career or family? which would you choose & why?

[egarcia]

for me, i would pick family. pinili ko to kasi yung career mo pwde mawala naman at any moment or any day pero yung family mo lage anjan sayo.

[cosmochick]

I'd choose family over career anytime. Kahit na I'm at my peak sa career ko ngayon, I would never hesitate to drop everything for my family... I want  to focus and devote my time on things that will matter in 10 20, 30 years ... I want to spend time with them while I still can because tomorrow may not come...tomorrow may no longer be an option.

[k_heart]

Syempre family. I'm working hard because of my family. Pero syempre at this point,hindi ko naman carry na hindi mag work at mag rely lang sa suweldo ni hubby. pero kung pwede lang, i will stop working to be a nurturing mom and loving wife! Shucks, dream kong maging SAHM someday! : )

[mariasans]

of course i would choose my family over my career any day. no matter what kasi your family will always be there for you

[jo1]

i would choose both... motherhood (i have a 4yr old) and career both define me as a woman and i cannot function if i do not have both career and family in my life... i realized this not long after i took a long break from my hectic work just to focus on family -- i was very happy for the extended time with my son, but i also felt a growing emptiness ...  i realized, for me, kulang pa rin...

yes, it's a daily balancing act... yes, there will be sacrifices that will deeply hurt (i missed my baby's first step and his first word while on business trips that later led to job promotions)... yes, there will be tough choices when you prioritize (shifting to lower-paying but more time-flexible work)  yes, i will get stabs of jealousy when my son's classmates traipse around in home-made, handcrafted halloween costumes while my son wears something store-bought...

yes, it's a constant struggle... but i understand now that i absolutely need both in my life and that i would rather fight to keep them in my life rather than fight my own longing... i feel very fortunate to have been born into a post-feminist generation that accords women such a choice as this...

[chianti]

Well said, sis jo1. Ako din I'd choose both and I'm lucky to be in a situation to have both. And lucky to have a husband who understands and respects my decisions in life. 

[jo1]

^ ah yes, sis chianti... supportive husbands really are invaluable to stay-at-work moms/wives... minsan din naiisip ko, it's not fair that it's us women who are exclusively confronted with this choice... maybe i'm generalizing pero minsan i can't help feeling cornered by tradition/society...

[daintrix]

If it comes from your hubby na then stop working.  I think he can provide for your family naman.  If he's income is enough why not di ba?  Marami rin [textspeak!] na mommies na nagwowork because they have to. 

[bb]

ako din both. pag ginive up ko ang career, i don't think my fulfillment and happiness will be complete.

[firstvitaplus]

I'm sure your husband will not ask you to stop working if he can't provide for you. Just think about it, your husband is away for more than half of the year and for sure your time is also consumed by your work especially if you need to travel so your husband might have thought na since he can provide for you and the family, much better if you can focus in taking care of your child.

You have to remember, our children will only be young once and whatever stage they are in now, it only happens once.Kapag lumaki na sila at may time ka na because you have given up your work, baka naman sila na ang walang time for you.Huwag ka manghinayang for the time that you will spend with your child, if you really want to work, find other stuff that you can do that will not consume much of your time at magkakaroon ka pa rin ng oras para sa anak mo if your hubby will agree unless he really wants you to be a full time mom.

[nessy]

nung nagsama kami ng partner ko, wala akong work, pero all my life i was working talaga.nung mga 6 motnhs na kami, i decided to work.una ayaw nya kasi dahilan nya may work naman daw siya at kaya nya naman ibigay pangangailangan ko pati luho ko.peor reason ko is, mas masarap ang may sariling pera.at saka kasi sanay na rin ako ng nagwowork talaga.so pinayagan nya rin ako.then nung mga almost 1 year na ako nagwowork, nagkakagulo na kami.lagi sinsabi ni partner na mag-resign na daw ako.kasi si partner good provider naman yan, pero siya yung tipo na kelangan talagang asikasuhin hindi dahil gusto niya.talagang dapat talaga siya tutukan,meaning, asikasuhin and all. kasi based sa past niya, talagang he needs a lot of tender loving care. so, dahil nga sa work ko, night shift ako, napabayaan ko siya.hanggang dumating sa point na bumalik sa sa bisyo nya.im not blaming myself sa pagbalik nya sa bisyo, desisyon nya yun hindi ko ginusto yon, ang naisip ko lang, siguro kung hindi ko siya napabayaan, kung hindi ako nagpumilit magwork just to satisfy myself, hindi siguro kami hahantong sa ganito.kasi okay na okay naman kami nugn hindi pa ako nagwowork.sabi sa akin ng supervisor ko, "next time,dont ever compromise your relationship.while it is true that we all work because we all need money, it is still your family that you go home to."tumanim talaga sa utak ko yan.kaso we learned the hard way eh. ngayon, we are in the process of rehabilitating our relationship, our life, so paalis na ri ako sa work ko, pero humingi pa ako sa kanya ng 6 more months.then after this, resign na ako at tulungan ko na lang siya sa business namin.so if i were you, think about your family first.iba kasi yung kaw mismo ang nagaalaga sa asaawa mo kahit sa mga anak mo.good luck sa yo.

[ahanihabi]

i would definitely choose my family rather than career. I think it is important for married women who to stay at home and take care of kids rather than working. Medyo OT na pero in your career, you are replaceable, but in your family, the time you did not spend with them, you cannot get it back. So  basically, get the most out of it.