Author Topic: Would you lend money to your bf? (Read 4940 times)

simplymel · « **Reply #20 on:** June 01, 2012, 03:54:42 pm »

I will not be comfortable..

shopaholic18 · « **Reply #21 on:** June 03, 2012, 01:06:02 am »

as much as possible no, if asawa ko na pwede. bf di pa siguro muna...

freelancebuddy · « **Reply #22 on:** June 03, 2012, 01:17:07 am »

yes, pero depende. like us, 8 years na kami. hindi na issue samin yun if ever manghiram man ng money ang isa. meron kasi kaming emergency fund so pwede namin kunin kung gipit. then hindi na kailangan iremind, pag may pera na, ibabalik agad. so technically, parang di naman kami nag-uutangan kasi pera namin both yun.

dumpee.o13 · « **Reply #23 on:** June 04, 2012, 02:36:55 am »

W/ my recent ex (had been in an almost 5yr rel), I would say yes, but it depends kung valid yung pagagamitan nya ng money. And ako yung tipo ng hindi naniningil, bahala na sya if he would pay it. And I don't consider it as his utang naman. :]

Girltalker2 · « **Reply #24 on:** June 04, 2012, 02:44:46 pm »

when I was younger, baka ok lang - so long as it won't make a dent to my savings or budget.

pero lam mo yun, ngayon kasi, ayoko umutang sa bf or vise versa. last resort siguro yun. tsaka hindi naman sa I look at how deep men's pockets are, but part kasi ng criteria ng ideal man ko - marunong to manage his finances (marunong magtipid kung kinakailangan at hindi gastos ng gastos to impress me tapos pagdating sa oras na nangangailangan, ako uutangan). so dapat hindi umabot sa point na mangungutang sya sakin. otherwise, hindi sya pasa sa criteria ko -- therefore, hindi ko sya magiging bf.

xenos54 · « **Reply #25 on:** June 20, 2012, 09:44:51 pm »

sa akin ok lang po mag-utang-ngan basta nagba-bayaran..

its one way of showing that you can talk and deal with a very sensitive aspect in life..

pero it depends din po kung anong level na kayo..

kung di pa gaanong serious eh jahe..

pero kugn serious at malapit na kau mag settle down.. ay dapat comfortable na kayong pagusapan ang mga ganyang bagay..

imho..

KailaS · « **Reply #26 on:** July 12, 2012, 06:37:31 pm »

On my previous relationship, walang kaso sakin kasi alam ko na kelangan nya talaga ng pera kasi mag-isa nlng sya sa buhay. Like what others said, tulong ko na din yun so di na ako nag-eexpect na babayaran nya ako. Pero depende pa din siguro sa situation.. If you know that he really needs it and alam mu naman ang pupuntahan, why not? Part naman ng relationship ang pagtutulungan.

don em · « **Reply #27 on:** July 13, 2012, 10:11:47 am »

Quote from: Girltalker2 on June 04, 2012, 02:44:46 pm

when I was younger, baka ok lang - so long as it won't make a dent to my savings or budget.

pero lam mo yun, ngayon kasi, ayoko umutang sa bf or vise versa. last resort siguro yun. tsaka hindi naman sa I look at how deep men's pockets are, but part kasi ng criteria ng ideal man ko - marunong to manage his finances (marunong magtipid kung kinakailangan at hindi gastos ng gastos to impress me tapos pagdating sa oras na nangangailangan, ako uutangan). so dapat hindi umabot sa point na mangungutang sya sakin. otherwise, hindi sya pasa sa criteria ko -- therefore, hindi ko sya magiging bf.

