How did you handle your own experience of worst case KAHIHIYAN in office?

[Purple_Power]

For sure everyone of us had experienced this kind of situation na napapahiya tayo. Worst case pati yung reputation natin nagsuffer na rin.

What are the scenarios na napahiya or nagkaroon ng serious and worst case of KAHIHIYAN inside the office or the company?

Take note: Please do not share the humorous kind of embarrassment like you went to male's comfort room instead of going to female's CR. It is about the serious case that I want you to share.
 
How were you able to resolve your issues or handle this kind of pressure?

Can you share it with us?

Take note: as much as possible share your own experience and not the experience of other people such as our officemates, neighbors, classmates, especially for those people that are not member of this forum. The reason that I want you to share your own experience is that at least you may also help other people on how to handle this kind of pressure. I am not forcing anyone to share but the point is we don't need to talk about the experiences of other people especially if we are not involve with their issue.

[orangetag]

It depends sa kahihiyan dear. There are things na nakakahiya but you can use humor to make it go away.

[Purple_Power]

Kaya nga I am asking some specific scenarios if others don't mind sharing it.

[carmichael18]

ako dati nag resign, ang ga** ko nga kasi hindi naman ako yung nakakahiya kung hindi SILA ng babae niya.. pero ako na lang umalis kasi gusto ko matahimik..

scenario: ka live in ko dati, nambabae, officemate pa namin.. kapal ng mukha... yung babae ang lakas ng loob, handle ko pa naman siya nun, I could have manipulated her [textspeak!] scores to get even at materminate siya, pero hindi ko ginawa...

[Purple_Power]

^At least good decision na rin ang nagresign ka. Nakakailang naman kasi na parang magkakasama pa kayo na andun lahat pati ang karibal. tsk tsk!!!! I think normal lang ang magresign lalo na kung not in good terms with bfs or gfs tapos may third party involved na within sa office rin.

[serendipity02]

depende siguro kung paanong kahihiyan..

kung personal kang napahiya, might as well leave the office na lang..

pero kung work related gaya ng lates, absences, etc.. hinde na lang kasi may memo naman for that eh! haha!

just want to share, i have a girl officemate na ikakasal, 3 mos prior the wedding nagkaron sya ng something with a TL of other team.. she got pregnant, but we dont know and she doesnt even know kung sino ang ama.. si babae andito pa (sayang ang beneifts) si TL nagresign na (dahil may nabuntis daw)..

[Purple_Power]

^So iba pa yung pakakasalan niya? Hindi yung TL ang pakakasalan niya?

As for me hindi naman nakakahiya ang lates, absences pero siempre nakakahinayang naman na materminate for that cause.

[17arci]

napahiya ako kahapon kasi naupo ako sa hindi ko pwesto at ginalaw ko pa yung laptop. haha confused lang. tinawanan na lang namin :p

[Purple_Power]

Thank you for sharing the different kinds of worst case experiences. However I just modified my post while ago because as much as possible it could be better to share our own experiences rather than sharing the experiences of other people. Because I think it could be also better if we share of how were we able to handle this kind of pressure. At least other people would have an idea as well on how to solve their problems and yet we were able to help.

[miss resilient]

in my opinion, i dont think na may willing na magshare dito ng sariling kahihiyan...

[Ktrix]

Hope you can help me in my situation right now.
my reputation has been damaged and i want to clear things out.the story goes like this:

For the past few months, nagkarelasyon kami ng ka officemate ko kahit my girlfriend pa cya pro long distance sila.at first magkaibigan lang talaga kami and we didnt expect na magkadevelopan kasi we always reminded ourselves na dapat di ma fall each other at di ko rin nman hiniling or inexpect na mamahalin nya ako kasi alam kong di nya ako pipiliin in the end..her gf is a doctor at yung ka officemate ko nman may malaking posisyon sa ofiice namin at relatives nya yung big boss namin.isa lang akong assistant at contractual sa office namin pro hindi ko sya boss kasi magkaibang dept kami.

Kahit nung una pa lang naisip ko nang mali eto kaya everytime nasasaktan ako,nag dedesisyon akong mag stop na kami kahit masakit.many times kaming nag stop kasi nga bawal at hindi dapat pro dahil natuto na nya rin akong mahalin,nakikipagbalikan cya skin.lalo na nung last time na nagstop kami,talagang nag beg cya na huwag muna kaming magstop kasi di nya daw kaya.

