko.  grabe ang pag-damage nila sa pagkatao ko.  sibihan pa ako na napaka-insecure ko, kung isa-isahin ko lahat ng masasakit na salita na naibato sa akin baka aabutin ako bukas bago ma-post to.

may mga friends si kabit na nagpi-pm sa fb ko, masakit kasi parang ako pa ang may kasalanan kung bakit nagloko asawa ko.  at kung magsalita sila parang kilala nila ako. 

mga sis how would you react kung nalaman nyo na after the discovery of cheating di naputol communication nila. 15 months na since the discovery then boom! nalaman ko nagtatawagan at text-an pa sila.  claim ni husband naputol na daw ang relasyon nila right away nung nalaman ko pero di naman naputol communication nila.  di ba pang gagago yun kasi sa loob ng 15 months na yun pinaniwala nya ako na di na sila nagkikita at wala na syang alam tungkol dun sa girl.  pero ito ngayon naglabasan na lasty september 2012 nagpadala pa ang card yung babae at nagkaka-text pa sila.

g**o sila niloko nila ako, umasa ako at naniwala na wala na talaga silang connection.  pero ngayon sa asawa ko ako mas may galit kasi sya itong may commitment sa akin, sya itong mas may isip, sya ang mas nakakatanda.  ngayon si kabit nanggugulo, nagtext sya sa akin the other day galit sya sa asawa ko kasi pinaasa daw sya nito, sabi ni kabit sa akin di naman daw sya mag-iingay kung di sya sobrang nasaktan.  binulag daw sya sa lahat ng kasinungalingan ng asawa ko, pati mga plano nya sa buhay binago daw ng asawa ko at pinaasa sya na sya lang aw at sabi ng asawa ko dun sa kanya na "iyong-iyo lang ako".  nasaktan daw sya.  ni-reply ko sya "t**** ka alam mong may asawa pinatulan mo! kung anong sakit ang nararamdaman mo ngayon walang katiting yan sa sakit na nararamdaman ko! kung pwede lang kitang patayin, pinatay na kita! magdusa ka!"..


di ko alam mga sis kung ano gagawin ko o paano magreact sa ganitong sitwasyon.  for 15 months akala ko ok na kamki na wala na talaga silang communication nung babae.  15 months na ding palaisipan sa sakin kung bakit nagawa ng asawa ko ang mga iyon sa askin.  di naman ako ganun ka-pangit, walang justification ang ginawa nila s akin.

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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #90 on: November 04, 2012, 01:50:53 PM »
sis feb, demanda mo kun ginugulo ka,....ang kapal ng kabit cya pa ang nanggugulo...t@ra@nt*do sila


naku naiinis ako sa mga kabit na ganyan akala mo sila pa un agrabyado ang kapal super!!!

sis hayne, sana un asawa mo, wala na talagang sideline....
"The LORD is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge. He is my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold."
                                     -Psalm 18:2

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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #91 on: November 04, 2012, 02:22:45 PM »
sis fayep anong kaso ang pwede isampa sa babae?  may hand written love letter sya sa husband ko, basis ba yun?  sabi nya dun mahal kita wala akong pakialam kung may asawa ka.  nag-pm sya sa akin sa fm the 4 days ago sabi nya countless times daw sila nga-sex, at kahit saan lugar daw nila ginagawa.  sabi pa nya naaawa sya sa akin kasi pinagsiksikan ko daw sarili ko sa husband ko, matagal na daw ako di mahal ng asawa ko at sabi pa nya shotgun wedding lang daw yung sa amin ng asawa ko.  sobrang nakakainis. 

nung oct 28 ginawang cover photo ni kabit ang love letter din ng husband ko sa kanya, talagang broadcast na nya kung anong meron sila ng asawa ko.  nung nabasa ko letter ng husband ko sa fb ng girl para akong binuhusan ng malamig na tubig, may line dun na "if i have  another life to give, i give it to you." "let's fight for our love till the end".  meron pa dun na in 40 years of his existence daw ngayon lang sya sumaya ng ganito at pinagdarasal nya na di mawala sa kanya.  grabe sis ako na asawa ni minsan sa sulat or verbal di ko yun narinig sa kanya.

 feeling ko di na ako mahal ng asawa ko, ngayon iniisip ko bakit pa ako mag-stay kung wala na, ayaw ko mag-stay because of the kids lang, kalukuhan na yun, ano gagawin nya lang akong yaya dito sa bahay.  ang mahirap lang kasi dependent ako sa kanya financially, wala akong work.   di pa alam ng mga parents ko ang sitwasyon, wala akongpinagsabihan ng problema ko kasi ayaw ko na kaawaan ako kahit papano may pride din ako.


