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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #20 on: September 28, 2011, 03:55:05 PM »
been with the same kind of guy.

well, what else can i say? minsan talaga minamalas tayo. pero it doesn't mean you won't get over it. i did. it took some time but i eventually did. thinking back then i don't even remember how i started moving on.

 i just woke up one day and i didn't feel i love him anymore. naging friends kami after two years and he tells me that im the best he ever had and that he wants to be back together again. pero i said no. thats when i learned that hindi ko na talaga siya gusto, i even told him, "it took you 2 years to realize that you still want me? i waited for months para lang sabihin mo ulit yan sakin. you never came."

ayun right now, friends pa rin naman kami. atleast for me, ganun na talaga turing ko sa kanya. :)
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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #21 on: September 28, 2011, 04:27:22 PM »
best song for this is 'Best Thing I Never Had' by Beyonce...

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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #22 on: October 08, 2011, 10:36:52 AM »
kobekitten kung mas tumagal pa kayo sis mas masakit pa para sayo. thankful ka na lang natapos na. does not mean na maghanap ka agad ng kapalit. take time to know yourself again. nabuhay ka naman nang wala sya. sino ka bago mo sya makilala? isipin mo yan sis.

magpaganda ka lalo, exfoliate, rejuvenate. And meet your friends yung matagal mo na di nakikita kasi lagi ang time mo ay para sa jowa na cheater. let karma do the dirty work, sabi nga nila. kakarmahin rin yung animal na yun! sorry alam ko minahal mo sya. pero g@g0 pa rin.

charge everything to experience, i am sure this will make you a stronger person. wala na makakagiba sayo. then move on ng bongga. pano? know yourself again. sino ka ba bago mo makilala yan loser na yan? i am sure fabulous ka na bago pa dumating sa buhay mo yan. kung katabi kita hug kita sis i feel your pain, pero after kita i-hug, pektusan kita ng onti, tamaa na sis. move on, pray a lot, mag gym basta hanap ka outlet. maaaning ka pag inisip mo araw araw pano makakamove on when you can actually start :)

goodluck may the force be with you and may the guy who will not make you the other woman and who will have the balls to be with you finally find you. I'll pray for your prince charming to knock on your door. wag na sa basurang yon ha. :)
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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #23 on: February 17, 2012, 01:05:09 PM »
Quote
short story: while we were dating till we became a couple, he had all along been trying to win his long-time ex-girlfriend back (who broke up with him in the first place because she found out about me). nagkabukingan, hiwalayan. then, he won us both back, for a couple of months pinagsabay niya ulit kami. nagkabukingan ulit recently when the girl and i had communication again.

but this time, he chose to pursue her. and here i am by my lonesome.

i know he did really bad things, he played us along, lied to us both. but before this mess happened & before i found out, i really loved him. i don't know how to deal with this. 

==>kobekitten naeexperience ko din ngayon yan sobrang sakit talaga twice pa ngyare sa sakin yan na kada papasok ako sa isang relationship eh may kasabay ako sa mga nagiging bf ko.huli ko nalalaman na dalawa kami pinagsasabay ng girlfriend nya nung una d ako naniniwala sa mga nagsasabi sakin na sila pa ng gf nya dahil sa may nakakakita sa kanila na magkasama hnggang sa ako na talaga makakita sa picture nila na magksama. mahirap tanggapin na binigay mo lahat ng trust ang love mo pero bandang huli ikaw din kawawa isang malaking torture yun kasi makikita mo sila masaya tapos hnggang ngayon d parin ako makamove on lage ko parin sa kanya bkt nya gnawa sakin yon pero todo tanggi parin siya na hindi naman daw sila. O dba nagmukha ka na ngang t**** kasi ang buong akala ko ako nalang sa buhay niya Tapos ginagawa parin akong t**** dahil sa pag tanggi niya. sobrang hirap na pagkatapos ka masaktan eh mas nangingibabaw parin yung pagmamahal mo sa kanya kesa sa galit. pero ngayon pa unti unti tinutulungan ko ndin tanggapin sa sarili ko na kalimutan siya good or bad memories lage ko pinipray na sana lahat yun mawala na sa isip ko sa systema ko na tanggalin lahat ng nakasanayan ko na kasama siya. lahat yun dinadaan ko nalang sa dasal ngayon bahala na si god satin alam ko matatapos din ito makakamove on din tayo.yung taong papahalgahan tayo at kaya tayo iprioritize.
« Last Edit: February 18, 2012, 08:23:13 AM by ladyxylenz »
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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #24 on: June 20, 2012, 02:01:39 PM »
thank god at may ganitong topic dito. sa ngayon, eto pinagdadaanan ko. kung tutuusin di naman ganun kasakit kasi 2 months lang yung relationship namin. pero still na-in love pa din ako sa kanya at masakit din sa akin na hindi ako ang pinili nya.

