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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #40 on: April 19, 2011, 04:20:52 PM »
mga sis, sana wag nyo masyado masamain kung meron mga nagpapakita senyo ng ultrasound results or nagkuwento about their pregnancy. im sure di naman nila sinasadya na mang-inggit or something. mahirap lang kase minsan magpigil ng excitement. :) pero siguro kung may halong pang-aasar sa inyo yung pagkwento nila, ah eh ibang usapan na yun.

^^shekinahdale: i know mahirap pero IMO mas maganda para sayo na pumunta ka. para na din siguro mawala yung mga negativity na nararamdaman mo towards the whole situation (that you're still TTC). makikita mo, pag positive yung attitude mo, baka mas mabilis ang sagot sa prayers nyo. :)
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #41 on: April 19, 2011, 04:51:19 PM »
haist, naisip ko na rin na darating ako sa situation na yan sis. Though sa June pa mangangak yung isang friend ko and I'm hoping by that time ready na ako.

Buti na nga lang wala pa ring nag i-invite sa akin for baby shower kasi if ngayon as in now sila mag iinvite my answer is a BIG NO!  :-\. Kasi for sure ako na naman ang pulutan dun  :-[. Same month kasi ang wedding naming lahat so sabay-sabay din ang bridal shower namin. And yun nga nung month after month silang nag post sa FB about their pregnancy ang tanong ng lahat how bout you (my name) bilisan nyo na para sabay-sabay rin ang baby shower  :-[

I'm still on the process of "moving on" I have nothing against them naman and of course I'm happy for them. kaya lang may mga insensitive talagang tao. Which I know some of them didn't mean to offend me pero I can't help it sensitive din kasi talaga akong tao  :'(.

Sis shekinahdale :in your situation, it depends pa rin sayo, you have to assess your self kung kaya mo na bang pumunta. And syempre yung mga friends mo ba eh sensitive enough to understand your situation? For me ok lang na pumunta basta ba close friends lang yung nandun para sure na walang mga side comments sa atin.

Ako kasi ang iniiwasan ko talaga is yung mga taong naka paligid sa amin kasi sila ang mga hindi nakakaunawa sa situation. Yung mga preggy friends ko naman naiinitindihan ko na they are excited lang kaya nag po-post sila ng pics /update sa FB sino ba namang mom to be ang hindi diba? Ang ayaw ko lang talaga eh yung mga mag ko-comment pa at out of nowhere eh kukumustahin ako!

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #42 on: April 19, 2011, 06:34:28 PM »
sis shekinahdale - yung college friend mo ba e good friend? because if she is then maybe u have to go kasi baka sya naman ang magdamdam pag di ka nagpunta...besides di naman nya kasalanan kung nabuntis sya at nagkaanak, nagkataon lang na nauna sya sa yo...pero don't worry, kaw na ang susunod! claim it na sabi nga ni sis jhenrheign... :)

maybe u can say na di ka magtatagal kasi u have someplace else to go pa...para if in case maka-feel ka ng pagkalungkot e pwede ka nang umalis agad...kaya mo yan! :)

all of us have to face our issues and whether we like it or not, madami pang mabubuntis ahead of us... kaya ngayon pa lang e magpractice na tayong lahat na umattend ng mga baby shower parties, pagdalaw sa hospital or pagpunta sa mga binyag, hehe! kaya natin 'to mga sis!!!!! :)

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #43 on: April 20, 2011, 08:12:28 AM »
sis shekinahdale - yung college friend mo ba e good friend? because if she is then maybe u have to go kasi baka sya naman ang magdamdam pag di ka nagpunta...besides di naman nya kasalanan kung nabuntis sya at nagkaanak, nagkataon lang na nauna sya sa yo...pero don't worry, kaw na ang susunod! claim it na sabi nga ni sis jhenrheign... :)

maybe u can say na di ka magtatagal kasi u have someplace else to go pa...para if in case maka-feel ka ng pagkalungkot e pwede ka nang umalis agad...kaya mo yan! :)

all of us have to face our issues and whether we like it or not, madami pang mabubuntis ahead of us... kaya ngayon pa lang e magpractice na tayong lahat na umattend ng mga baby shower parties, pagdalaw sa hospital or pagpunta sa mga binyag, hehe! kaya natin 'to mga sis!!!!! :)

Thank u sis a_y_e_n and sis hairt mini  :)

@sis anne211 -- amen...susunod na ako :)..thanks sa payo sis, tinamaan ako dun sa last paragraph mo, tama ka, marami  pang mabubuntis ahead of us so dapat  maging strong lang tayo with the help of God ;) gumaan ang feeling ko talaga reading all your advices...salamat...

