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Would you lend money to your bf?
« on: October 12, 2011, 06:40:29 AM »
1 year na kami, share naman kami sa gastos pag nag-dedate kami. I am the type of person na di naniningil pag nagpautang. I lend money to others na alam kong magbabayad, or I just consider it as a loss money kapag nagpautang ako - no expectations kung magbabayad or hindi.

Pero sa boyfriend kelangan ba maging part ng relationship [textspeak!] utangan? If u lend money to your bf, gano naman kalaki? Ayoko kasi maging cause ng grievances yun in the future, pero di ko alam naman kung pano tatanggihan magpautang.

Appreciate your thoughts mga sisses. Thanks for sharing :-)

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #1 on: October 12, 2011, 08:47:26 AM »
Depende naman sa reason at depende rin kung may ipapautang ka.
Pero better kung tulong na lang pagdating sa BF. Yung tipong hindi ka na mag-e-expect na babayaran. So kung tutulong ka, yung kaya mo lang mawala sa pocket mo.

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #2 on: October 12, 2011, 09:01:57 AM »
it would depend kung san nya gagamitin yung uutangin nya. if it's sa nanay o kapatid nya na maysakit, it's okay na magpautang.  but if you do not have any knowledge on where he's going to use it--nah.


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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #3 on: October 12, 2011, 11:42:32 AM »
^ it depends on the purpose just like what the others said..

also, kung sinabi nyang "utang" IMO dapat bayaran..
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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #4 on: October 12, 2011, 11:46:59 AM »
^yes i agree, pag sinabing utang dapat pa din bayaran.. ganon kami ni BF pag sya umutang pay din naman nya pag ako pay ko din..kahit na sabihin nya pa sakin na wag na babayaran ko pa din sya talaga..

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #5 on: October 12, 2011, 11:59:52 AM »
^ tama! para walang away.. :D
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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #6 on: October 12, 2011, 11:54:28 PM »
If utang dapat bayaran talaga.  Dapat nga hindi uutang ang guy sa girl, turn off yun in a way.  My ex na bf ko at that time borrowed money kasi emergency, i was really surprised kasi i thought he has savings.  businessman siya and popular yung business niya.  apparently, waldas.

i don't want that to happen again.  i believe guys should be independent enough not to borrow money from the girl.

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #7 on: October 13, 2011, 12:10:37 AM »
i'd say depende kung gano mo na kakilala yung guy. as for my bf, we've been together for 6 years and madaming times na kami naghiraman ng pera. wala naman issue. sometimes maliit na amount, minsan medyo malaki. like i lend him 19k as additional sa pangdown nya sa lot. he lend me 15k  na ayaw nya na pabayaran until now. he also lend me 10k dahil may nanghiram sakin ng pera and promised na ibabalik pero the time na gagamitin ko, wala. last time i lend him more than 20k pero bayad na din naman. actually we even broke up ng may utang ako sa kanya.  :P pero di namin pinagusapan. ayokong ibrought up kasi i know sasabihin nya di sya mukang pera. until maging ok na kami, saka ko na lang sinabi na di ko nakakalimutan that i still owe him that money. for as long as plano nyo bayaran ang isa't isa at wala syang history pagdating sa money, ok lang naman for me. wala naman masama kung magtutulungan kayo.

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #8 on: October 13, 2011, 12:39:08 AM »
nung kami pa ng ex ko way back 2005, medyo may kaliitan pa sahod niya tas siya pa ang bread wuinner sa kanila then ang layo ng work niya sa tinitirhan niya at mahilig magbigay sa kamag-anak basta may magpunta sa kanya eh papahiramin niya kahit walang wala na siya.. kaya ayun humihiram siya saken.. nandun [textspeak!] word na "utang" hehe.. hanggang sa nagkahiwalay na kami ... then nagkameron kami ng communication, this time maganda na trabaho niya.. tipong nakakaipon na talaga.. then ako naman yung nangailangan, pinahiram niya ko.. sabi ko babayaran ko na lang pag meron na ko pera (nasa isip ko na yung dating utang niya saken)... tas one time biniro niya ko yung utang ko daw.. sabi ko "kwits na tayo"... ayun natawa lang siya eh tanda naman nya un.. haha

imho, uhmmm... kung may maipapahiram yung tipong sobrang pera mo talaga eh ok lang. =) ako minsan ako talaga nagsasabi "utang to ha?"... =))

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #9 on: October 13, 2011, 08:40:36 AM »
thanks for your reply mga sisses. Di kasi ako confident sa mga utangan, ayoko ng naniniingil parang nakikiramdam lang ako kung babayran ba or may balak bang magbayad, ganun.

sis katelicious, i feel the same way turn off ako sa guy na nangungutang pero I know it takes guts para sabihin nya sa akin yun, nahihiya daw sya sa akin pero wala daw sya malapitan. I'm overseas, nasa pinas sya ngayon, at naghihintay ng papers nya ngayon para makapag-abroad. 4 months na syang bakasyon eh kaya walang income.

2 months ago nung nagbakasyon ako sa Pinas, sagot naman nya lahat ng lakad namin, kaya feeling ko naman hindi sya madamot pagdating sa money. Ngayon eh siguro ubos na savings nya dahil tagal na nyang bakasyon kaya nanghihiram na. Yun nga lang dahil sa ugali kong di naniningil, parang hesitant ako pautangin. So girls, ok lang ba sabihin ko na "utang to ha. hehe!" para bayaran ako? Or naisip ko, give him a small amount muna para kahit di nya ako pay eh di masyadong mabigat, ok kaya yun?