Until the last time na nagdesisiyon na tlaga akng tapusin na kung anong meron kami kasi nasasaktan na ako at mas lalong masasaktan lang kami kung alam namin sa isat isa na wlang patutunguhan aming relasyon.pero hindi ko inixpect na ako ang pipiliin nya at handa na cyang sabihin sa gf nya ang lahat2x tungkol sa amin.maayos naman ang paguusap at break up nila at first kaya di na namin inexpect ang mga pangyayari.

Dahil di pala natanggap ng babae na pinili ako against him.inalam nya kung sino ako..sinabihan nya ang big boss namin ang tungkol sa aming dalawa..lahat2x ng pangyayari kapag di makabayad yung guy sa mga utang nya sa babae kasali na yung gift na ibinigay nya,papabayad din nya. Babayaran na man sna nya yung babae pro inunahan na cya at dun nagsumbong. Dahil malapit ang loob ng babae sa big boss namin..pinatawag ng big boss nmin yung mga boss ko (div.chief at boss ko ) na di ko alam.pagkatapos nyang kausapin, pumunta cya sa dept. namin at dahil malakas ang boses nya,narinig lahat ng ka dept.ko ang paninira nya skin..pinariringan nya ako na mang aaagaw ng boyriend at soon mang aagaw ng asawa.sa sobrang hiya ko di na ako pumasok kinabukasan at tinxt ko yung gf nya sa ginawa nila.unfortunately, finorward nya yung text ko sa big boss nmin kaya kinabukasan andun na nman cya sa dept namin at sinira na nman ako sa harap nila at kung ano ano na ang pinagsasabi na kasiraan tungkol skin kahit di na totoo kahit wala na ako dun.pati mga barkada ko sa office na nakakaalam tungkol samin dinamay nya.

My point is..pwede nman nya akng kausapin at pagalitan at siraan na ako lang..bakit kylangan pa nyang kausapin mga boss ko at pahiyain sa harap ng ka officemate ko na personal issue nman yun at hindi work related. At isa pa, problema namin yun, di na dapat cya nakialam.At ngayon wala na akng mukhang maiharap dun kasi sinira na nya reputasyon ko.at tatangalin nya ako dahil dun.

Help me po anong gagawin ko kasi di ko na alam kung anong dapat gawin..

[angelzero]

i worked as a marketing executive before. hindi ko talaga sya linya. first of all, it requires a certain kind of pagiging organized since it's all about meetings, talking to suppliers, setting up appointments etc. that's not my kind of thing. i took the job because it had the word "fashion" in it and since i couldn't get a designer job at that point, i took it as a stepping stone hoping i'd get transfered to a different department eventually.

our brand had a promo. may winner na. all i had to do was to book the accommodations that the contestants won kasi may airplane tickets na sila. when the contestants got there (in cebu) they called me up saying wala silang reservations doon. i had no choice but to call up my boss para magawan nya ng paraan since friend nya yung may-ari ng hotel. they booked them on a much bigger room since yun lang yung available. our company have to pay the difference nung voucher tsaka nung actual room rate na nakuha nila. i got scolded big time. to think that my boss was a very nice person but that incident stressed her a lot.

sa sobrang disorganized ko i didn't check if everything was ok na. naaawa din ako sa promo winner kasi kasama nya mom nya who was really looking forward to the trip. after 1 month i resigned stating that i couldn't fulfill my duties well since it is not the job i signed up for. very embarrassing. i still cringe everytime i recall it and that was already 5 years ago.

[evilwoman]

@ktrix - matanda ka na kaya alam mong may consequence yang ginawa mo.if i were you,instead na materminate ako (madali gawin dahil contractual ka) kusa na ako aalis.if they give you a hard time like bawal sa contract,etc. Suck it up na lang siguro and let this be a lesson. May pagkakataon talaga na mabilis ang dating ng karma.

Para naman di ot,pinakanakakahiya na nangyari na siguro sa akin e masigawan ng boss ko dahil sinabi kong di ko completely naitindihan yung tinuturo nya at may pinapaclarify ako. As in alingawngaw ang boses nya sa buong floor. Dedma lang ako pero deep inside tunaw sa hiya pero in the end,lumabas na ang asal nya nakakahiya. Kala mo walang pinagaralan.

[Purple_Power]

Thank you for sharing your own experiences.

