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Author Topic: Would you lend money to your bf?  (Read 10077 times)

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #40 on: August 10, 2012, 05:11:40 PM »
siguro dapat madiscern natin kung talagang kailangan [textspeak!] ni bf yun pera..yun iba kasi nananamantala lang talaga.ako naman nate-turn off kapag bago pa lang kami,inuutangan nako. pero kapag sa pang-bisyo may pera sya lagi. nakikiramdam ako kasi baka may ugali pagdating sa pera. may ganung bf kasi.kuripot madamot magulang..madidiscern naman natin yun.pero kng BF pa lang, ayoko inuutangan ako kasi nahihiya rin ako mangutang sa bf. okay lang siguro yan..pero once madiscern mo na oportunista bf mo..naku mahirap yan. wag na wag ka palalamang.. >:(
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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #41 on: September 16, 2012, 10:56:58 PM »
Lending - been there and done that. Kakahiya na lang maningil kasi siyempre you gave the money out of love and because wala na kayo maniningil bigla... di ko kaya
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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #42 on: September 17, 2012, 07:29:23 AM »
^ and ^^ I would recomment NOT to.

My answer is NO and it should never be.  Ang kapal din ng mukha ni bf para umutang sa yo. 
Kung may pride pang natitira sa kanya, he should never do this.

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #43 on: September 19, 2012, 06:28:05 PM »
Kapag sobrang gipit dati si ex pinapahiram ko siya.
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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #44 on: September 19, 2012, 09:22:58 PM »
NO!! That's a bad habit. Never ever bigyan mo sya ng chance na mag take advantage in terms of Money. Kasi malaking problem yan in the end. IMO, they're not a good payer! HAHAHA
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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #45 on: September 24, 2012, 05:52:43 AM »
Ok lang. Parang joint na kasi kami ng money and most of the time ako pa nanghihingi..
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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #46 on: September 24, 2012, 07:32:08 AM »

Borrowing money kasi is a very bad habit. It should not be taken lightly as an everyday thing.

Pero kung super emergency, and you know paano sya napunta sa situation nyang kelangan ng money, then puede siguro pag-isipan.

And feeling ko lang, yung bf na nangangailangan ng money, shouldn't he first explore all options at mangutang sa iba before approaching the gf, especially if the gf did not offer?  Kung nag offer si gf, sige. Pero kung hindi nag-offer si gf, dapat hindi sya mag initiate na umutang di b? 

What if gf says NO. Is that a measure of her love for him? It is messy kasi when we mix money sa relationship. So the guy will think he is not loved enough? He is putting the relationship on the line by borrowing money - which comes in the form of a "test" to see if she really loves him.  On the other hand, the gf can also think she is not respected enough kung basta basta nalang sya lalapitan ni bf for money? 




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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #47 on: October 06, 2012, 12:03:20 AM »
i do! hehe. money is just paper to me since wala pa naman akong responsibilities. i dont give him deadlines pero we don't do it often, kapag kailangang kailangan lang talaga i.e. emergency school projects, pambayad sa boarding house, etc., he's still studying pa kasi and i graduated on time.

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #48 on: October 06, 2012, 12:05:44 AM »
No way! This is a red flag for me. 
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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #49 on: October 06, 2012, 12:43:37 AM »
We do, for 8 years, we have joint savings and individual din...

yung joint di namin ginagalaw.. na halos sya mismo nag huhulog hehe..

ako madalas sa kanya humiram dati...:-) pero sya mga once in a while lang or sa credit card.. wala kasi syang credit card e:)

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #50 on: October 07, 2012, 12:15:20 PM »
No, nakaka turn off, hinde ko ugali ang mangutang kase ayoko magpautang.
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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #51 on: October 07, 2012, 12:25:05 PM »
Depende pero wala naman masamang pautangin, pero kung madalas na eh ibang usapan na yan LOL. Idudump ko na siya nun hehe!
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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #52 on: October 10, 2012, 06:38:07 PM »
absolutely not, mapanira ang pera sa relasyon. for me pag na-involve ang pera sa relasyon nawawalan na ako ng gana. if ever man na emergency at walang pera si bf magbibigay ako, pero hindi utang.

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #53 on: October 11, 2012, 08:40:15 PM »
Yes, once lang.. kaso matagal na, yung tipong wala siyang allowance dahil walang padala yung mom niya, and sabi ko sakanya na ipon ko din yun galing sa allowance ko then siya na rin nagkusa na magbayad..:D

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #54 on: October 19, 2012, 04:51:34 PM »
1 year na kami, share naman kami sa gastos pag nag-dedate kami. I am the type of person na di naniningil pag nagpautang. I lend money to others na alam kong magbabayad, or I just consider it as a loss money kapag nagpautang ako - no expectations kung magbabayad or hindi.

Pero sa boyfriend kelangan ba maging part ng relationship [textspeak!] utangan? If u lend money to your bf, gano naman kalaki? Ayoko kasi maging cause ng grievances yun in the future, pero di ko alam naman kung pano tatanggihan magpautang.

Appreciate your thoughts mga sisses. Thanks for sharing :-)


Nako sis, Kung mag asawa nga nagkakalabuan dahil sa pera. yun pang 1 year nang mag gf-bf.

in general, never lend money that you want to gain back.

there's this ex of mine who left me for someone. years later nalaman ko na lang down and out siya, inubos daw ng Someone na yun ang pera niya and troubled siya in all aspects of life.

so i did what i could to bring her back on her feet. now, she's doing great. but her tears then, when i met her melted my heart. nasaktan ako sa nakita ko. they used her up talaga.

ingat lang sis at maging wise ka na hindi maging ganun. because when they leave, you'll be on your own. lalo na sa buhay ngayon, hindi biro kumita ng pera. hindi mo din alam kung may tutulong sa iyo kapag ikaw naman ang nangailangan. hindi mo din alam to what extent din siya makakatulong sa iyo pagka ikaw naman ang nangailangan.

my ex now is wiser. and in her most recent FB pic, she's glowing. life is now better for her. but it took her about two years.


« Last Edit: October 19, 2012, 04:58:19 PM by akthung »
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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #55 on: October 19, 2012, 06:42:57 PM »
pano naman mga sis if si bf lage bigay ng bigay ng pera, allowance tapos [textspeak!] need niya bigay ng bigay tapos nung medyo nawalan ng budget si bf eh. parang tumamlay si gf kasi parang tinitipid na. :(

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #56 on: October 20, 2012, 07:03:15 PM »
Big No! Nakakahiya kaya.. I never lend money from my ex'es before.
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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #57 on: October 20, 2012, 07:08:15 PM »
I'm already married but let's say I'm still young, unattached and i see myself marrying eventually this BF at kailangan talaga nya, why not. Pero shempre me hangganan lang din how much. :)

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #58 on: October 25, 2012, 02:53:07 AM »
Depende siguro kung gaano na kayo katagal, at sa lalim ng pinagsamahan.
Ako, if I know he needs it, and the moment he tells me about the problem, he won't need to ask kasi I will offer. I know he would do the same for me without me having to ask.

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #59 on: October 25, 2012, 10:44:39 AM »
^same sis :)

« Last Edit: October 25, 2012, 11:39:03 AM by iwannabeasupermodel »
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