he keeps on mentioning his new girl ofc mate

[stylishmomy]

^I think you still need to know more info about this girl sis. Just coz your man is being careful in not mentioning her anymore, doesnt mean his view on her has changed.

[moonie]

Happily married with kids ba talaga yung girl?  Baka yung bf mo lang yung nababaliw sa girl pero hindi naman reciprocated yung feeling.

[evilwoman]

We had separate issue last time na nag trigger talaga sakin makipag break. Ayaw nya, kasi daw we've been through a lot. ang dami na naming plans and slowly coming into reality.  So kung ayaw nya makipag hiwalay does it mean this girl means nothing to him?

not necessarily. pwede din namang di pa sya masyadong sure sa girl (either sure na willing igive up ikaw for her or sure na papatulan sya) kaya ayaw pang kumalas sa iyo. talasan mo na lang ang pakiramdam mo.

[mslcgrey]

We had separate issue last time na nag trigger talaga sakin makipag break. Ayaw nya, kasi daw we've been through a lot. ang dami na naming plans and slowly coming into reality.  So kung ayaw nya makipag hiwalay does it mean this girl means nothing to him?

Not really. Something like this happened to me eons ago. Pwedeng hindi pa kasi siya sure dun sa girl so hindi muna siya makikipaghiwalay sayo. Baka naman walang mangyari so to be safe na may gf pa rin sya. In my case noon, nakipagbreak na siya to be with the girl tapos after a few days nakipagbalikan tapos after a few days nakipagbreak uli. Si girl kasi hindi pa sure yata tapos nung nasigurado niya na reciprocated yung feelings saka siya nakipagbreak sa akin. Excuse pa niya nun eh immature ako. Well, I was 17 hehe..
well, i'm happily married na naman now!

[agape]

Yup. Pag sure na si BF mo na makukuha nya yung girl, ready na syang iwanan ka. Me mga lalaking ganun, sigurista.

Dun sa story ko, ang nangyari BF didn't want to break-up kasi nanliligaw stage palang sya sa girl officemate, pero nabuking na sya ni GF thru his GUILT, kaya si GF naging visible sa lahat ng officemate friends nila, and GF made others aware that BF and the 3rd party girl are getting too close, even when everyone else are defending that "they are JUST FRIENDS".
si girl officemate kunwari oblivious sa mga nangyayaring ligawan/paramdaman panay pa-charming lang. Girl Officemate is intelligent, pretty and "mabait" like his GF, mejo nagsawa lang ke GF kc conservative at si Girl Officemate ay lumandi ng todo kasi NBFSB (no bf since birth).

GF waited until BF already proposed to girl officemate, para me evidence, para wala na silang ma-deny both, although deny pa rin syempre, at defending pa rin some officemates, other officemates kept quiet na lang and didn't take sides. And since parang buking na sila sa office, and si girl officemate ayaw masabing mang-aagaw ng BF ng iba, and masira ang reputation nya, kesa mataas ang standards nya para patulan si BF, she herself stayed away na. Si girl officemate na yung nang-aaway sa BF and GF and blaming them both for involving her in the Love Triangle.

[agape]

Happily married with kids ba talaga yung girl?  Baka yung bf mo lang yung nababaliw sa girl pero hindi naman reciprocated yung feeling.

for all the girls going crazy over your BF, (at deadma lang sya, or nakikisakay sa flirtations)
and for your BF to go crazy over some other girl, (he has feelings for her, hati na puso nya sayo)
are 2 very different problems and has different solution din.

[mimiku]

Sweetie, a BF who is always talking about another girl with you is a RED FLAG. My ex did the same thing. Funny, but in an almost same scenario as yours. Girl was in a relationship and a single mom. He always talked about how noisy and annoying she was at the office, that she's so fat and he swore in all eternity that she was her number 1 enemy since they never really mesh well "professionally". And then boom, it became kokocrunch! After a couple of weeks, I've learned in an earth-shattering moment, that they are sort of dating na. Until things got so ugly I lost him over a woman he swore that he would never even glance back even if she was the last woman on earth.

The thing is, guys will never talk about anything, specially a woman, if they are not keen or interested on her. Unconsciously, your BF is letting all his thoughts out about someone he likes. Ganyan ang ex ko. I read also somewhere, that one of the signs that your man is cheating on you if he talks about a girl frequently.

So my advice is, never let your guard down. He is cheating on you, perhaps not yet on the below-the-belt-level, but EMOTIONALLY. And if you won't do anything about it, well, I'm sorry sweetie, but you're into a very rough ride, soon. Be wise. Never settle for anything. Huwag kang magpakatanga at magbulagbulagan. Confront him about it.

Hope this helps. 

[stylishmomy]

^sorry to hear about your story sis, but Im just wondering what made your hubby fall for the girl after all his negative comments about her? noisy, annoying and fat? or he was just saying the opposite?

[mimiku]

It's okay Stylishmomy. That was ages ago.

I didn't have the opportunity to see her in person. I'm not really sure what are my BF's intentions when he was talking about her. Saw her profile on FB before and indeed she was kinda heavy but quite pretty. From what I know so far, she's a single mom and was in a relationship back then, but not the father of her child. That was before. I didn't really keep tabs on them.

Maybe he was attracted on her in ways that was not obvious to me back then. Maybe, opposite attracts or they are a lot compatible than what we were. I don't even bother to know it anymore.

I am happy that he's happy. Hindi lang kami para sa isat isa. Malay natin, they are just meant for each other. It's been years and I have already forgiven him.

