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You would know it when they say the rain can make you feel "emo"? That holds so much truth in it.

I found myself listening to a really insightful song by Up Dharma Down called "Tadhana." It's a very soothing song especially during those rainy days. And the lyrics — they hit too close to home. Tadhana. Fate. Will we ever know?

I remember one quote from a movie I really liked, "The Kite Runner," in which the father of Amir, the main character said, "It may be unfair, but what happens in a few days, sometimes even a single day, can change the course of a whole lifetime." And it's true. It CAN change exactly how you see life. And what makes us experience those moments in our lives? Fate. Fate allows us to go through that part of our lives and changes us into what we are today. But I can't help but ask: Do we really have to leave everything up to fate or do we have to decide and deal with life the way we want to?

Today, I caught myself trying to make a sense out of my being single for quite some time now. I was talking to one of my co-workers and I was doing my best to explain to him why I am still single. I told him that I'm having a hard time falling for someone these days, or even like someone for more than a month.

A friend of mine tried his best to let his thoughts out about it. Of course some of them were right but we ended up just looking at each other and then we burst into laughter. I finally figured it out that no one knows why. I used to be gullible, aggressive, trusting. I easily fall in love or at least show reciprocation. Things have changed though. I no longer see myself as that person. I was telling this friend I can't even remember how it felt like to be in a relationship; how it's like to have someone special in your life, how couples survive a night without dead air, what they do to keep themselves entertained; how a kiss felt, how a simple hug of affection can make things different, how they keep things going, how they make it work.

I sat down. Stood up. Walked around. Sat again. I practically went everywhere. Is it fate telling me I'm not yet ready? Is fate telling me I've learned from my previous relationships and I've had enough of the "crap"? Have I become selective, or was I just traumatized with my past heartaches? I am not exactly sure myself. All I know is that I deserve better and I'm just contented with what I have right now. I'm too happy and I don't need a man.

Answers to this can be very elusive and at the same time confusing. You can never have a solid thought about this because in a minute, you can change your mind and your heart. I really wish I know the answers because fate can be very tricky. Sometimes it's good but unfortunately, not at all times. Fate can be cruel and mean. Fate can make you feel like a total waste of space. But when fate is nice to you and you're lucky enough, it makes you feel like you're always home. Like you have found that missing piece; that one jigsaw puzzle piece you have been searching all along. Sometimes, it can be in a form of a person you fell in love with. But it can also be the simplicity of knowing that it's all about waiting. And appreciating what you have and not minding about what you don't have.

After a couple of minutes, I sat down beside another good friend of mine and we discussed the same thing. I heard the same response! She told me it's probably because I still haven't found someone who just doesn't make me feel "kilig" inside but someone who has a unique connection with me. A connection no person can make. And as cliché as it goes: a spark. Only fate gives us that. And I agree.

Also, I've always had that notion that I'd marry early, have kids and a happy family, having my career on the side and my family coming first. That's before I learned the true essence of love and relationship: that love isn't always the good stuff, it's about compromise and acceptance, and being ready for pain and sacrifice, which is never easy.

I also learned that TRUE LOVE means not going to a battle alone. I believe fate is what brings true love to two people. When fate decides it's time, whoever you are, whatever you are, that's it. And that your FAITH in FATE is something that always gives you that spark of hope of finding exactly what you are looking for.
"maybe getting over someone you’re in love with isn’t impossible. Unless, maybe you don’t actually get over it. Maybe you just learn to live with it....." - Felicity

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« Reply #1 on: November 23, 2011, 11:27:43 AM »
thanks for sharing this. beautiful.
Psalm 118:6 The Lord is with me, I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me.

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« Reply #2 on: November 24, 2011, 08:37:45 AM »
agree  ;)
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« Reply #3 on: November 27, 2011, 09:43:33 PM »
agree  ;)

thanks for sharing this. beautiful.

mga sisses! lets just hope that one day that true love will find us. ;) Aja!
"maybe getting over someone you’re in love with isn’t impossible. Unless, maybe you don’t actually get over it. Maybe you just learn to live with it....." - Felicity

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« Reply #4 on: December 25, 2011, 03:33:22 AM »
wow...i like...thanks for sharing sis.. :)
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« Reply #5 on: December 25, 2011, 05:33:54 AM »
thanks for sharing, sis! :) I also believe so much of fate. :)
Our life is defined by the opportunities we take and we missed. :)

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« Reply #6 on: December 25, 2011, 02:54:24 PM »
thanks for sharing, sis! :) I also believe so much of fate. :)

yep sis, me din.. :D pero not all people swerte sa fate :)
"maybe getting over someone you’re in love with isn’t impossible. Unless, maybe you don’t actually get over it. Maybe you just learn to live with it....." - Felicity

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« Reply #7 on: December 25, 2011, 05:06:56 PM »
I love this..  ♥
You're home is with me.. ♥♥♥

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« Reply #8 on: January 06, 2012, 05:41:13 AM »
And so, I therefore conclude.....

matindi talaga si Bossing;D

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« Reply #9 on: January 27, 2012, 11:32:31 PM »
And so, I therefore conclude.....

matindi talaga si Bossing;D

^Natawa naman ako sa sinabi mo mr.punch! pero kung si Pauleen Luna nga ang sumulat niyan, may tama ka! I dunno ha, personally, people should take their own fate into their own hands. Para bang sinabi mo nang FATE ko ito. Ito ang nakatakda. Ang sad naman kung ganun. May mga fated to be happy, fated to be sad. Mas mabuti na yung alam mo yung gusto mo, at gumawa ka ng paraan para makamit iyon.