I agree. Pero minsan ang LOVE nakakabulag. Para sa akin, once na mangutang si BF, dapat siguro as a girl mag-analyze ka na kung ready ka ba na sya makasama mo sa future. Hindi sa mayaman o mahirap sya, it is how he manages money. Kasi pag kasal na kayo, managing your finances will play a big part on the success of your marriage and your family. Isa pa, mahirap kung si BF pa ang aasa sayo.

nageinna · « **Reply #28 on:** July 14, 2012, 12:47:26 am »

my take on this naman, i guess it depends kung gaano na kayo katagal sa relationship. minsan kasi parang nakakaturn off like ilang months palang kayo manghihiram na sayo. it says a lot about the guy kasi IMHO. but my case naman, 8yrs na kami ni bf and never naman naging issue yung money samin. im very lucky kasi never ako pinagastos ni bf everytime we're together more so mangutang sakin. if nanghihiram yun ng money sakin say pang watch ng movie, wala siyang smaller bills, i offer to pay na, then that same day binabalik niya agad sakin minsan sobra pa nga. lol

siguro we're at the stage na comfortable na kami with each other and if magbibigay kami ng pera sa isat isa we never really consider it as utang. nag jojoke pa nga kami madalas "uy nilibre kita kanina ha" and we never feel offended.

Misis_Maku · « **Reply #29 on:** July 16, 2012, 05:40:14 pm »

I did once with my ex and ayun hindi ako nabayaran. LOL! Around 6K pa utang nya... ampf!

Anyway, it depends sa situation and kung may ipapahiram talaga.

mirandaKERR · « **Reply #30 on:** July 16, 2012, 07:28:33 pm »

Sure!

No problem naman eh. Basta alam ko kung saan gagamitin

bollin_pop · « **Reply #31 on:** July 16, 2012, 10:25:07 pm »

Ako din! Yes! Alam ko namang ganun din siya sa kin

Siyempre lalo na kung emergency kasi di naman siya mangungutang if hindi kelangan

Ryiele · « **Reply #32 on:** July 17, 2012, 12:41:30 am »

yes! basta sya. hahaha, ok naman samin yun, yung loan nya nga pinahiram lang sakin. hehe.
basta alam nyo sa isat isa na dapat kayo ay magbabayad,

Kriman · « **Reply #33 on:** July 19, 2012, 07:14:48 pm »

D...kasi pag ginwa ko yun, baka dun pa kame magkasiraan

stebsy · « **Reply #34 on:** July 24, 2012, 09:35:17 pm »

Yeah I'll ask if para saan yung uutangin nya so I'll know Kung para sa mabuti gagamitin pera ko. If valid reason. Papahiramin ko if bisyo or luho Lang Hindi. Regaluhan nlng haha!

karmark16 · « **Reply #35 on:** July 29, 2012, 04:07:37 pm »

For me its not a problem to lend my bf money. Kasi sa amin, what's mine is yours, what's yours is mine. kahit yung laptop share kami hehe. nevertheless, importante din na pag nanghiram o nangutang ka ay marunong ka magbalik, and vice versa, mahirap din naman kasi na magaaway kayo ng dahil lang sa financial problems.

queendi · « **Reply #36 on:** July 29, 2012, 07:06:23 pm »

Few years ago, ang sagot ko sa tanong na yan ay OO , why not.

But hindi naging maganda ang kinalabasan. Around USD1500 inutang nya, at hindi nagtagal, na timing ang paghihiwalay namin. he paid me naman but not in full, pwersahan pa yan. hanggang ngayon may 10k pa na hindi bayad. at wala na, hindi ko na masingil, i tried pero dedma sya sa paniningil ko at hindi ko na inulit pa dahil baka sabihin ginagawa ko lang reason yung utang nya para maghabol ako sa kanya.

sixteen16 · « **Reply #37 on:** July 29, 2012, 08:34:37 pm »

kung bf pa lang NO, pero kung kasal YES na siguro ang answer ko. mahirap kasi yan lalo na kapag naghiwalay. isa yan sa magiging dahilan ng away. kahit sabihin natin na love nyo ang isa't-isa darating yung time na masusumbat yan.

Girltalker2 · « **Reply #38 on:** July 30, 2012, 05:44:26 pm »

^ true. lalo na pag naghiwalay, pano mo habulin utang nya sa iyo?

Serena. · « **Reply #39 on:** August 10, 2012, 04:31:43 pm »

It depends on his situation.

xo

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