Author Topic: Ang akbay ba ay "akbay" lang talaga? (Read 1949 times)

sakura_bloom · « **on:** January 27, 2012, 10:01:33 pm »

Natural lang ba for guys na umakbay sa girls? Lalu na kung close or feeling close sila? Yung guys ba kapag umaakbay, putting his hand on your shoulder, pinching your face, "diskarte" na ba iyon? Panghihipo na ba iyon, marking his territory, or wala lang. Touchy lang talaga. May mga guys ba na touchy lang na walang underlying motivation?
Thanks.

k_heart · « **Reply #1 on:** January 27, 2012, 10:17:13 pm »

Depende rin yan sis sa babae. Kasi ang lalaki umaakbay sa babae para man-tsansing. Not necessarily ay serious sila sa babae. Nakikiramdam kung hanggang saan papayag ang babae. Nagsisimula sa akbay, then bababa na, etc,etc.

Ang pag-akbay ay ok naman kung mag gf/bf pero kung wala namang relasyon, aba kung single pa ako, kahit friend ko yung lalaki, aba ay sasampalin ko sya pag umakbay sya sa akin.

So depende rin talaga sa babae. May mga girls din kasi na ok yung akbay akbay sa mga buddy buddy nilang guys.
Pero maraming lalake na malisyoso who sees otherwise pag pumapayag magpa-akbay ang babae.

Just my opinion.

rianne_mallows · « **Reply #2 on:** January 27, 2012, 10:28:17 pm »

i agree with sis k_heart.. nasa babae yun.. ako aside from hubby, si bestie ko lang nakaka-akbay sakin na male.. er... not sure if counted siya kasi he's gay by the way

sa description ni sis sakura... mukang pa-cute si guy eh.. may pinching the face ek-ek kasi

its also possible na "binabakuran" ka na.. so hindi ka na mapormahan ng iba

sakura_bloom · « **Reply #3 on:** January 27, 2012, 11:09:18 pm »

^Salamat sa mga reply mga sis! Actually hindi ako sanay na inaakbayan ng lalaki, kahit na close friends kami. Pero kasi pansi ko lang na itong guy na ito ay umaakbay sa ilang girls. Not just me. Bago pa niya ako inaakbayan, napansin ko na inaakbayan din niya yung ibang girls na friends niya. "Sociable" kumbaga. So dahil hindi lang niya yon ginagawa sakin, at dati pa niya ginagawa, hindi na ako naglalagay ng malisya. Pero tama kayo mga sis. Hindi na ako comfortable eh. Hindi ako sanay. Tapos parang habang tumatagal yung distance between the akbay (between him and me in the said akbay) ay lumiliit.. Sobrang asiwa ako.. Bago ko lang kasing classmate itong si guy dahil bago ako sa class nila, at hindi ko alam kung papano ko sasabihin na uncomfortable ako, lalo na dahil hindi ko siya sinabihan na hindi nga ako comfortable nung simula pa.. Help mga sis.. Thanks.

runawaywithyou · « **Reply #4 on:** January 28, 2012, 12:41:11 am »

^Tingin ko sis pwede yung akbay kung matagal na talaga kayong magkaibigan, buddy buddy. Pero yung kelan lang, di yata maganda yun. Kasi baka akalain ng ibang guys na interested sa yo, eh taken ka na at sya ang boylet mo, he he he.

May guy friend ako na umaakbay sa akin. Walang malisya yun dahil matagal na kaming magkaibigan. Pero sya lang yung nakakagawa ng ganun sa akin kasi nga komportable naman ako sa kanya. Alam ko naman na wala yun.

Kung di ka comfortable na inaakbayan ka, pwede naman siguro sabihin ng maayos sa kanya. Kasi sis baka mamihasa, akalain na type mo yung ginagawa nya. Mamaya nyan sa baywang ka na hawakan, e masuntok mo sya!

sakura_bloom · « **Reply #5 on:** January 28, 2012, 02:36:53 am »

Quote from: runawaywithyou on January 28, 2012, 12:41:11 am

Kung di ka comfortable na inaakbayan ka, pwede naman siguro sabihin ng maayos sa kanya. Kasi sis baka mamihasa, akalain na type mo yung ginagawa nya. Mamaya nyan sa baywang ka na hawakan, e masuntok mo sya!

^Tama sis! baka nga masampal at masuntok ko pa siya kapay baywang na! Kelan ko sasabihin sa kanya na hindi ako comfortable? Sa susunod na gagawin niya? Tapos dahan-dahan ko tatanggalin yung kamay nya sa balikat ko? Pero nahihiya kasi ako na gawin to kapag maraming tao..

