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3-month rule
« on: August 21, 2012, 07:53:51 pm »
hi there mga sis! Kakatapos ko lang panoorin ulit yung One More Chance nila John Lloyd and Bea at dahil sa panonood e naisip kong hingin ang opinion nyo tungkol sa 3-month rule na binanggit ni Popoy sa movie. Sa tingin nyo, dapat ba talaga at least 3-months na kaung hiwalay ng ex mo bago ka makipag relasyon ulit? Why or why not?
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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #1 on: August 22, 2012, 02:22:07 am »
depende yun sis sa tao, halimbawa today sila nag break at  kung feeling nya kinabukasan, limot na nya agad yung dating karelasyon, then ok na sya makipag bf or gf. Pero syempre different people, different rin kung gaanomkahaba ang recovery. Merong mabilis, merong ang tagal at depende rin sa nangyari sa relationship nyo.
 Bago ko nakilala yung husband ko, i have 2 serious relationships, years bago ko  naramdaman na ready na ako makipagrelasyon dun sa isa pero dun sa isa, months lang and i'm ready na again to love.he!he!

Although feeling ko nga medyo maikli ang 3 months.

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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #2 on: August 22, 2012, 05:04:44 am »
i don't believe this 3 month rule, like me sa ex ko 5 years kami pero sa 5 years na yun dami niyang ginawa na hindi maganda, mga bagay na nagbigay ng dahilan para unti unti mabawasan ang pagmamahal at respeto ko sakanya at sa pagkatao ko hanggang sa lokohin ko na din siya pero nagsawa din ako iniwan ko na siya ng tuluyan, umiyak ako mga 1 araw lang mejo malungkot kasi may attachment na eh almost 5 years kami magkasama, that's when my hubs comes in, siya yun lagi kong kausap 24/7 after a month naging kami, paniniwala ko kasi only love can mend a broken heart, so why wait kung wala na talaga for the ex ? pero ito nga nauulit nanaman yun sequence kay hubs ngayon, unti unti na din lumalayo loob ko sakanya 2 years pa lang kami ngayon pero yun mga trauma na binigay niya sakin daig pa ng sa nauna

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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #3 on: August 22, 2012, 05:43:35 am »
Kung mabilis ka maka move on and your ready... your heart will know the answer.
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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #4 on: August 22, 2012, 06:34:42 am »
siguro nga depende sa tao kunhaano sya katagal mag hold on at mag let go. Like ako for example, medyo matagal ako mag hold on. Yung after sa 1st bf ko, it took me 6 years bgo ko nagawang mag enter ulit into new relationship... Tapos yung sa 2nd bf ko naman  (we lasted for 4 years), after we broke up, i waited and hoped for 3 and a half years... 2008 nya ako iniwan tapos april this year lang ako nakipag bf ulit.. So as you see mga sis, medyo matagal talaga ako mag hold on...
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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #5 on: August 22, 2012, 06:41:38 am »

If you've completely lost your feelings towards your previous partner, then you're ready to enter into a new relationship. It could be weeks, months or years ;)
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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #6 on: August 22, 2012, 07:19:16 am »
i don't think you can put your heart and/or your mind on a schedule. 

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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #7 on: November 11, 2012, 04:00:27 pm »
^ i agree. but normally kasi it takes us at least 3 months to cry, feel sorry for our selves (hehe) and convince our selves na we are better off. thus the 3-month-rule
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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #8 on: March 21, 2013, 02:02:29 am »
i had this 1 year and 8 months relationship. which is ako sugar mommy. nabuntis niya ko. naging cold siya sa akin sa buong pagbubuntis ko. nagquit ng work ng 5 months ako nagbubuntis at naging tambay. nadepress ako. namatay baby ko ng 8months palang siya sa tiyan ko and handa na ko that time. naging sweet siya sa akin after ko manganak kasi bumalik na katawan ko.and tyaka lang ako nakipagbreak,i mean yeah mabait na siya nun magwwork na daw but until now na wala na kami la pa sya work. narealize ko lahat ng katangahan ko non. habang kami nitong ex ko i met a guy na sobrang kabaliktaran netong ex ko. and we started dating. naging kami and i broke up with my ex. i know he doesnt deserve na may kasabayan pero nung  ako sa pagbubuntis ko doon ko unti unti kinimkim galit at sama ng loob ko. i think ang 3 month rule is depende sa situation.