last friday, nagkausap kami and he promised me na ako ang pipiliin nya. aayusin lang daw nya yung problema then babalikan nya ko. then last night, i received a text message from him saying na yung isa daw ang pinipili nya, he realized that he's still in love with his gf, na 5 years na sila and they already have plans to get married. and nagsorry din naman sya. nagreply lang ako ng "ok. salamat" then after nun, i was expecting to see myself crying pero hindi yun nangyari. i found myself na nakangiti.. medyo wierd nga kasi halos one week ko na syang iniyaka and ngayon na meron ng final decision parang ok lang sa akin. masakit din naman pero ok lang din. siguro kasi 2 months lang din naman kami.

while reading all the comments, narealize ko din na ok na nga din talaga na hindi ako pinili nya. kasi kung ako ang piliin nya baka buong buhay ko maging paranoid na ko dahil sa kanya. iniisip ko din kung paano kung magbago ulit desisyon nya.. baka maisip nya mas masaya pa din sya sa akin o mas masarap ako...hehehhe! if ever na mangyari yun, magpopost ako ulit dito ng topic para humingi ng advice hehe!
« Last Edit: June 20, 2012, 02:04:34 PM by simplepink »

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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #25 on: June 20, 2012, 07:32:32 PM »
I've been with a serial cheater ex-bf, at sa dami namin ako ang legal at palaging pinipili. Actually hindi nga pinipili kasi after niya sa mga babae niya balik siya sakin pero hindi ko alam yun nalalaman ko nalang tapos na ang affair. Nung kami akala ko pag ikaw pinili ikaw yung mahal, ikaw ang higit, ikaw lahat. Pero HELL NO.. Ikaw pinipili kasi ikaw lang ang nakaka-take at swallow at nakaka-allow ng ganung situation. Feeling ko ba masaya ako kasi ako pinili? HELL NO.. Oo nasaktan at sinumpa talaga siya ng mga babaeng niloko niya at sinabay niya sakin pero looking at their lives now? Sila yung masaya. Kasi it's either they found someone na minahal talaga sila.. which is karamihan ganun nangyari or wala na silang iisipan pa (paranoid, trust issues blah blah )

In short, hindi porket pinili ikaw ang mahal. Based on my exp nalang sis, kung matagal ko ng ginawang mag-move on at di ko na pinilit pa yun samin eh di sana masaya na ko by this time. Pero ganun talaga tigas ulo ko eh. Pero I'm super happy it's over. Naawa nalang ako sa nagiging girlfriend niya or sa baliw niyang ex-gf na hinahabol padin siya up to now.

Take it as a blessing. Hindi pa din ako totally move on pero atleast I'm seeing things at a different perspective. Pray, pray and pray lang.

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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #26 on: June 20, 2012, 10:50:38 PM »
^parang kinabahan naman ako dun sa gf ng xbf ko, magpapakasal pa naman sila.. wag naman sana maulit na yun sa kanya.. sobrang bait kasi nung girl..