Sana lahat tayo na gustong magka-baby ay mapagbigyan ni Lord...Thank God for our babies...Mama Mary please intercede for us.

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #44 on: April 20, 2011, 08:36:34 AM »
sis shekinahdale - good luck! kaya mo yan! :) ako din lam ko na i have to come to terms with all that kasi 2 of my sis-in-law e malapit na ring manganak so nire-ready ko na sarili ko...good luck sa tin! kaya natin 'to with God's help...at dadating din yung time natin na sila naman ang dadalaw sa hospital to look at OUR babies... :)

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #45 on: April 22, 2011, 06:31:42 PM »
It feels bad talaga kapag mga kasamahan ko sa office naunahan ako ma preggy and sumisikip ang dibdib ko pag nakikita ko yun mga kasabayan ko na buntis. i got pregnant last oct of 2010 kaso i had a d and c dahil blighted ovum daw dapat and due date ko is on june 9 2011 hay sakit talaga. Tapos yun ka officemate ko pa kakakasal lang nila nun december now she is 8 weeks pregnant na. I go shopping para malibang ko sarili ko and iniisip ko tutal wala pa naman akong baby kaya mega gastos ako sa sarili ko. i bought lv bag nun nag fail din yun first iui ko kase sobrang depressing talaga kaya mega shopping na lang ako to release the stess.. :-*

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #46 on: April 23, 2011, 04:44:42 PM »
sis newbeymum - i had a friend na nagka-blighted ovum din pero she got pregnant again after a year or so, kaya relax ka lang, the fact na nabuntis ka means nakakabuo naman kayo, kaya mabubuntis ka din ulit nyan! :) ang masaklap pa dun sa friend ko, she announced her pregnancy sa facebook tapos after a few weeks binawi nya ulit, nakakalungkot din...

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #47 on: April 23, 2011, 09:31:47 PM »
sis newbeymum - i had a friend na nagka-blighted ovum din pero she got pregnant again after a year or so, kaya relax ka lang, the fact na nabuntis ka means nakakabuo naman kayo, kaya mabubuntis ka din ulit nyan! :) ang masaklap pa dun sa friend ko, she announced her pregnancy sa facebook tapos after a few weeks binawi nya ulit, nakakalungkot din...

Naku ako din sis mega announce sa lahat na preggers ako sa fb at marathin [textspeak!] samga friends and relatives kaya ang saklap diba di lang yunnag mega shopping na ako nun nag karoon ng sale ang avent dyosmiyo talaga ang saklaP

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #48 on: April 24, 2011, 03:27:28 PM »
sis newbeymum - di ka rin excited e no?!!! hehe...di bale next time matutuloy na yan...go lang ng go!!! hahaha! :)

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #49 on: April 25, 2011, 02:15:56 PM »
Powerful talaga ang prayers mga sis  ;D
last night night nag invite ang isa naming friend kasi may announcement daw sila ng gf nya.
And as in gusto nya lahat kami nandun (meaning kasama yung mga preggy naming friendships) So nag punta naman ako, but we don't have any idea kung ano ang i-aanounce nila. So after dinner nilapitan ako ng friend ko and sabi nya "(my name) ninang ka ha" sabi ko saan sa kasal? Then he said hmm pwede rin "both".

Then after ng announcement na yun pinakiramdaman ko yung sarili ko, kung na hurt pa ako or if I feel insecure na naman ba, but then God is so good coz what I felt is happiness. I'm so happy for them.
And yung iba sabi" o naunahan pa kayo" and sabi ko lang "di pa daw kasi time"

Yun, so I guess prayers talaga ang kailangan para maka cope tayo and makapag move-on (LOL parang broken hearted lang)

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #50 on: April 25, 2011, 08:48:39 PM »
sis hairt mini - kung nasa facebook lang tayo, iki-click ko ang LIKE sa sinabi mo! :)

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #51 on: April 25, 2011, 11:39:55 PM »
sis newbeymum - di ka rin excited e no?!!! hehe...di bale next time matutuloy na yan...go lang ng go!!! LOL! :)

Yes i was really excited when i found out that i was pregnant after two years of waiting! You just dont know the feeling of after waiting too long and then getting pregnant who would not be excited?