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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #92 on: November 04, 2012, 04:35:31 PM »
sis, screenshot mo un mga post nya sa FB or kun san man networking sites un...pwede siguro adultery or concubinage sa asawa mo....

"The LORD is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge. He is my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold."
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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #93 on: November 04, 2012, 05:11:47 PM »
Na share ko na ito before. i would like to share again my painful past experience re: my husband's infidelity...
2years ago, I noticed iba na ang treatment sakin ni hubby. Dati love na love ako, pero parang indifferent na siya sakin. Laging wala sa bahay, nagpapagwapo at nagpapabata (workout, new clothes, pabango, hair dye every month) Saka madalas nagagalit sa akin. Hindi na sweet, halos wala naring sex life... I confronted again & again if may kabit siya, ayaw umamin, so hinayaan ko. Until early last year nagkaroon na ako ng mga ebidensiya saka siya umamin... Nabsa ko mga FB messages nila, my hubby told the kabitch "I've never felt love this way before", "Ikaw ang gusto kong makasama habang buhay" " I will love u till my last breath" super sakit! i even learned may nawawalang more than 2M sa account namin (in 1 year's time), lagi silang magkasama out of town (when i thought he was working). I even saw an unsent email to me, na nagpapaalam, he was willing to leave me & our 2 kids, makasama lang niya ang kabitch!
My 1st reaction was to get mad & palayasin siya. But after reading several books about marriages/affairs. I did the unthinkable. I told him I still love him no matter what.  I told him na kahit na malaking mali/kasalanan ang nagawa niya I still forgive him. I told him tigilan lang niya si kabitch we will start all over again. I even asked for forgiveness bec I know madami rin akong naging pagkukulang as a wife. His reaction? Sobrang nagulat coz akala niya magiging violet ako at palayasin siya. In the next few months, I changed my ways, I became the best wife I could be. I applied many things I learned in the book "fascinating womanhood". I served him & loved him & respected him. I lost some weight & beautify myself by going to the parlor/learn make up/wear clothes that flattered me. During this time, nakita ko unti unti gumaganda ang treatment sakin ni hubby, we became sweet like newlyweds, we have sex every night, i saw he was happy... pero paulit ulit ko rin nahuhuli na may communication parin sila, he still visits her, message her, texts/call her, even gives her money every time they meet...
After 6 months, napuno na ako. I told him nagawa ko na lahat, pero ayaw parin niya tigilan si kabitch. So I told him I release him & he should leave the house. This time, lumuhod siya, saying na talagang ako ang pinipili niya at tunay na mahal niya, hindi hindi na niya pupuntahan si kabitch. Kesyo naaawa lang daw siya hindi niya agad nahiwalayan. Still, pinalayas ko siya...
He went back to his province. He didnt go to the girl. lagi niya ako tinatawagan para humingi ng tawad. Bumalik siya sa church with my in laws at doon nagbalik loob siya sa Diyos. After 1 month, I told him he can come back na. But told him ifever I caught him being unfaithful again, I will file for annulment na. Then, I still continue to be a good wife, I want him to see Im the best, bakit pa siya hahanap ng iba? Today, we have better marriage than ever. Hindi na talaga niya binalikan yung girl. Its been 15 months narin. Im praying maging ok na talaga kami mag asawa...
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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #94 on: November 04, 2012, 05:21:41 PM »
Kung hinaharass ka ng kabitch. Wag mong patulan. I understand ang sarap murahin at sabunutan, pero baka ikaw ang ang mag mukhang masama at siya ang maging victim. Remember yung viral video ng Market market? yung nahuli ni mrs si hubby with kabitch? diba inupakan niya ng husto si kabitch? sinabunitan, sinipa, sinaktan, minura... pero ang ending si hubby dinefend si kabitch at sabay sila umalis. Look... ang sympathy ni hubby mapupunta sa kabitch.
In case u want your marriage to work out, wag na wag mong awayin si kabitch. Advise ko lang naman based on my own experience...