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Re: to all singles out there READ this =) *Fate By Pauleen Luna | Quote Me!
« Reply #10 on: January 31, 2012, 04:34:07 PM »
Thanks for posting this. Good read for someone like me who's trying to recover from a break up =)

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« Reply #11 on: October 19, 2012, 03:01:51 PM »
i feel the same way... :)

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« Reply #12 on: October 20, 2012, 01:00:55 AM »
Couldn't have said it better. Ganyan din nararamdaman ko, and I especially can relate to these lines:

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I told him that I'm having a hard time falling for someone these days, or even like someone for more than a month.
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I can't even remember how it felt like to be in a relationship; how it's like to have someone special in your life, how couples survive a night without dead air, what they do to keep themselves entertained; how a kiss felt, how a simple hug of affection can make things different, how they keep things going, how they make it work.
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Fate can make you feel like a total waste of space. But when fate is nice to you and you're lucky enough, it makes you feel like you're always home. Like you have found that missing piece; that one jigsaw puzzle piece you have been searching all along. Sometimes, it can be in a form of a person you fell in love with. But it can also be the simplicity of knowing that it's all about waiting. And appreciating what you have and not minding about what you don't have.
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She told me it's probably because I still haven't found someone who just doesn't make me feel "kilig" inside but someone who has a unique connection with me. A connection no person can make. And as cliché as it goes: a spark. Only fate gives us that. And I agree.

Btw, I'm glad she included 'The Kite Runner' and 'Tadhana' in this since I'm particularly fond of that film and song.  :-*
« Last Edit: October 20, 2012, 01:03:25 AM by Huntress Krystle »
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« Reply #13 on: October 20, 2012, 05:42:43 AM »
All below -- IMO: 

The problem is,  some people just take/accept  "Fate" at face value. 
"Fate" is mistakenly seen as a destination/phase, not as a fork in the road.   Coz, whatever Fate dishes up, we can choose to turn our backs on, or ignore.  But most times, we just accept (or don't even look at) the Catch 22 due to naïveté, stubbornness, stupidity, misplaced trust, unwarranted over-confidence, fear/s, or even - greed.

"Ito ang kapalaran ko."
 Dramatic.  But, IMO (again) -- it is more apt to declare:  What do I choose to do now,  given what Fate   has dragged in before me now? 
There is always a choice. 
Well yes, doing nothing &/or acceptance are choices too.  :).


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« Reply #14 on: October 21, 2012, 01:10:15 AM »
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I also learned that TRUE LOVE means not going to a battle alone. I believe fate is what brings true love to two people. When fate decides it's time, whoever you are, whatever you are, that's it. And that your FAITH in FATE is something that always gives you that spark of hope of finding exactly what you are looking for.

Thanks For Sharing   This    wonderful article  it totally make sense 8)
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« Reply #15 on: October 22, 2012, 09:38:17 PM »
^ I agree, really makes sense...

I'm not a person who is fond of the "fate" thing. I believe that everything that happens in our lives is in our control.... But this really makes sense.. I think, Love is really fate.... For me lang naman.. hehe!

"A connection no person can make. And as cliché as it goes: a spark. Only fate gives us that. And I agree." -----> Sa dinamidami at milyong tao sa mundo, it makes me wonder and ask... Bakit ako? Kung ako man yung piliin ng isang lalaki na mahalin, why me? Madaming mas maganda, mas mabait, mas matalino, mas malambing kesa sakin.... It's something I can't elucidate ... Parang fingerprint na nagmamatch ba ang love? ganun ba yun?....

Sabi nga sa isang kanta, Got to believe in Magic... hihi! arte..  ;D
whatever.... ;)

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Re: to all singles out there READ this =) *Fate By Pauleen Luna | Quote Me!
« Reply #16 on: October 24, 2012, 02:29:09 AM »
there's no such thing as fate, it is simply an illusion corrupting the minds of many.. if you can dig deeper, jesus died on the cross for everyone, because of everyone! great love isnt? do you think that is fate?
the war in iraq, syria, afghanistan? do you think it just happen because somebody can't control of everything and end up like that? people suffer of sickness, heartbreaks , misfortunes etc. do you think that's fate?  everything we knew about it is sometimes a misconception of what we chose to believe.
fate is created by devils, controlling us to believe what is not there, give us hope and may failed us in the end so we can react and do drastic things and brings us agony.
because of god's love every creation has a great gift, they called it "Free will". god doesn't ask as not to do this and that, he just gave us rules based on what is righteous or not. he gave us talents to help us prosper in so many things, wisdom, strength, capabilities to make the right decision. oh yeah we are only human and bound to make mistakes i understand but that is simply to make us wise and curve us to learn more about life. Free will is what we have in life dudes! ;D If fate plays a big role in my life, i would rather sit and relax the whole year and spend every dime i earn and wait for the greatest fate i am hoping for. if finding an exact partner will just took me 35 years or so. i' ll just stay happy and wait for that day anyway and do nothing. :D
if fate is somewhat true and if i would know that i would be the most horrible living creation on earth then i would just kill myself anyway. but the problem is we don't know right? and that's what the most appealing reason why we live; we don't really know what's gonna happen next and it's exciting. Life is what we make it. fate is a big lie..Our decision dictates what its gonna be. decisions play a big big part in our lives and i end up believing that given a right timing, opportunity, great coincidence and a best decision will give every man the happiness they deserve. and maybe he will realize that in the end that it is not fate who curve him, but the greatest gift god has given us. "Free will" that's us. \just my cents/  ;)
there's no such thing as destiny and fate.. it is a big lie...

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« Reply #17 on: October 24, 2012, 12:08:11 PM »
@Miaka: Oo nga eh. Palibhasa mga 'can relate' tayo rofl.  ;D ;D ;D

 
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