Child Custody (Dad VS Mom)

[shoutingwind]

pumpkin... kaloka ka!

Wag kang pumasok sa kwarto na walang daan palabas. Magpapakasal ka tapos pag  hindi kayo tuluyang nag work out ano na? Maghihiwalay kayo tapos makakakita kayo ng iba na pakikisamahan nyo. Pero illegal naman kasi di nyo mapakasalan etc etc.

Alalahanin, wala pang divorce sa pinas at mahal ang annulment!

Tama si aquacharly, try nyo muna live in set up.

At kung hindi kayo magwork out, i settle nyo in court yung custody. Hindi naman pwede ilayo sayo yung anak mo kahit na ang custody ay nasa nanay. Ikaw pa din tatay nyan eh.
Bago ma-fly ang bata kung saang lupalop ng mundo, kailangan ng consent ng tatay.

[pumpkin]

from what id heard... yung nanay, pede ilabas ng bansa ang baby kahit walang consent ng tatay. pero ang tatay hindi daw pede ilabas ng bansa ang baby ng walang consent ng nanay... right?

good thing is wala naman sa states ang ex nya.

it is actually her parents who want us to get married. yeah! they knew the real score between us. alam din ng mom ko, i don't know about my dad.

funny... yung parents nya live-in partners hanggang ngayon. parents ko hiwalay na.

[rianne_mallows]

from what id heard... yung nanay, pede ilabas ng bansa ang baby kahit walang consent ng tatay. pero ang tatay hindi daw pede ilabas ng bansa ang baby ng walang consent ng nanay... right?

yup.. ni hindi pwede ikuha ng passport ang baby ng father kahit married without the mother.. yung ang rule ngayon.. (kaya ako mismo kailangan mag-asikaso ng passport ng baby ko haay..)

[orangetag]

hello pumpkin, sorry to ask this, but given that your fiancee is not so over her ex, are you really sure that the baby is yours?  kasi it seems to me that the guy and the girl do not give a rat's ass on taking on the responsibility of raising the baby by themselves eh... just asking.

I agree. Sorry, but how sure are you that the baby is yours? if I'm not mistaken, kahit sang korte mo isampa yung case, as long as hindi napatunayan na capable ang mother na mag-alaga ng baby, the court ALWAYS gives the custody to the mother habang hindi pa kaya magisip nung bata kung kanino sya sasama. So you cant bring the baby abroad. And please dont marry the girl just because of the baby. It'll just create a bigger problem soon. Goodluck.

[spc]

pa-comment lang...we have the same situation bro...buti sa yo nalaman mo before the marriage.ako I learned lang after getting married. MAhirap na situation to...think long and hard before getting hitched. Antagal ko prinoblema sa asawa ko to. If I learned about it before we got married di ko na tinuloy kasal namen kahit pa may baby involved.

[pleasureshop]

just do what makes you happy, kahit may mali or mali...

[khakhaganda]

@janzphynx - thanks we are okay now. nagkaruon kami ng agreement. ikakasal kami and at the same time we will try to work it out again (para sa baby namin).
she deleted their photos, sabi ko na lang, she can keep it in her harddisk but make sure na walang akong makikita sa facebook nya dahil sawa na ako sa kakadepensa sa kanya sa tuwing magtatanong ang mga family and friends ko at mutual friends namin. Sana mag-workout nga.. dahil ayaw ko rin danasin ng baby namin ang dinanas ko.

I super admire you bihira ang lalaking ganyan i hope and i pray na mag work out nga and tell your partner na sabi ko kung hindi pa sya magtino sya din and mawawalan

[Alucard]

@TS,

Why marry her if you are still going to fix things? better po na make it work first at palakasin pa lalo ang pundasyon ng relationship ninyo before going to another level. kung baga sa bahay e ayusin muna ang first floor bago magpagawa ng 2nd floor.

with regards to the custudy, here in the Philippines ang korte ay laging pumapanig sa rights ng babae so you could only be given visitation rights sa baby mo. Pag pinaglaban mo matindi tinding laban yan kasi sa super daming pwedeng pang defend ng babae kasi even her family (Not just her mom and dad) can support your child at pwede parin ito tangkalikin ng korte.

[weirdzz]

Grabe sobrang hirap ng sitwasyon nyo. Hindi pa kayo married nyan ang dami ng hassle. Make sure na gusto nyo tlaga maging mag asawa at hindi nyo ginagawa yan dahil sa baby lang. Sabi nga ni Cousin Violet sa Downton abbey Marriage is a long business. There's no getting out of it for our kind of people.

[skrumian]

last year itong thread na ito... ano na kaya nangyari?

[Mommy•Shey]

Child's Custody always binibigay sa Mother, kahit walang trabaho si mother, pero kaya naman ng katawan niyang maghanap ng work, dun padin panig ang korte. Pero once na napatunayan na si babae ay Mentally Ill, Physically Ill, and no other chance to support the baby, that's the only time na iga-grant ang custody sa Father.

[joyceleste]

don't try to take the baby away na wala lang. you could get arrested for kidnapping. what you can do is to try and convince the mother na mas mabuting nasa iyo ang baby.

[gabeetorres]

actually child custody depends. automatic sa mom kapag wala pa 7 yrs old ang bata, pero that's not absolute. pwede pa rin mapunta sa dad ang bata depende sa capacity ng mom. search for it sa google. nandun yung mga grounds.

[ezonme]

^i've googled the grounds.. ano ba yung example sa sinasabi nilang "communicable illness" kasi when i searched ang lumalabas lang si measles.. sore throat.. etc so meaning pag meron ka nun puwede mapunta sa ama yung bata?

My partner has the tendency to be abusive (physically) he has done it once. Kakaiba lang talaga siya magalit. Sabi ko nga sa kanya our differences, our shortcomings we can always work out ang problema lang naman is how he's unable to control his temper (para siyang beast magalit) and when we get into a fight lalo na pagnakainom siya lage niya ko tinatakot na kukunin niya yung anak namin sa akin. We live at my parent's house. One time he told me hindi ko siyang puwedeng paalisin kasi andito daw ang anak niya. (In the first place di ko naman siya pinalalayas, i was asking him to leave muna to cool off. Anyway gusto ko lang mapanatag loob ko na hindi niya makukuha yung anak ko sa akin. Pareho naman kami may work pero mas malaki ang kinikita ko sa kanya.

[gabeetorres]

^

I guess that's AIDS sis, yung communicable disease. Parang mga ganun ka grave na disease. Hmmm...if ganun ang husband mo pag nalalasing and napatunayan mo naman yun sa court just in case you need the full custody ng mga kids mo, bibigay sayo yun ng court.

[honeypurple24]

@ezonme a child 7 years and below will always be given in the custody of the mother unless there is a serious ground to disqualify the mother from having the custody of the child. For example, if the mother is living with another man not her husband, yun pwede yun, kasi detrimental yun for the emotional well-being of the child, or if proven that the mother is not-fit to be the guardian of the child. But usually, mother talaga pag less than 7 years old. Pag more than 7 years old na, the court will ask the child kung saan niya gusto mag-stay. May bearing yung choice ng child sa decision ng court plus also the circumstances of the case. And importante jan is the child's well-being.