Isiapin nila assuming ako at pag-tsismisan pa kami sa school!

ri-anne · « **Reply #6 on:** January 28, 2012, 11:13:40 am »

may ganyang ka-oficemate ako dati.. lahat kaming girls sa team inaakbayan, niyayakap kaya parang nakakahiya sabihin na 'Wag' kahit asiwa na...but i finally got the courage to tell him, nung he caught me off-guard..
while i was seated & busy, bigla na lang he hugged me from behind (he was standing up, and he's a big guy btw...) tapos he kissed the top of my head... siempre nagulat ako at automatic hinampas ko sya ng malakas, tumama sa tyan nya..aray sya sya eh napatingin nga yung mga katabi ko LOL...sabi ko wag mo ng gagawin ulit yan ha...nagddahilan pasya sabi ko ayaw ko chaka naiilang ako....tapos nakijoin na rin yung nga ibang girls LOL

moral of the story: dapat umpisa pa lang sinabihan na bago pa lumala

runawaywithyou · « **Reply #7 on:** January 28, 2012, 12:43:01 pm »

Quote from: sakura_bloom on January 28, 2012, 02:36:53 am

^Tama sis! baka nga masampal at masuntok ko pa siya kapay baywang na! Kelan ko sasabihin sa kanya na hindi ako comfortable? Sa susunod na gagawin niya? Tapos dahan-dahan ko tatanggalin yung kamay nya sa balikat ko? Pero nahihiya kasi ako na gawin to kapag maraming tao.. Isiapin nila assuming ako at pag-tsismisan pa kami sa school!

Huwag sa madaming tao sis, baka mapahiya naman si guy. Yung kayong dalawa na lang, yung light lang ang usapan. Sabihin mo ng diretso na di ka kasi comfortable. Mas ok yung ganun kesa tumagal pa yan at lalo syang mag take advantage.

sarsingkit · « **Reply #8 on:** January 28, 2012, 01:16:00 pm »

when me and my friends were young, we have this wild idea that boys make akbay and feel our arms so they get to know how our boobs feel like. haha. wala lang

on topic: sa close friends ko, ok lang akbay. even beso. pero pag hindi ko close, sinasabihan ko na lang ng pajoke na "uhm hindi tayo close" mukha naman kasi talaga akong antipatika and masungit so gets naman nila agad. pero syempre i dont say it in front of a lot of people.

sakura_bloom · « **Reply #9 on:** January 28, 2012, 04:36:01 pm »

Quote from: sarsingkit on January 28, 2012, 01:16:00 pm

when me and my friends were young, we have this wild idea that boys make akbay and feel our arms so they get to know how our boobs feel like. haha. wala lang

on topic: sa close friends ko, ok lang akbay. even beso. pero pag hindi ko close, sinasabihan ko na lang ng pajoke na "uhm hindi tayo close" mukha naman kasi talaga akong antipatika and masungit so gets naman nila agad. pero syempre i dont say it in front of a lot of people.

^hahaha! Wild enough for reality??? hahaha!

^^Nice line sis "uhm hindi tayo close". Magamit nga to pag kami lang at walang ibang tao. Salamat!

Gambit_loves_Rogue · « **Reply #10 on:** January 30, 2012, 09:11:20 am »

I would say it doesn't mean anything unless your intuition tells you something else. Depende rin sa environment and culture ng lugar kung nasaan ka?

My guy friends hug me and put their arms around me and touch my cheek and knee but I know FOR A FACT that they don't have feelings for me and I also do not have feelings for them. So yes, ang akbay ay akbay lang talaga unless your gut tells you something else.

lorelie78n · « **Reply #11 on:** January 30, 2012, 08:57:00 pm »

I believe ang "akbay ay akbay lang" unless lagyan ng tao ng malisya.....i'm so sorry pero usually karamihan tayong pinoy hindi gaano sanay sa platonic relationship between girls and boys....but if you get to interact kasi sa westerners, wala naman yun talaga plain friendship lang.....

Very intuitive naman tayong girls....we know kung sino walang malisya at kung sino ang mga simpleng maniac....

freelancer_babe · « **Reply #12 on:** January 31, 2012, 08:58:34 pm »

Depends on the guy.

Sa akin nararamdaman ko kung may kasamang malisya o wala.

May mga guys na madali lang sa kanila na umakbay sa girls. Dami kong experience na ganyan. Usually meant nothing.