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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #9 on: May 10, 2013, 02:04:11 pm »
It took me that amount of time din (3 months) before I started dating again.Depends din siguro sa need to grieve and feel better.
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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #10 on: May 10, 2013, 02:13:10 pm »
hindi siguro sya applicable sa lahat. it depends kasi how long the relationship was, yung quality ng relationship bago mag break, disposition/attitude of the person and, if applicable, closure.
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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #11 on: May 16, 2013, 11:16:28 pm »
sa isang ex ko (which lasted 7 yrs), about 4 months lang I started dating na ulit. Kasi I got tired of the fact na hindi talaga ko makamove on. So it felt like i needed to divert my attention sa iba. Kaso hindi din siya nag last. Rebound ang nangyari! LOL! *guilty!
So for the next few months, nagdate nalang muna ko without the plan of going into a relationship. I say, dating helped me move on kasi you learn new things when you meet different people. :D

I agree with you angelzero  specially dun sa "how long, quality ng previous relationship and closure"   ;D
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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #12 on: May 17, 2013, 04:43:09 pm »
After i broke off with my ex ( 10 yrs kami nun ), i started dating again after 2 months.
Napagod ako sa kakaiyak n kakamukmok because of the break up. I told him na i just broke
off with my ex, ok lang naman sa kanya, he still pursue me ( takot ko lang din baka maging
rebound guy ko cya ). He told me na tutulungan nya ako maka move on, na nandyan lang cya
para sa akin, we dated for 3 yrs.

Now i am happily married to him :) we are expecting our little bundle of joy.


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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #13 on: June 04, 2013, 02:16:36 pm »
sisses help..bakit yung ex ko, mga 3 weeks plang kami break sabi nya nakikipagdate na siya. so my possibility na after a week or 2 eh ngddate na sila. nagtataka lang ako kasi nung ngbreak kami hindi na kami ngusap, as in closure, wala. tinext ko lang siya after 3 weeks to make sure that we're okay, para may closure. more than 2 years din kami so hindi ko maintindihan bakit ang bilis nya mgmove on.

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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #14 on: June 04, 2013, 02:18:44 pm »
by the way, ex niya yung bago niyang kadate, the girl I was paranoid about.

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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #15 on: June 13, 2013, 03:31:05 pm »
^^Kung quality naman ang relationship niyo, I don't think he's moved on yet. Minsan kasi mas magaling magtago ang mga lalake, naghahanap ng pagkakaabalahan or back to the dating arena kaagad. There's also a possibility that they're already in contact with each other nung kayo pa...

I don't believe in the 3-month rule. Ek-ek lang yan ni John Lloyd hehe. Kung mabilis ka nakamove on, good for you. Meron naman iba years pa before maging ready ulit. Kanya-kanya naman yan... Wag ng ipagpilitan yang 3-month rule para lang di kaagad makita si ex na may bago ng kasama haha. :)) It'll happen eventually anyway.

I was in a serious relationship for over six years, first boyfriend ko 'to. A month after we broke up, he was dating na pala one of his kabarkada (nagcomfort daw sa kanya). I took it badly, at pinag-usapan pa nga namin ng officemates ko yang pesteng 3-month rule na yan. Haha. Bitter lang. Anyway, sabi ko sa sarili ko di ako makikipagdate unless I know that I'm out of the rebound phase, i.e., I really, genuinely, like the guy and tipong seryosohan na. Ang nangyare I started dating this guy after 4-5 months haha. Kakatuwa lang kasi bagong kakilala lang kami, and nalaman ko na, oo nga, you'll learn to love again. :)) Sabi nga nila, love comes when you least expect it.

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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #16 on: June 22, 2013, 12:36:27 am »
I think it depends sa ability ng tao magheal. Although personally, I think it is healthier if you abide by the three-month rule. Kung pwede pa nga mas matagal pa. It gives you enough time kasi to assess what went wrong sa last relationship. You can mull things over. Para next time you enter a relationship, maiwasan mo na yung mistakes na nagawa mo sa dati.
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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #17 on: June 24, 2013, 05:34:42 pm »
Di ko to nasunod. We broke up in May and sinagot ko si boyfie ng July.  ;D
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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #18 on: July 06, 2013, 01:55:59 am »
I agree with iseenessie, you need to take a rest and look back. kasi I believe din that kung gugustuhin mo talaga mainlove sa isang tao, mangyayari talaga yun. you will find good things in that person kaya as per moving on, kung meron kang isang tao na magffocus ka, maiin love ka talaga dun.

nababaliw lang ako sa situation ko, parang pnpafeel nya pa talagang super okay siya ngayon nung last na tinext ko. parang oa lang para sakin hehe kasi kung talagang moved on ka na, hindi exaggerated replies mo, like I'm doing good, mga ganun lang. hindi yung ang reply pa sakin "very good" haha ;D
my something strange sakanya feeling ko..

& of all people, yung ex niya pa, ano ba yun..

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Re: 3-month rule
« Reply #19 on: July 06, 2013, 02:06:08 am »
mga sis ito pa problem ko, may sinisingil kasi ko sakanya, ayaw nya na ko ipay kasi daw ako daw yung nakipagbreak. paulit ulit siyang ganun, dahil daw sa decision kong yun. hindi daw ako marunong makipagcommit. gusto ko man palipasin yun, mejo malaking halaga kasi yun eh. kung pwede ko lang kalimutan yun at nang makamove on na completely eh hindi pwede. parang I hate the fact that I have to reach out to him after a couple of years para lang makuha yung amount na yun :( sana may tumulong sakin dito :(

 

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