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EPAL NA OFFICE MATE!
« on: January 05, 2012, 10:14:08 AM »

Anybody who has epal officemates?  How do you deal with them?
« Last Edit: January 07, 2013, 12:59:02 PM by aubrey888 »

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Re: EPAL NA OFFICE MATE!
« Reply #1 on: January 05, 2012, 10:17:53 AM »
buti na lang wala akong officemate na ganyan. kung may konting diperensya, very mild lang at pwede na iignore. tanong ko lang sis, bakit ka pumapayag? if di mo kaya tanggihan diretso, magdahilan ka na lang kesyo may dadaanan ka pa, etc. makakahalata din yan.

grabe sya, di marunong magcommute at nahihilo sa likod ng kotse pero kayang-kaya multitasking pag lalaki na usapan. :D

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Re: EPAL NA OFFICE MATE!
« Reply #2 on: January 05, 2012, 10:23:11 AM »
hindi naman ganyan ka grabe mga epal dito sa office namin sis, deadma na lang, meron at meron talagang ganyan kahit saan eh. maybe kung kaya mong mag commute, mag commute ka muna ng 1 week siguro, para iparamdam mo sa kaniya na hindi porke may sasakyan ka eh hindi ka na nag commute. Puwede ring isabay mo siya ulit at ituro saan siya puwede sumakay / bumaba etc. Then sabihin mo last time mo na siya isasabay, kasi hindi ka niya service lol.

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Re: EPAL NA OFFICE MATE!
« Reply #3 on: January 05, 2012, 10:31:53 AM »
reason lang yun para makisabay. Di siya marunong mag-commute? Eh di pag-aralan niya.
Wag mo na kasing isabay. Learn to say no kasi yan yung mga taong hanggang pumapayag ka, aabusuhin ka lang.

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Re: EPAL NA OFFICE MATE!
« Reply #4 on: January 05, 2012, 10:39:43 AM »
^ if that's the case sis, learn to say no talaga. direstsahin mo nang ayaw mong napapasali ka sa mga kalokohan nya. imagine, bukod sa totoong bf, mismong pamilya nya kaya nya lokohin. hayaan mo na magalit sa iyo. mga ganyang tao, not worth keeping. good riddance pa kamo pag nagalit sa yo. :)

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« Reply #5 on: January 05, 2012, 10:45:28 AM »
oo sis, baka madamay ka sa galit ng orig bf niya kapag nalaman na merong another guy, tsaka parang eng eng noong original, kung meron kayong lakad, hindi ba siya nag tataka bakit wala kayong mga pics together sa out of town, lol. Question pati ba pagpasok sa office sinasabay mo or pauwi lang? Puwede  mo kasing gawing one time huwag ka magdala ng sasakyan, hayaan mo siyang mag antay sa iyo, then pag pauwi na kayo, saka mo banggitin na mag co-commute ka, doon mo rin makita kung marunong ba talaga siya or hindi, timingan mo naka alis na iyong isang officemate mo na may sasakyan, or better yet, mag usap kayong huwag magbitbit ng sasakyan on a certain date. check mo paanong diskarte ang gagawin niya ;)

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Re: EPAL NA OFFICE MATE!
« Reply #6 on: January 05, 2012, 10:48:45 AM »
naku ma epal nga. nakakkaawa nga siya pero umaabuso naman kasi alam niya na you can't say no.
di mo na [textspeak!] problem yun kung di siya marunong magpublic transpo pero edi magtaxi siya haha! she's not your responsibility di ba, so driver ang drama mo ngayon. if i were you, as advised by other sis here, try to commute for one week. siguro naman makakauwi siya sa bahay ng boylet niya. then after non wag mo sabihin na may dala kang car.

anyway, so pano siya nakakuwi ng madaling araw sa totoong bahay nila? naglalakad lol..or hinahatid ng 2nd bf niya? kung ganon nakakauwi siya sa madaling araw from his bf's house to her home, then why she can't do it pag galing sa office, and paano siya nakakapunta sa office nyo from home kung di siya marunng magcommute? don't tell me sumasabay din siya sayo pagpasok?

anyway, ok naman tumutulong pero wag naman abuso di ba saka ikaw pa nagaadjust kung kaw pag maghihintay sa kanya..well, nakakairita nga ang ganon  ;)

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« Reply #7 on: January 05, 2012, 10:50:48 AM »


@whiteladay17 & ecnarfoj:  i don't have to guts to say no  :(  baka kasi isipin nagdadamot ako...  pinagdaanan ko din naman dati mag commute but i don't feel embarrassed or di ako pretending na di marunong sumakay sa mrt!

sis, you have the right to say no, kasi in the first place sa iyo iyan eh, suwerte na siya payag ka iangkas siya for free, nag invite pa ng iba at wala man lang thank you. isipin na lang niya wala kang wheels.