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« Reply #27 on: June 20, 2012, 11:10:47 PM »
same story ng pinsan ko, sabi ko move forward na sya, pero until alam ko hirap pa din sya. Sis mabuti na yan iba ang pinili nya, dami talaga manloloko  >:(

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« Reply #28 on: June 22, 2012, 09:11:49 PM »
I've been with a serial cheater ex-bf, at sa dami namin ako ang legal at palaging pinipili. Actually hindi nga pinipili kasi after niya sa mga babae niya balik siya sakin pero hindi ko alam yun nalalaman ko nalang tapos na ang affair. Nung kami akala ko pag ikaw pinili ikaw yung mahal, ikaw ang higit, ikaw lahat. Pero HELL NO.. Ikaw pinipili kasi ikaw lang ang nakaka-take at swallow at nakaka-allow ng ganung situation. Feeling ko ba masaya ako kasi ako pinili? HELL NO.. Oo nasaktan at sinumpa talaga siya ng mga babaeng niloko niya at sinabay niya sakin pero looking at their lives now? Sila yung masaya. Kasi it's either they found someone na minahal talaga sila.. which is karamihan ganun nangyari or wala na silang iisipan pa (paranoid, trust issues blah blah )

In short, hindi porket pinili ikaw ang mahal. Based on my exp nalang sis, kung matagal ko ng ginawang mag-move on at di ko na pinilit pa yun samin eh di sana masaya na ko by this time. Pero ganun talaga tigas ulo ko eh. Pero I'm super happy it's over. Naawa nalang ako sa nagiging girlfriend niya or sa baliw niyang ex-gf na hinahabol padin siya up to now.

Take it as a blessing. Hindi pa din ako totally move on pero atleast I'm seeing things at a different perspective. Pray, pray and pray lang.

Tama ka sis. Hindi porke kapag pinili yon yung higit o yun yung mahal. Madalas pinipili nang mga lalaki kung saan sila nakakasiguro. Kaya nga mas madalas yung mga long term gf pa rin ang pinipili dahil mas kampante na sila may assurance na sila na kilala na sila nang girl at ma to tolerate na nang girl ang ugali nila. Kaya yung mga nag se self pity na hindi sila ang pinili dapat tigilan na dahil nindi porke pinakawalan ka ay may mali o kulang sayo.

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« Reply #29 on: August 06, 2012, 01:12:56 AM »
hi.. i just want to share my feelings on this matter.. I am the other woman in a relationship. I know its really stupid, but I can't just let go coz I love the guy so much. I tried to hide it, I tried to hold back and ignore my feelings but I just can't anymore. Ever since we saw each other again last year, we knew that our feelings since our high school days were still there. Kahit anong pilit namen na itago or pigilin, we knew that we still care for each other and we still love each other. I know its really stupid of me, coz i knew all along na may gf sya, well nung una ayaw nya aminin na gf nya un, pero i dont care, nakikita ko naman na madalas sila magkasama and it really cuts like a knife na almost everyday sila nagkikita, naisip ko na umiwas na. but everytime na magtetext sya or tatawag sya, nakakalimutan ko na lahat ng iniisip ko. i know hndi sya ang mkakatuluyan ko eh, i feel it.. pero sa ngaun, i am just enjoying it kahit masakit at mahirap. pls dont judge me, i am just sharing this coz [textspeak!] akong mapagsabihan.. thanks!

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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #30 on: August 07, 2012, 07:57:58 AM »
^ I commend your honesty but I can tell you for sure you WILL be judged based on this post. It's the brutal truth.

Also, please know that KARMA IS A F*CKING B*TCH. Enjoy it now, but it WILL come back to haunt you one way or the other. I guarantee you. 

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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #31 on: August 07, 2012, 07:30:23 PM »
^^It's not worth it sis! better to cut na that relationship and find someone who will really love and respect you!
wag mo ng pag aksayahan ng oras kung wala namang patutunguhan. Sayang ang time at ang emotions mo. Better spend it on someone who will reciprocate it. masakit lang yan sa umpisa pero you will be thanking yourself oag naputol mo na ng tuluyan.

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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #32 on: November 13, 2012, 05:57:33 AM »
my super close girl friend is in this kind of situation kasi naman attracted sila sa isa't isa nung guy, they clicked agad mas naging close sila nung nag-break yung guy at guys's girl so i think they've fallen for each other agad para bang matagal na daw silang magkakilala and all.


pero sadly nakipag balikan yung girl at umabot sa punto na gusto na agad makipag kasalan yung girl kay guy at nalaman na ng families and all. si guy naman ay pressures kasi dw pa daw ready magpakasal and unsure na siya sa feelings niya sa gf niya although sobrang tagal na rin nila talaga like 9 years...na fall out of love na rin siya.


