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Author Topic: i was the other girl and i didn't know.  (Read 4599 times)

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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #20 on: September 28, 2011, 03:55:05 pm »
been with the same kind of guy.

well, what else can i say? minsan talaga minamalas tayo. pero it doesn't mean you won't get over it. i did. it took some time but i eventually did. thinking back then i don't even remember how i started moving on.

 i just woke up one day and i didn't feel i love him anymore. naging friends kami after two years and he tells me that im the best he ever had and that he wants to be back together again. pero i said no. thats when i learned that hindi ko na talaga siya gusto, i even told him, "it took you 2 years to realize that you still want me? i waited for months para lang sabihin mo ulit yan sakin. you never came."

ayun right now, friends pa rin naman kami. atleast for me, ganun na talaga turing ko sa kanya. :)
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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #21 on: September 28, 2011, 04:27:22 pm »
best song for this is 'Best Thing I Never Had' by Beyonce...

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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #22 on: October 08, 2011, 10:36:52 am »
kobekitten kung mas tumagal pa kayo sis mas masakit pa para sayo. thankful ka na lang natapos na. does not mean na maghanap ka agad ng kapalit. take time to know yourself again. nabuhay ka naman nang wala sya. sino ka bago mo sya makilala? isipin mo yan sis.

magpaganda ka lalo, exfoliate, rejuvenate. And meet your friends yung matagal mo na di nakikita kasi lagi ang time mo ay para sa jowa na cheater. let karma do the dirty work, sabi nga nila. kakarmahin rin yung animal na yun! sorry alam ko minahal mo sya. pero g@g0 pa rin.

charge everything to experience, i am sure this will make you a stronger person. wala na makakagiba sayo. then move on ng bongga. pano? know yourself again. sino ka ba bago mo makilala yan loser na yan? i am sure fabulous ka na bago pa dumating sa buhay mo yan. kung katabi kita hug kita sis i feel your pain, pero after kita i-hug, pektusan kita ng onti, tamaa na sis. move on, pray a lot, mag gym basta hanap ka outlet. maaaning ka pag inisip mo araw araw pano makakamove on when you can actually start :)

goodluck may the force be with you and may the guy who will not make you the other woman and who will have the balls to be with you finally find you. I'll pray for your prince charming to knock on your door. wag na sa basurang yon ha. :)
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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #23 on: February 17, 2012, 01:05:09 pm »
Quote
short story: while we were dating till we became a couple, he had all along been trying to win his long-time ex-girlfriend back (who broke up with him in the first place because she found out about me). nagkabukingan, hiwalayan. then, he won us both back, for a couple of months pinagsabay niya ulit kami. nagkabukingan ulit recently when the girl and i had communication again.

but this time, he chose to pursue her. and here i am by my lonesome.

i know he did really bad things, he played us along, lied to us both. but before this mess happened & before i found out, i really loved him. i don't know how to deal with this. 

==>kobekitten naeexperience ko din ngayon yan sobrang sakit talaga twice pa ngyare sa sakin yan na kada papasok ako sa isang relationship eh may kasabay ako sa mga nagiging bf ko.huli ko nalalaman na dalawa kami pinagsasabay ng girlfriend nya nung una d ako naniniwala sa mga nagsasabi sakin na sila pa ng gf nya dahil sa may nakakakita sa kanila na magkasama hnggang sa ako na talaga makakita sa picture nila na magksama. mahirap tanggapin na binigay mo lahat ng trust ang love mo pero bandang huli ikaw din kawawa isang malaking torture yun kasi makikita mo sila masaya tapos hnggang ngayon d parin ako makamove on lage ko parin sa kanya bkt nya gnawa sakin yon pero todo tanggi parin siya na hindi naman daw sila. O dba nagmukha ka na ngang t**** kasi ang buong akala ko ako nalang sa buhay niya Tapos ginagawa parin akong t**** dahil sa pag tanggi niya. sobrang hirap na pagkatapos ka masaktan eh mas nangingibabaw parin yung pagmamahal mo sa kanya kesa sa galit. pero ngayon pa unti unti tinutulungan ko ndin tanggapin sa sarili ko na kalimutan siya good or bad memories lage ko pinipray na sana lahat yun mawala na sa isip ko sa systema ko na tanggalin lahat ng nakasanayan ko na kasama siya. lahat yun dinadaan ko nalang sa dasal ngayon bahala na si god satin alam ko matatapos din ito makakamove on din tayo.yung taong papahalgahan tayo at kaya tayo iprioritize.
« Last Edit: February 18, 2012, 08:23:13 am by ladyxylenz »
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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #24 on: June 20, 2012, 02:01:39 pm »
thank god at may ganitong topic dito. sa ngayon, eto pinagdadaanan ko. kung tutuusin di naman ganun kasakit kasi 2 months lang yung relationship namin. pero still na-in love pa din ako sa kanya at masakit din sa akin na hindi ako ang pinili nya.