Ktrix I am actually thinking otherwise if you can consult that to Labor as well yung wala namang kinalaman sa monetary. I just find it unfair and kind of unethical na ang boss mo ay pupunta sa department at magsisigaw o mag aasta ng ganyan in a way that he is already humiliating too. To think boss pa naman siya or considering as supervisor parang napaka unprofessional ng dating ng ginagawa niya. Kung ako nasa lagay mo nirecord ko ng video yan or voice record, captured without his consent then ipapaconsult ko na siya sa labor. It is kind of unfair lang kasi na magresign ka just because of that. Mabuti sana kung may nangyari na sa inyo at may bunga. Tama yung sinabi mo dapat kinausap ka niya privately hindi yung ganyan. If I were you sis huwag ka muna umalis, kapag ginawa ulit I tell you to capture it. Then again consult that to labor. May mali pala ang empleyado eh! Bakit gagatungan nitong supervisor mo na mas malala pa? Panlilibak yan. If you want to resign dapat yung mga parinig ng supervisor mo capture mo then saka ka magconsult. Kasi kapag ganyan baka pwede silang ipatawag for settlement lang. Hindi ko lang kasi alam ang rules for damaging reputation naman eh!

angelzero I could imagine your experience especially in terms of discrepancies lalo na kung hindi mo naman siempre ginusto magkamali at hindi mo intention tapos sabay hindi mo naman maiwasan mapahiya dahil sa na stress yung boss. Na experience ko na yan and to think sa friend ko pa na boss ko ang pinagkaiba lang was we were just 2 during that time inside the office. Hindi ako napahiya pero ako nahihiya sa kanya dahil sa mga incompetencies ko during that time.

evilwoman Naranasan ko na rin masigawan pero hindi naman yung ganyan na to the highest level. Hindi ko naman consider as napahiya ako kasi ganyan rin naman siya sa iba. Pero ayoko naman ng ganyan na parang kailangan eh! parang magugunaw na ang mundo.

[angelzero]

^kaya i promised myself na sa next company ko kailangan gusto ko na yung work. kahit lower pay basta gusto ko ginagawa ko. so hard to get up every morning thinking oh here goes another crappy day at work kasi nga ayaw ko naman ginagawa ko. ang consequence most of the time is that you're not giving your best cuz you're always thinking about doing something else.

[Purple_Power]

Same here parang akong may Monday sickness parati. Mas enjoy ko pa homebased kaya dapat tyaga tyaga lang ako sa paghahanap hehe...

[sistah!]

eto yung akin.

yung boss ko ayaw nya sa akin. he's open about that naman. I try to ignore it pero syempre nakaka-demoralize talaga kasi lagi na lang nya ako pinagtataasan ng boses at parang gusto nya talaga na pahiyain ako. lagi nya ako hinahanapan ng butas at kung ano ano na rin ang narinig ko tungkol sa inis nya sa akin. anyway, one time, nag-vent ako sa fb page ko. I didn't mention yung name ng boss ko. Ni hindi nga ako nagreklamo ng matindi, sinabi ko lang, yung boss ko hindi marunong mag-thank you. yun lang.
I only have a few friends sa fb ko, private din ang page ko. wala akong co-worker na nasa friends list ko. nagulat ako kasi the next day, kinausap ako ng isa pang boss ditto sa company at pinapabura yung status ko. I defended myself naman saying that 1) I never mentioned any name and 2) no one has access to read that page.

ang problema, may screenshot ang evil boss, I don't know how. troll kasi yan. anyway binura ko na yung status para wala na lang problema pero ang ginawa nya pinasa nya yung shot na yung sa ibang mga tao sa office. I think he wanted t send the message that I am this "b!tch" who complains about his attitude, alam mo yun talagang pinapahiya nya ako.
honestly, since ayaw naman ng mga tao sa kanya, hindi ako ganun ka-bothered kasi nga hindi nya rin maitaas yung reklamo nya sa HR kasi nga wala naman pangalan at wala naman kaso na magaganap kaya nga ganyan ang ginawa nya. pinasa nya sa ibang tao, may print out din sya at nilagay nya sa office nya para lahat ng pumasok dun, Makita yun.  anyway, yan na ang pinakamatinding kahihiyan ko sa amin.

[Purple_Power]

^Sino ba yang boss na yan? Anong type of industry ba ang work mo? Seems that your boss is powertripping. Kasi kung boss talaga yan for all usually maingat sila sa treatment nila sa empleyado saka magagalit lang sila kapag may mali ka hindi yung nagpapowertrip.

[sistah!]

corporate ang work ko. although hindi maganda ang structure sa amin dahil matindi ang palakasan. medyo malakas ako sa big boss, which I think contributes to whatever bullying I face sometimes.

walang nangyari. the boss who asked me to take down the fb post also asked him to take down the print out and to stop sending it out. at the end of the day, I really shouldn't have ranted on fb. but if my behavior was bad, I think my boss's behavior was equally, if not more appalling. hindi ugali ng boss na maayos. actually, may isa pa akong malaking problema sa office namin. I think it's time to walk away but I am looking for a job muna na na lilipatan bago ako umalis.