[stylishmomy]

^thanks for your reply sis, so glad to know it's ages ago and that you have moved on

[ayami]

I just remembered an instance sa buhay ko na palagi minemention ni hubby yung kaklase nyang nakikiflirt sa kanya back in 2009 na boyfriend ko pa lang sya. palaging minemention yung name, yung boyfriend nun na Korean, yung kantang kinanta nya nang buo pati yung rap (kaya ayoko yung Empire State of Mind na song e), etc. later in our married life, inamin nya na na-attract sya dun sa girl na yon. Emotional cheating nga tingin ko sa ganun, lalo na't ineentertain pa nya yung texts ng mga female classmates nya-- sabay replyan sila ng "Ingat ka" "tulog ka na" and other thoughtful messages. tapos ngingiti sya kapag may tinext yung girl, kahit yung message naman ay "Bored na ko sa accounting class namin dito". iba rin yung feeling ko nung time na yon though di ko sya ma-reprimand dati. sana lang di na umulit.

[smoothie]

Ngayon ko lang din naalala, pinapalabas din na hindi interested si girl or nothing is going on between them kasi either may boyfriend or sumusundo sa babae.

[Alucard]

If every time you talk lagi niyang binabanggit ang ibang babae then I guess there is a reason for you to be angry Kasi its disrespectful for a guy to always talk about another girl.

[lavinia48]

Hello jakks!
First of all, if he mentions the girl's name once, for "kwentuhan sake" lang yon. Talk about her twice, baka coincidence lang. BUT, to talk about her for the NTH time? That sure means something! Either he secretly wishes to be with THAT kind of girl, or...he's jealous of her life and he's GAY! Either way, talk to him straight. ASK HIM why he always talks about that girl and make him realize that you want to know the truth and won't take crappy answers. Honesty is the best policy, even in a relationship! So go talk to your man. =)

[lunaria]

red flag!ultimate red flag!of course they will never admit na in a way like nila yung girl..either that or di pa nila narerealize na interested sila sa girl kahit papano..dito nag start ang mga jealousy ko with his annoying flirty (but not pretty haha) officemates! thank god wala na sa office nila yung 2 yun..nakakainis yang ganyan. true enough, nung nameet ko yung isang makapal na muka (take note single mom na sya with 2 kids ha), mega flirt kay bf sa harap ko. and the other girl naman, bastusan. tine-tease pala sila together sa office kahit na alam namang kami & nameet ko na yung mga officemates niya. confront him about it. ask him if he would be comfortable kung puro isang name ng guy lang din binabanggit mo. init pa din ng ulo ko whenever i remember this although matagal na, kasi it happened a lot of times already.

[sixteen16]

nangyari na ito sa akin.. lagi kinukuwento at minemention nya madalas itong girl, una ok lang sa akin.. kasi nga 10 yrs ang gap nila.. bata daw.. but nung nakakaramdam na ko ng kakaiba (woman's instinct), hinuhuli-huli ko na.. laging may load si bf. tinanong ko may iba syang katext bukod sa akin wala daw. nung hiniram ko ang phone at tinignan ang log.. aba panay message nitong girl. tinanong ko sya ulit if katext nya itong si girl hindi daw.. so using his no. tinext ko si girl pretending na ako si bf. aba sumagot ng "akala ko ba matutulog ka na".. so ibig sabihin magkatext nga sila.. nanginig ako sa galit.

todo tanggol ni bf dito sa babae.. bata daw.. sinagot ko na lang ng "ano kayo? naglalaro ng bahay-bahayan? jackstone? sino niloloko mo?"

[lunaria]

^ tama girls, wag tayong magpaloko sa ganito. i don't think they'll ever admit..either may tinatago talaga or di pa nila narerealize na attracted sila sa girl or they find her interesting. parang dito nagsisimula ang cheating,emotional affair man or physical. i-confront habang maaga pa. pag narealize naman nilang mali & talagang mahal ka nila, maaagapan pa.

[aquacharly]

true na wala sa hitsura yan. kahit anong ganda mo, kung may nagustuhang iba na mukhang halimaw, makakahanap at makakahanap yan ng ipipintas sa yo.

So true. Kahit na Miss Universe ka, kahit na you are a Total Performer & served him hand and foot for soo many years -- pag naka isip yan to scratch an itch, ikaw na mukhang aswang sa kanya.  Yes, d1ckheads literally lose their heads..hahaha.

Yes, darling T/S sis -- where there's smoke, there's fire.  Or, a fire being started.

Think it out well, develop a strategy, give it your best, but set a deadline.
No one  can be controlled for long; love cannot be forced (or lust denied?); & sh1t can hit the fan.
But sh1t need not stick to you.
Yes, you can end up heartbroken; but you do not need to be the Loser too. 
It is the Last Laugh in a better life that is the best revenge, after tears that must dry up.  Such is life. Learn, and live well.

[shineadet]

mukang ang dami naman nilang napgagkukwentuhan, TS. be very vigilant, sis. 

[monbla]

Think it out well, develop a strategy, give it your best, but set a deadline.
No one  can be controlled for long; love cannot be forced (or lust denied?); & sh1t can hit the fan.
But sh1t need not stick to you.
Yes, you can end up heartbroken; but you do not need to be the Loser too. 
It is the Last Laugh in a better life that is the best revenge, after tears that must dry up.  Such is life. Learn, and live well.

I love it aquacharly! My heart goes out to women who end up with cheating a'holes. Some of you want to nip any threat to your relationship in the bud, or fight for what's yours etc etc BUT consider too that maybe you would be better off without them jerks anyway so eff them. Mahirap lang iassess kung kelan ka ba susuko so know where to draw the line...