last friday, nagkausap kami and he promised me na ako ang pipiliin nya. aayusin lang daw nya yung problema then babalikan nya ko. then last night, i received a text message from him saying na yung isa daw ang pinipili nya, he realized that he's still in love with his gf, na 5 years na sila and they already have plans to get married. and nagsorry din naman sya. nagreply lang ako ng "ok. salamat" then after nun, i was expecting to see myself crying pero hindi yun nangyari. i found myself na nakangiti.. medyo wierd nga kasi halos one week ko na syang iniyaka and ngayon na meron ng final decision parang ok lang sa akin. masakit din naman pero ok lang din. siguro kasi 2 months lang din naman kami.

while reading all the comments, narealize ko din na ok na nga din talaga na hindi ako pinili nya. kasi kung ako ang piliin nya baka buong buhay ko maging paranoid na ko dahil sa kanya. iniisip ko din kung paano kung magbago ulit desisyon nya.. baka maisip nya mas masaya pa din sya sa akin o mas masarap ako...hehehhe! if ever na mangyari yun, magpopost ako ulit dito ng topic para humingi ng advice hehe!
« Last Edit: June 20, 2012, 02:04:34 pm by simplepink »

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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #25 on: June 20, 2012, 07:32:32 pm »
I've been with a serial cheater ex-bf, at sa dami namin ako ang legal at palaging pinipili. Actually hindi nga pinipili kasi after niya sa mga babae niya balik siya sakin pero hindi ko alam yun nalalaman ko nalang tapos na ang affair. Nung kami akala ko pag ikaw pinili ikaw yung mahal, ikaw ang higit, ikaw lahat. Pero HELL NO.. Ikaw pinipili kasi ikaw lang ang nakaka-take at swallow at nakaka-allow ng ganung situation. Feeling ko ba masaya ako kasi ako pinili? HELL NO.. Oo nasaktan at sinumpa talaga siya ng mga babaeng niloko niya at sinabay niya sakin pero looking at their lives now? Sila yung masaya. Kasi it's either they found someone na minahal talaga sila.. which is karamihan ganun nangyari or wala na silang iisipan pa (paranoid, trust issues blah blah )

In short, hindi porket pinili ikaw ang mahal. Based on my exp nalang sis, kung matagal ko ng ginawang mag-move on at di ko na pinilit pa yun samin eh di sana masaya na ko by this time. Pero ganun talaga tigas ulo ko eh. Pero I'm super happy it's over. Naawa nalang ako sa nagiging girlfriend niya or sa baliw niyang ex-gf na hinahabol padin siya up to now.

Take it as a blessing. Hindi pa din ako totally move on pero atleast I'm seeing things at a different perspective. Pray, pray and pray lang.

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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #26 on: June 20, 2012, 10:50:38 pm »
^parang kinabahan naman ako dun sa gf ng xbf ko, magpapakasal pa naman sila.. wag naman sana maulit na yun sa kanya.. sobrang bait kasi nung girl..

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« Reply #27 on: June 20, 2012, 11:10:47 pm »
same story ng pinsan ko, sabi ko move forward na sya, pero until alam ko hirap pa din sya. Sis mabuti na yan iba ang pinili nya, dami talaga manloloko  >:(

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« Reply #28 on: June 22, 2012, 09:11:49 pm »
I've been with a serial cheater ex-bf, at sa dami namin ako ang legal at palaging pinipili. Actually hindi nga pinipili kasi after niya sa mga babae niya balik siya sakin pero hindi ko alam yun nalalaman ko nalang tapos na ang affair. Nung kami akala ko pag ikaw pinili ikaw yung mahal, ikaw ang higit, ikaw lahat. Pero HELL NO.. Ikaw pinipili kasi ikaw lang ang nakaka-take at swallow at nakaka-allow ng ganung situation. Feeling ko ba masaya ako kasi ako pinili? HELL NO.. Oo nasaktan at sinumpa talaga siya ng mga babaeng niloko niya at sinabay niya sakin pero looking at their lives now? Sila yung masaya. Kasi it's either they found someone na minahal talaga sila.. which is karamihan ganun nangyari or wala na silang iisipan pa (paranoid, trust issues blah blah )

In short, hindi porket pinili ikaw ang mahal. Based on my exp nalang sis, kung matagal ko ng ginawang mag-move on at di ko na pinilit pa yun samin eh di sana masaya na ko by this time. Pero ganun talaga tigas ulo ko eh. Pero I'm super happy it's over. Naawa nalang ako sa nagiging girlfriend niya or sa baliw niyang ex-gf na hinahabol padin siya up to now.