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Re: EPAL NA OFFICE MATE!
« Reply #8 on: January 05, 2012, 11:02:18 AM »
^ nabayaran ka na ba sis? i think the main problem here is you being not able to say NO.

dati ganyan din ako. di marunong humindi. nakakapagod, nakakabutas ng bulsa, masakit sa loob. tipong happiness ko e massakripisyo para sa ibang tao na wala naman talaga paki sa akin. nung natuto ako sis, super laking ginhawa.. sana ikaw din matuto na para di ka na maaburido sa officemate mo.

isa pa, lagay mo sarili mo sa posisyon ni bf. si husband mo may kinakalantari (example lang ha, knock on wood) pero kinukunsinti lang ng officemate nya. in fact, nagiging tulay pa kasi taga hatid sa kabit. how would you feel? :)

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« Reply #9 on: January 05, 2012, 11:08:39 AM »
sis, the only way is to cut your communication with her, since wala siyang pakialam sa sasabihin ng ibang tao sa kaniya. Sabihin mo na lang, na you will be dealing with her in a professional way na lang, kasi you do not want to be associated to her as a friend.. (tell me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are)

iwasan mo na rin magpahiram ng  money, kasi naka depende na siya sa mga tutulong sa kaniya. kawawang baby :( You already given her advise, that is enough na. sis kung totoong tao man siya, so magpaka totoo ka rin sa kaniya. Kapag nagalit siya sa iyo, use mo ang dialogue niya na "at least ako nagpapaka totoo lang" para manahimik.

sis, huwag mo na antayin ang time na magka bukingan at madamay ka pa sa gusot / gulo na ginawa niya sa sarili niya, in the end ikaw lang rin ang talo sa sitwasyong iyan.

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Re: EPAL NA OFFICE MATE!
« Reply #10 on: January 05, 2012, 11:20:23 AM »
Sa laki ng utang na loob niya sa iyo dapat di na siya umaabuso.  Tell her if she still wants to hitch a ride with you, diretso lang sa bahay niya.  Hindi yung pati sa panlalaki niya, inaabala ka pa.  Dalasan mo na rin ang dahilan para hindi siya sumama with you.  If you have errands to run, schedule it after work muna.  Para masanay siyang mag public transpo. 

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Re: EPAL NA OFFICE MATE!
« Reply #11 on: January 05, 2012, 01:29:27 PM »
sis nakaka stress naman yang officemate mo.  Kung baga wala kang problema sa family siya naman ang problema mo.  Hindi mo siya responsibilidad, nakikita kasi niyang kaya ka niyang paikutin kaya ganyan siya sa iyo.  Dalawang klase lang ang tao sa mundo isang abusado at isang nagpapaabuso, so alin ka sa dalawa. Prangkahin mo kaya siya sabihin mong hindi ka niya driver at hindi mo keri mga kaek-ekan niya. :)

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« Reply #12 on: January 09, 2012, 02:52:34 PM »
naku sis, eh try mo na rin maningil diba? Kung magkano ang charge noong isang office mate mo, taasan mo pa ng 50 pesos. Anyway good luck na lang ;)

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« Reply #13 on: January 09, 2012, 02:53:55 PM »
^^ kita mo naman, sya na itong nakalibre sakay, nung sinisingil na e akala mo walang utang na loob dun sa ex-service nya. ang hirap ng magtatagal ka sa office para lang di ka nya masabayan. dapat ka na talaga matutong humindi dyan. trust me, laking igagaan ng buhay mo.

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« Reply #14 on: January 09, 2012, 03:17:11 PM »
^ sis, baka naman pag nasabihan kang "ayaw mo lang yata ako isabay e.." bigla ka mahiya at sasabihing, "tara na nga.." :D

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Re: EPAL NA OFFICE MATE!
« Reply #15 on: January 09, 2012, 03:23:01 PM »
sis, sabihin mo lumipat na kayo house para d na makasabay. hehe.

kase naman, ok lang antayin ka nya pero yun ikaw pa pinag aantay nya, iwanan mo na.

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« Reply #16 on: January 09, 2012, 03:54:41 PM »
i assume friend mo siya sis aubrey888? kasi kung di mo siya friend, pwede mo naman siya deadmahin nalang kasi syempre ang kapal na ang face diba? hehe.. Gets ko din yung attitude mo na ang hirap humindi kasi syempre sa isang ofis kailangan mo makisama - kasi pag hindi sasabihan ka KJ or loner etc etc. Alam mo sis kaya din umabuso yan friend mo ay dahil din sayo, yung ugaling ganito "andito naman si friendship para tulungan ako" etc... ang mga taong marunong mahiya - well mahihiya yan sayo at kahit papano tatanaw ng utang na loob. Yan friend mo todo sa kapal ng face eh haha - in short taken for granted ka na sis. Kung inis ka na sa ginagawa nya by all means reject her or talk to her kasi it will go on and on until isa senyo magbago :)

Read mo sis baka makatulong :)

http://personalexcellence.co/blog/how-to-say-no/

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Re: EPAL NA OFFICE MATE!
« Reply #17 on: January 09, 2012, 07:11:16 PM »
^ Sa tingin masyado ka mabait sis, sarap mong maging friend hehe. Ako kasi pranka ako eh. May friend na rin ako na dinamay ako sa kalokohan nya, ayun end of friendship. Ok lang, mas madami namang deserving sa trust ko :)

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« Reply #18 on: January 09, 2012, 07:53:50 PM »
^ wow!  thanks for the link sis calin22  :)  even copied the content and saved in my laptop.... will read tonight and share it to my hubby too, thanks! 
Yes, it's true... friend ko nga siya and it's so hard to say no...  super hirap huminde kasi nga baka sabihan walang pakisama, mataas ere, nagka kotse lang yumabang na, etc., etc....
Accepted also that i don't have the guts to personally talk to her and say in her face--- ayaw kita isabay!  Ayoko kasi ma hurt feelings niya kaya sinasarili ko na lang inis ko...
But soon i know... will have the courage to say no...  but for the mean time, will try to do 'iwas technique' first  ;)
Thanks sisses for your inputs!  :-*
Helped me unload my feelings.... thanks!

np sis! :) balitaan mo nalang kami

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Re: EPAL NA OFFICE MATE!
« Reply #19 on: January 10, 2012, 08:43:37 AM »
@aubrey888 - excited ako. kumusta naman ang hatid mo kagabi? di ba kayo natraffic?  ;D

 

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