May mga guys rin na hindi sanay umakbay. Kung ang mga ito ang umakbay sa akin, talagang mas mafi-feel ko na may kasamang malisya, kahit hindi naman sila nanghihipo.

jillai · « **Reply #13 on:** February 01, 2012, 12:16:55 am »

Quote from: lorelie78n on January 30, 2012, 08:57:00 pm

I believe ang "akbay ay akbay lang" unless lagyan ng tao ng malisya.....

i agree with this sis. it only has meaning when you put one to it. It could mean nothing and then it could also mean everything...it depends on you.

ako kasi, walang meaning lahat, unless sabihin na upfront ano ba talaga - aba, mahirap na mag-assume!

on another note, i agree with the others too that if it makes you feel uncomfortable, by all means, let him know. you are very much entitled to your personal space. You will definitely find a way to let him know without making things awkward between the two of you.

janix athena · « **Reply #14 on:** February 01, 2012, 01:05:05 am »

Sis obvious na maniac yang lalakeng yan. Haha! Prangka lang. Kasi nagfi-feeling close sya sayo and sa other girls kahit bagong kakilala. Guys who are matino would have an awareness if a girl is comfortable with an akbay or not. I had that same experience with a guy in the office when I was a newbie. Rule of the thumb girl which would save you from a lot of trouble in the future: If it makes you uncomfortable then it means there's something wrong. Trust your instincts. Ang hirap sa ating mga pinoy we find it so hard to be prangka. Mas minamabuti natin to avoid confrontation. Stay away from that guy sis and find a way to tell him not to do it anymore. Kung pa-joke siguro mas magaan nyang tatanggapin. If hindi madaan sa joke idaan mo na sa deretsahang pag-uusap.

sakura_bloom · « **Reply #15 on:** February 01, 2012, 08:50:39 am »

Quote from: janix athena on February 01, 2012, 01:05:05 am

Rule of the thumb girl which would save you from a lot of trouble in the future: If it makes you uncomfortable then it means there's something wrong. Trust your instincts. Ang hirap sa ating mga pinoy we find it so hard to be prangka. Mas minamabuti natin to avoid confrontation. Stay away from that guy sis and find a way to tell him not to do it anymore. Kung pa-joke siguro mas magaan nyang tatanggapin. If hindi madaan sa joke idaan mo na sa deretsahang pag-uusap.

^^Thanks sis janix!

May idea ka ba na pa-joke ma paraan kung paano sabihan siya? Sadly kasi, I'm not known for my jokes (if any).

janix athena · « **Reply #16 on:** February 01, 2012, 06:57:42 pm »

Quote from: sarsingkit on January 28, 2012, 01:16:00 pm

pero pag hindi ko close, sinasabihan ko na lang ng pajoke na "uhm hindi tayo close" mukha naman kasi talaga akong antipatika and masungit so gets naman nila agad. pero syempre i dont say it in front of a lot of people.

^Magandang idea to sis sakura. You can maybe use a variation of this. When he attempts to make akbay just remove his arms and smile with "Oops di pa tayu close". And then if he attempts again just be on alert and try to stay away. As in don't give him the chance na maka-akbay pa. Makakahalata din yan.

If you have a barkada pwedeng lagi kang dumikit sa kanila so you would have a "protective barrier". And maybe confide in someone trustworthy that this guy makes you uncomfortable and to maybe whisk you away if na-corner ka uli. hehe. Praning ba? Better to be praning sis than being a victim.

bear_touch · « **Reply #17 on:** February 02, 2012, 12:19:07 pm »

It depends on the intention of the guy. May guy na gusto lang mang manyak kaya umaakbay. Meron naman just to comfort you esp kung may problem ka. Meron din naman na tropa-mode as in walang malice

sakura_bloom · « **Reply #18 on:** February 02, 2012, 01:06:44 pm »

Quote from: janix athena on February 01, 2012, 06:57:42 pm

Praning ba? Better to be praning sis than being a victim.

Will do that technique sis!

^^I agree that it's better to be praning than to be a victim. Thanks!

whitelady17 · « **Reply #19 on:** February 02, 2012, 01:48:59 pm »

sis lagyan mo kaya ng pin ang damit mo, tapos iyong matulis na part eh naka usli sa area na nasasayaran ng body part niya, braso kamay etc. lol wala ng usap usap iyan. hahaha.

Meron akong perdible or aspile lagi, alam naman natin maraming madumi isip, sa jeep masyado maka dikit, perdible ang katapat mo. sila na mismo ang uurong palayo. dikit kasi ng dikit eh.

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Author Topic: Ang akbay ba ay "akbay" lang talaga? (Read 1949 times)