Take it as a blessing. Hindi pa din ako totally move on pero atleast I'm seeing things at a different perspective. Pray, pray and pray lang.

Tama ka sis. Hindi porke kapag pinili yon yung higit o yun yung mahal. Madalas pinipili nang mga lalaki kung saan sila nakakasiguro. Kaya nga mas madalas yung mga long term gf pa rin ang pinipili dahil mas kampante na sila may assurance na sila na kilala na sila nang girl at ma to tolerate na nang girl ang ugali nila. Kaya yung mga nag se self pity na hindi sila ang pinili dapat tigilan na dahil nindi porke pinakawalan ka ay may mali o kulang sayo.

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« Reply #29 on: August 06, 2012, 01:12:56 am »
hi.. i just want to share my feelings on this matter.. I am the other woman in a relationship. I know its really stupid, but I can't just let go coz I love the guy so much. I tried to hide it, I tried to hold back and ignore my feelings but I just can't anymore. Ever since we saw each other again last year, we knew that our feelings since our high school days were still there. Kahit anong pilit namen na itago or pigilin, we knew that we still care for each other and we still love each other. I know its really stupid of me, coz i knew all along na may gf sya, well nung una ayaw nya aminin na gf nya un, pero i dont care, nakikita ko naman na madalas sila magkasama and it really cuts like a knife na almost everyday sila nagkikita, naisip ko na umiwas na. but everytime na magtetext sya or tatawag sya, nakakalimutan ko na lahat ng iniisip ko. i know hndi sya ang mkakatuluyan ko eh, i feel it.. pero sa ngaun, i am just enjoying it kahit masakit at mahirap. pls dont judge me, i am just sharing this coz [textspeak!] akong mapagsabihan.. thanks!

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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #30 on: August 07, 2012, 07:57:58 am »
^ I commend your honesty but I can tell you for sure you WILL be judged based on this post. It's the brutal truth.

Also, please know that KARMA IS A F*CKING B*TCH. Enjoy it now, but it WILL come back to haunt you one way or the other. I guarantee you. 

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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #31 on: August 07, 2012, 07:30:23 pm »
^^It's not worth it sis! better to cut na that relationship and find someone who will really love and respect you!
wag mo ng pag aksayahan ng oras kung wala namang patutunguhan. Sayang ang time at ang emotions mo. Better spend it on someone who will reciprocate it. masakit lang yan sa umpisa pero you will be thanking yourself oag naputol mo na ng tuluyan.

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« Reply #32 on: November 13, 2012, 05:57:33 am »
my super close girl friend is in this kind of situation kasi naman attracted sila sa isa't isa nung guy, they clicked agad mas naging close sila nung nag-break yung guy at guys's girl so i think they've fallen for each other agad para bang matagal na daw silang magkakilala and all.


pero sadly nakipag balikan yung girl at umabot sa punto na gusto na agad makipag kasalan yung girl kay guy at nalaman na ng families and all. si guy naman ay pressures kasi dw pa daw ready magpakasal and unsure na siya sa feelings niya sa gf niya although sobrang tagal na rin nila talaga like 9 years...na fall out of love na rin siya.


so yung friend ko naman, since mahal na mahal na niya yung guy ay pumayag siya sa ganung setup, siguro hoping na magkaron sila ng chance. si guy naman i think ay confused pa hindi pa siguro alam paano haharapin yung expectations ng tao around him and his gf pero i think ayaw na niya sa gf niya at least hindi na 100% ang love niya. nafifeel ko naman din na mahal na mahal nung guy ang friend ko kaya lang di pa siguro alam pano tatapusin yung isa.


naawa lang ako sa friend ko dahil in love talaga siya eh so lagi ko nalang siya sinasamahan whenever need niya ng kasama or kausap. willing siya mag sacrifice and all, maypagka martyr din kasi si bruha kahit wala naman din assurance na siya nga ang pipiliin at the end.

 

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