Life, and relationships , unfold like an onion -- by layers.
You don't get from Pt.A to Pt.Z without going through some letters. Maybe not all letters in between -- but definitely, some letters in between.
What am I trying to say?
1st -- let's take a look at that Player.
Is it possible for a Player to reform? Sure,anything is possible. But it isn't practical to hold your breathe for what's just a Possibility.
His Ex is still running after him? You find that somehow erases his rep as a skirt chaser? Really, now.
SEE him for what he is. Even scorpions can be captured, at no harm -- but you never see it as anything but a scorpion.
2nd -- "KASO HINDI TALAGA PAAWAT ANG PUSO KO."
There you go, Girl. Even if ihilera all your family, friends, and barangay-mates with a huge NO sign -- you will go ahead put yourself in his path. So, be honest with yourself.
3rd -- NATATAKOT NA AKONG MAGKAMALI ULIT.
Nothing you can do can guarantee he won't hurt you.....BUT
BUT you can calibrate the pace/degree of your falling in love with him.
From A to Z nga.
That is what courtship is all about -- the gradual getting to know you, the gradual osmosis
Give both of you the time & chance to assess each other.
Sabi nga, , in another thread -- love/marriage/a relationship -- is a gamble.
No guarantees, really.
So, you gotta gamble only so much of yourself -- sugal nga eh, so baket mo itataya lahat?
Always leave enough so you can walk away & resume/restart your life.
What am I trying to say ba?!
Don't be scared & pickle your life away -- aasim ka lang.
Go try this guy out -- keep your eyes open, your head working, while your heart palpitates -- doable!
But IMO, do not let him call the shots or set the pace.
Players are reined in by busting/playing their balls. No, I am not being literal & bastos. Think it out.
If, between Pts A & Z you feel you are being used/your self respect compromised/he is a player still -- just step out of the alphabet. You should mind that you never ever ever ever get to that point you believe you have No Choice but to have a frog in your life. Kokak.
Go, go, go have fun. You don't gain anything by not risking anything.
But TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
You have been forewarned ha!
So if the 2 of you don't get to complete the alphabet -- he should be the Ex running after you this time.