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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #95 on: November 04, 2012, 06:55:40 PM »
kakaiyak naman din pala married life story mo sis gab54.  ganun din husband ko nung di ko pa nahuli, nagtataka ako lagio nagpapagwapo, di naman mahilig sa perfume peron nung panahong yun grabe lagi syang mabango, lagi nagpapa-facial, foot spa, mga pambagets na polo sinusuot, basta dami nagbago pati air freshener ng mga sasakyan pinalitan ng pang-girl na amoy tapos lahat ng sasakyan namin pina-tinted yuing di talaga kita sa loob.

august last year nahuli ko sa text at sa laptop nya mga pic nila nung girl, inaway-away ko si kabit, sio kabit maldita din.  nakita ng husband ko na sobrang nasaktan ako sa pangangabit nya pero di ako ang kinampihan, si kabit.  rason nya kasi ayaw nya daw humaba ang issue.  may ginawa kasi ako sa kabit, sabi magde-demanda daw fam,ily nung kabit againts me, para di daw matuloy yung complain againts sa akin pinakisamahan nya lang daw maayos si kabit para mag-iba isip.  diba kagaguhan rason nya. 

sis gab try ko yung approach mo pero di ako sure kung kaya ko parang ang hirap naman gawin, katapos nya akong lukohin pagseserbihan ko sya?  ngayon nag-uusap naman kami pero ramdam namin pareho na may tension between us.  as much as possible iniiwasan ko sya, naiinis ako sa pagmumukha nya.




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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #96 on: November 04, 2012, 10:16:57 PM »
sis feb24, mahirap talaga gawin, araw araw para akong praning na binabantayan ko si hubby (pero hindi nagpapahalata). gabi gabi umiiyak ako kahit katabi ko si hubby matulog. isip ko, pano niya nagawa sakin ito? may duda din ako na nag aantay lang sila ng magandang tyempo para magtanan, maybe get more money? my sisters even told me napaka t**** ko, martyr, etc.
Actually hindi ako martyr. In fact palaban ako. Kaya lang iba ako lumaban. I strategized... I dont want awayin si kabitch kasi siya ang magmumukhang kawawa. Ayoko awayin si hubby dahil yun ang gusto ni kabitch para sila na ang magsama. Actually, many times of my pagiging good wife started with "acting". Pero I prayed in my heart that the Lord will help me and little by little, I felt happier being a good wife, it became a joy to respect him, to admire him, to serve him, etc. Dati dati kasi I always take him for granted, at laging busy sa biz, mainitin pa ang ulo ko at nagger.
If u have time, Pls read the book "fascinating womanhood", afterwards another book "Beat the b****". Im not sure 100% magiging happy ending kayo. pero before u give up, why not try another approach? if all fails, saka ka nalang umayaw.

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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #97 on: November 05, 2012, 08:13:26 AM »
thanks much sis gab :) nagdownload na ako "fascinating womanhood" mamaya start kong basahin.  minsan nakakagaan din ng loob hearing insights form women na biktima ng infedility yung tipong ay di ako nag-iisa sa ganitong problema.  i'll take your advice sis, thanks po ulit. :)

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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #98 on: November 05, 2012, 11:32:35 AM »
oo next time mag kwento ako.. mahirap lang kase kalimutan kahit super tagal na...

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Re: kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 3)
« Reply #99 on: November 06, 2012, 01:17:46 AM »
^penge ng copy din.
@gab54 i'm glad u were able to turn your marriage around.

@feb24 if you want to give up on your husband now pwede naman. Focus on yourself and what would help you heal. Then pag okay na sila, and okay ka na rin, agawin mo na ulit what's yours. If he fell in love with you before, you can make him fall in love with you all over again.

As for me, what helped me get through the pain of infidelity is reading the book, love and respect by eggerichs, and some marriage movies like Fireproof, Not Easily Broken.
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