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #10 on: October 13, 2011, 09:43:39 AM »
for me YES!
naghihiraman kami pagdating sa pera,
pero mas madalas ako yung pinapahiram niya.
may time pa nga na siya yung nagbayad
ng summer tuition fee ko. :)
di talaga madamot ang BF ko.
pero minsan may time talaga n siya yung
nagigipit kaya ako naman yung magpapahiram.
hiram hindi bigay kasi student palang ako. hehe!^^,


s TS naman poh asa sayo poh yan kun sa tingin mu mapagkakatiwalaan yung bf mu eidi pahiramin mu siya, o kayaa try mu muna kun once na di siya ngbyad eidi wag mu na paulitin. :D JUST TRUST him :D
« Last Edit: October 13, 2011, 11:48:58 AM by shishi0209 »
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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #11 on: October 13, 2011, 10:09:03 AM »
hmmm depende talaga sa sitwasyon na hinihingi ng panahon. Sa kasama ko sa office ang girl naman ang madalas mangutang, since panganay sa kanya lahat naka asa ang mga kapatid niya na nag-aaral ng college, at naka ilang utang na kay bf, since si bf wala namang pinag lalaanan napapahiram siya. pero may times na kapag oras na ng bayaran di nabibigay yung napag usapan dahil kulang pa ang ipapadala sa family or ibabayad din sa ibang nautangan.

Sis kisses_0923, base ko na lang sa nangyayari sa akin/amin ni hubby, seafarer siya usually ang pinakamatagal niya dito sa lupa ay 3mos, kapag budget ang pag uusapan, hindi porke meron dapat hugot lang ng hugot, isipin mo din na dapat kahit naka alis ka na meron ka paring maiiwan (mas magaling kasi mag budget yun compare sa akin), tinanong ko siya kung dapat ba na pa utangin mo since 4mos na siya dito sa pinas at wait pa ng paper sa pag-alis, kung siya daw nasa lagay mo, pwede lang mapahiram sa bf mo, ay kalahati ng hinihiram niya sayo or even 1/4, at wag mag base sa laman ng pitaka mo, para si bf na sa susunod matututo na siyang magtipid at iisipin na dapat kahit maka alis na siya ng pinas ay may pera pa rin siya.

dahil minsan ang mga tao gumagastos at hindi na iniisip kung magigipit sila dahil nasa isip nila na:
 * maaring umalis na sila sa panahon bago pa maubos ang budget nila
 * may darating o inaasahan silang pera (dito ako guilty hehe  ;D)
 * may mauutangan sila.

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #12 on: October 13, 2011, 11:48:05 AM »
thanks sa lahat ng mga advise nyo mga sisses ha! Siguro nga papahiramin ko sya for now kasi nung magkasama naman kami nun sa Pinas nung bakasyon ko, sya naman gumagastos kahit alam nyang may pera pa ako. So siguro naman di sya madamot kung meron din lang ilalabas.

Naitanong ko lang kung pwede ba pahiramin kasi I'm not really comfortable with money talks, ayoko ng mga issues pagdating sa pera - well di maiiwasan katulad nito. Iisipin ko na lang na it's an investment or sugal, na pwedeng bumalik sa iyo or hindi. Cheers! mga sisses!

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« Reply #13 on: October 13, 2011, 10:58:07 PM »
^
oks lang yan.. if di binayaran... eh di wag na paulitin hehe..

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« Reply #14 on: November 21, 2011, 08:53:56 PM »
kami hindi mapagbilang yung relationship namin when it comes to financials.. usually ako yung walang wala.. hehe! minsan aabutan na lang ako ng 500 o 1000 o humihingi ako ng toll or something kasi gastador ako. pero what i did was siya na pinahawak ko ng parang petty cash ko.. si bf minsan pag nasasaid yung wallet kasi binabudget niya lahat, humihiram ng 500 or minsan ako muna.. kadalasan sinisingil ko pero lately di na since mas marami na kong utang sa kanya. sa amin, walang bilangan. kung sinong meron, siya naglalabas.. pero mga 85% of the time siya ang naglalabas..
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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #15 on: November 24, 2011, 04:58:15 AM »
mga sisses, do you ask kung para saan kapag nangungutang? Minsan sinasabi agad ng borrower kung bat nya kelangan, pero if nanghihiram at di sinabi, would you ask?

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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #16 on: November 24, 2011, 09:05:00 AM »
mga sisses, do you ask kung para saan kapag nangungutang? Minsan sinasabi agad ng borrower kung bat nya kelangan, pero if nanghihiram at di sinabi, would you ask?

i don't i just lend him money.. pero it depends din kasi.. maybe because we've been together for a long time already and i trust him completely.. i wouldn't though if we were about a few months in pa lang..
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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #17 on: November 25, 2011, 06:00:27 AM »
kung emergency talaga, and may money ka na ipahihiram, why not? kaso the worst thing na pagawayan is money as much as possible wag talaga
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« Reply #18 on: November 30, 2011, 09:44:11 PM »
yeah if the reason is reasonable.. kaso minsan sobra nadin kaso d mo din maiwasan kasi u care db? kame hiwalay na and family na niya utang saken.. un lang d ko masingil din aksi down din e.. kaya no choice kundi magwait.
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Re: Would you lend money to your bf?
« Reply #19 on: May 29, 2012, 12:37:02 PM »
Depende.. :) Pero OO. :D
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