so yung friend ko naman, since mahal na mahal na niya yung guy ay pumayag siya sa ganung setup, siguro hoping na magkaron sila ng chance. si guy naman i think ay confused pa hindi pa siguro alam paano haharapin yung expectations ng tao around him and his gf pero i think ayaw na niya sa gf niya at least hindi na 100% ang love niya. nafifeel ko naman din na mahal na mahal nung guy ang friend ko kaya lang di pa siguro alam pano tatapusin yung isa.


naawa lang ako sa friend ko dahil in love talaga siya eh so lagi ko nalang siya sinasamahan whenever need niya ng kasama or kausap. willing siya mag sacrifice and all, maypagka martyr din kasi si bruha kahit wala naman din assurance na siya nga ang pipiliin at the end.

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Re: i was the other girl and i didn't know.
« Reply #33 on: July 18, 2014, 04:45:03 AM »

This is going to be a lengthy story, but here goes:

My bf pursued me for almost 2 years, on and off, before I finally relented and said 'yes.' I say on/off because he had a notorious past where I heard that he had a girlfriend and some flings on the side.

The news of all that came too late, when I had began falling for him too. So it was my head battling with my heart kaya ko siya nireject many times to the point I was almost pushing him away. I was hurt and angry, after all.

So it came to a point that I could no longer bear being without him, so I said yes to the relationship. He separated himself from his 'ex' who, according to him, wouldn't leave him alone, to be with me.

The first few months were great, yung pagsasama namin was peppered with fights din from time to time, mostly due to my mistrust. Nagkwento kasi sya about his past, per my request, and I learned that babaero pala talaga sya. So when I learned that, mas naging paranoid ako, and syempre sumunod na din yung my constantly checking on him. So nasakal na din sya with me being overprotective of his whereabouts.

I got this a bit under control eventually and naging okay kami, not great, pero okay. Then on our 11th month, there was a day na hindi ko sya makontak. My instinct flared up na something was wrong. He called me the next day and told me that there was an emergency at home and things were too hectic and that he wasn't able to charge his phone.

I accepted his reason but later that night, I checked his ex's FB page (I don't know why), but I saw a pic of them together. I was devastated, confronted him and he told me the pic was not true. You see, yung ex nya was so hung up on him she keeps recycling pics from their time together to pass it off as recent. Sabi nya dating pic na daw yun.

I knew he was lying so I kept my eyes and ears open from that time. I investigated until the signs became more apparent. It was a given na that he was cheating on me and I kept asking about it pero he denied everything pa din even though giveaway na yung mga bagay na nakita ko. It came to a point that I contacted the girl and she told me they were still together.

Pinili kong mag bulag-bulagan kasi with what I discovered, nag kick-in na din yung fear of losing him and it was a moment I realized that I loved him so much. I still stayed with him pero madalas na kami mag away because my feelings of being cheated on was strong. Nagduda na ko sa kanya and everytime he didn't call or text, nag aaway na kami.

Until 1 day, an anonymous person contacted me to say that my bf was with the girl. Hinamon ako ng nagtext to see for myself (after a few insults), and kahit hindi nagbigay ng location, I went to the hotel that my bf once told me they frequented nung sila pa dati. Sure enough, his car was parked there.

I left and later confronted him. Inamin nya na because he was caught and we broke up. A couple of days of no contact later, he reached out to me to apologize and asked me to take him back. I did. Kasi mahal ko.

But I wasn't past the trauma of the incident and somehow, someway I kept bugging him for answers to what and why it happened which he did not want to give because he said that it will make things worse and would only lead to fights. Sure enough, we still fought and he would not speak to me for a few days after kasi it was that bad.

Things got better after a while, and he told me na tama na muna yung samin and aayusin nya muna yung problema nya, which meant ending things with the ex. So i waited and waited, until I got frustrated and I kept asking him how things were going which irritated him eventually kasi ang kulit ko na. I kept telling him na if he can't end things with her, to just tell me and I will go away. But all he kept saying was "We're okay."

