Author Topic: Have you ever been inlove with someone even if you're married? (Read 896 times)

rose_24 · « **on:** May 12, 2011, 04:06:20 pm »

Ang hirap ng situation na ganun noh...

I have a friend na nagpakasal sa 3years boyfriend nya at a few months after the marriage eh naghiwalay na din sila... ngayon nagmahal sya at hirap sa situation ng present bf nya dahil tago sila ng tago dahil nga married ang friend ko...once a month lang sila makita pro araw araw at minu-minuto naman sila magkatext... Hindi pa napakilala yung bf nya sa family ng friend ko kasi pakiramdam daw nya e hindi maiintindihan at hindi magugustuhan ng magulang nya at baka paghiwalyin sila... sabi nya minsan parang nakakapagod na daw pro mahal nya daw eh kaya maghiwalay sila kaya sobrang sakripisyo ang ginagawa nya... handa naman daw sagutin ng present boyfriend nya ang annulment nito pro hindi alam ng frien ko kung pano nya uumpisahan ang lahat para mapawalang bisa na ang kasal nila nung ex nya...

Need some advice po...Thanks to all po...

sushisundance · « **Reply #1 on:** May 24, 2011, 10:48:01 am »

^ ikaw to sis no? nagpost ka rin kasi ng how to convince your hubby for annulment.

anyway, I had an officemate na ganyan yung situation, yung hubby nya nagloko, then ngayon nagpapa-annul na sila, pero even though di pa tapos annulment may bf na sya na officemate din namin. And guess what? Most people from our office hindi masyado maganda tingin na kakahiwalay lang nya (at di pa tapos annulment) eh may bf na agad sya at very visible pa samin. Some people were advicing her to take things slowly muna.

My take on this is that you have to make things clear first, para wala ng problema. Push through the annulment, get it over with, then start having fun with your life. Mahirap naman kasi na palaging may gumugulo sa isip mo, mas okay na ayos na lahat diba? It's just like getting a new job, before you transfer to another company, magresign ka muna sa present job mo, magpaclearance ka, then you're good to go. Hope this helps even just a little bit.

Ms.Cacao70% · « **Reply #2 on:** May 27, 2011, 12:35:30 am »

one at a time girl, one at a time

di pwedeng sugod ng sugod sa laban pero hindi naman ready, kulang ang weapon. baka magkamali na naman ulit, patong-patong na problema na yan. kung may anak na, isipin muna ang kapakanan ng bata at kung ano ang mas makakabuti sa kanya. close one chapter of your life first then start on a clean slate. tama ang sabi ni sushisundance.

hindi masamang umibig pero may tamang panahon at situation para dyan.

fegloria1954 · « **Reply #3 on:** May 27, 2011, 01:51:26 pm »

No.

And I don't intend to do that.

I know the depth and breadth of pain, hurt, anger, and alienation that can happen if there is infidelity, when that was done to me by the man I married. We are on the road of forgiveness, making amends and healing now. I wouldn't want him to experience what I have experienced. Not for any poncio pilato in the world!

Mommy Fe

FickleMinded · « **Reply #4 on:** June 20, 2011, 10:02:23 pm »

Quote from: rose_24 on May 12, 2011, 04:06:20 pm

Ang hirap ng situation na ganun noh...

I have a friend na nagpakasal sa 3years boyfriend nya at a few months after the marriage eh naghiwalay na din sila... ngayon nagmahal sya at hirap sa situation ng present bf nya dahil tago sila ng tago dahil nga married ang friend ko...once a month lang sila makita pro araw araw at minu-minuto naman sila magkatext... Hindi pa napakilala yung bf nya sa family ng friend ko kasi pakiramdam daw nya e hindi maiintindihan at hindi magugustuhan ng magulang nya at baka paghiwalyin sila... sabi nya minsan parang nakakapagod na daw pro mahal nya daw eh kaya maghiwalay sila kaya sobrang sakripisyo ang ginagawa nya... handa naman daw sagutin ng present boyfriend nya ang annulment nito pro hindi alam ng frien ko kung pano nya uumpisahan ang lahat para mapawalang bisa na ang kasal nila nung ex nya...

Need some advice po...Thanks to all po...

una sa lahat, what took you so long to realized na hindi mo naman na pala mahal ang hubby (then boyfriend) mo at inabot pa kayo ng kasal.I assume this new relationship did not happen overnight,meron ka ng feelings dito sa bago even before ka pa lang magpakasal,and siguro,thinking na pag nagpakasal ka sa boyfriend mo eh mawawala yung feelings mo which is nagkamali ka ng assumptions.
Willing ka magsacrifice jan sa new jowa mo but you don't mind throwing the 3+ years you had ith your husband? then suffer the consequences, alangan ba naman kunsintihin ka ng family mo eh kahihiyan din nila yan.

Regarding annulment, not only it takes a long time to process it, it also needs to be a mutual decision between your husband and you, hindi yan maaaprubahan kung ikaw lang ang may gusto at anong ground naman ang gagamitin mo?