Kahit hindi na kami technically, we still acted na kami pa pero less showy to the people around us. He and I are workmates, and yung department niya had an outing, one time. I asked to go but he told me that it was not allowed to bring anyone outside. He was a manager and I knew he could pull some strings, pero he said he didn't want to go against the wishes of the people under him. Sabi ko they knew I was his girlfriend, so it was not a big deal. Still, sabi nya he can't take me.

Sobrang nagtampo ako and after that trip, he withdrew from me. He still contacted me and we were together most times pero there were incidents na distant sya. So out of frustration, sinabi ko sa kaniya na if he doesn't want to be with me or give the other girl up, because i don't know naman if may progress yung 'inaayos nya,' then maybe we should end it. Hindi siya sumagot until the next day I asked. Sabi nya wala daw sya masabi basta 'We're okay.'

Nalaman ko din after na sinama nya pala yung girl sa outing na yun and everyone kept mum about it kasi they didn't know if they should tell me. I was devastated. Niloloko ako and ipinahiya pa ko. I felt so betrayed. Sobrang iyak ako that day. Our mutual friends found out and they gave him a piece of their mind by posting their feelings in the chat group we had.

He and I talked it over the next day and I could see that he had not slept yet. He finally confessed everything to me. He told me that he had come to a point in his life that he wanted to be with someone and he was determining if it was her or me. He told me that what he did was wrong and inexcusable. He refused to let me go because he said he did not want to let me go but he was giving me the choice to leave now if it was what I wanted. He said he realizes that I deserve better than him.

But the problem is, I love him. Despite what he did to me, mahal ko siya. And I can't bear letting him go. I know this is no longer right. Pero I see him pa frequently because we work together kaya nare-reinforce din yung feelings. Hindi niya rin mapangako sakin if he will stop seeing her pero he said I give it time kasi things are so complicated that he can't fix or end everything overnight.

I want to stop. But i don't know how to begin. I can't leave my work din because I have responsibilities din. I've been working here for 3 years, same as him.


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« Reply #34 on: July 18, 2014, 04:54:50 AM »
actually im not in the same situation pero my hubbys ex gf is driving both of us crazy. his ex sent him an email with a picture saying thank you. As much as I want to make duda i cant. we live together and work at the same company though different buildings. We go to work and go home at the same time. I handle our finances. Everytime dumadating yung sweldo he transfers all his money sa shared account namin and makes a point to show me his payslip. We decided to ignore the emails. Pero minsan part of me wants to think na baka something is going on.

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« Reply #35 on: July 19, 2014, 03:19:42 AM »
eto yung mga lalakeng di dapat panghinayangan, blessing yan sis.

atleast di ka na mapaparanoid or magdududa pa sa magiging next guy mo.

and it just shows his values, nakuha niyang gawin yun ng paulit ulit? angas haha

forgive him and forgive yourself. then move on :) and find your own true love na alam mong sayong sayo lang kahit kelaaaaan. hehe

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« Reply #36 on: July 28, 2014, 08:02:06 PM »
Update lang to my earlier story. I decided to stop contacting my ex and he still continued texting me. So tinitext ko na lang sya pqg sya nag initiate. I didn't want to burn bridges din kasi especially since may pinagsamahan kami plus we work together. Now that I'm slowly detaching, naglalambing naman sya. He is attentive and sweet ngayon. He says mahal nya ko but when i ask if he loves the girl he is with, he says hindi na daw sila nagkikita at naguusap gaano ngayon. His answer was 'i dont know.' The last time na nagusap kasi kami he told me guilt was the major reason he went back to his ex because he hurt her so many times and she keeps accepting him back. I'm still in love with this guy. I'm at a loss...

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« Reply #37 on: July 29, 2014, 12:01:23 AM »
^mas fulfilling ang maging in a relationship sa lalakeng sigurado sayo at sa nararamdaman niya para sayo. :)

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« Reply #38 on: September 05, 2014, 12:55:26 AM »
No matter how much you love him, you have to honor his commitment sa girlfriend niya. Kung ako yung other girl, ako yung aalis.

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« Reply #39 on: September 05, 2014, 10:01:03 PM »
tama kayo sa sinabi niya.. message ng message ko pero hindi ko pinapansin.. feeling ko kasi kaya siya nakikipagcommunicate ulit sakin para reserba ako hehe. kaya ayaw ko na pansini...

 

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