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #52 on: April 26, 2011, 11:18:24 AM »
sis newbeymum - oo nga eh...malamang kung isa sa tin dito ma-preggy e naka-announce din agad sa facebook, hehe...good luck sa ting lahat...sana swertehin na tayo this year! don't worry sis, makakabuo kayo ulit nyan! :)

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #53 on: May 19, 2011, 11:28:39 PM »
I got a dog.  :D
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #54 on: May 25, 2011, 10:45:42 AM »
^ cool move sis ;D

i wanted to read this thread because i'm currently pregnant. i'm happy about my pregnancy naman but to be honest, hindi nakaplano ito. so when i told my close friend who's been TTC for 4 years and another friend who's been TTC for 1 year, parang I wanted to be careful also. ayoko kasi na maisip nila na negative yung news ko. syempre i don't want any bad vibes towards me din.

i just want to say that prayers work miracles, i firmly believe that. sana makuha nyo din mga sis ang mga pinagdadasal nyo. nakatulong din sa akin itong thread to be more considerate about my words and to be more conscious to not hurt anyone. thanks.
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #55 on: May 25, 2011, 05:14:53 PM »
hi sisses, pasali naman kasi super nakakarelate ako sa topic na to.  3 yrs na kaming ttc ni hubby, i got pregnant naman kaso yung 1st is chemical pregnancy, 2nd is miscarriage at week6 and yung ngayon na naka sched na d and c ko is blighted ovum daw as per ob's opinion.

Im the eldest sa family, nauna pa kong ikasal sa mga sisters and brothers ko including yung bunso namin lahat sila may anak na.  Ang hirap talaga pag ttc, lahat ng tanong ng mga friends and relatives sasagutin mo dumating na nga ako sa point na di ko na sinasagot ang tanong nila nagkikibit balikat na lang ako sabay tawa.  Nakakasawa kaya na lagi kang nageexplain bukod sa pressure ang sakit din sa kalooban.  Ngayon malalaman na naman ng family at neighbors na iraraspa ako tyak ang dami nanaman interview,  sabi ko sa husband ko ayaw ko muna lumabas ng bahay kasi di pa ako ready sumagot sa mga tanong nila. 

Everytime na naiisip ko yung situation namin naaawa ako sa sarili at husband ko.  Pero iniisip ko na lang din na wala talaga tayong ibang makakapitan kundi si god lang so prayers talaga ag sagot sa mga kalungkutan natin.  Goodluck sa ating lahat na ttc.  Baby dust to all  :)
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #56 on: May 31, 2011, 09:09:22 AM »
sobra akong nakakarelate.. kami ni hubby 4 years ttc two times na din ako na operahan. :'( tagal na din nag papawork up... lunod na din sa mga gamot
sa lahat ng mag pipinsan ako na lang walang baby at ngayon buntis na ulit mga cousin ko hayyssst
 friend ko buntis na din 2nd baby na niya,tama mga sis lagi nilang sinasabi ANG HINA NIYO NAMAN HINDI KAYO MAKABUO. ouch sa isip ko sino ba sila para sabihin yun ni hindi nga nila alam kung ganu kahirap ang mga pinag dadadaanan namin ng hubby ko.. hindi ko alam ang feeling kung maiinggit ba ako o masasaktan. minsan hindi ko maiwasan itanung sa sarili ko bakit yung iba hindi nahihirapan makabuo bakit ako kahit ano ata gawin ko wala pa din.. ang hirap kasi hindi mo alam kung sino makakaintindi sayo at yung iba na nakapaligid sayo siya pa yung ang hilig mag tanung bakit wala pa kayong anak.. BABY DUST

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #57 on: May 31, 2011, 11:35:05 AM »
*hugs* to all my ttc sisters. going 9 yrs na kami. pero di pa rin ako sanay. madalas pa rin ako mapikon. pero silent pikon lang, di pa naman ako nang-away. but once i got mean din what i did was hit her with what she doesnt have. feeling ko kasi inggit sa kin isang officemate ko ewan ko ba kung bakit. she never fails to bring the topic about her kids whenever we talk (kahit super layo na ng pinag uusapan, pupunta at pupunta pa rin sa mga anak nya). lagi pang ang ending nya "ang sarap talaga ng may baby no?" grrrrr

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #58 on: May 31, 2011, 11:55:37 AM »
i got teary eyed. I've been through miscarriages din. Twice m/c. After mong mapagod, iiyak ka na lang bigla, pero ang bigat sa dibdib. Out of nowhere magb-browse ka ng fb, yung mga kaedad ko, nagsisipagdamihan na ang anak, larawan ng isang happy family, bigla na lang ako naiiyak. Like now, depression siguro. Minsan kahit gusto mo magpagamot ititigil mo na lang kasi wala naman nangyayari. nakakatawa lang. parang paulit ulit wala naman nangyayari. Anyway, I've been seeing an infertility dr now. Hope she's an answred prayer. hubby is in UAE, dito lang muna ako magpapahealthy :)
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #59 on: June 01, 2011, 09:22:06 AM »
Just want to share with you girls an inspirational poem that I've recently chanced upon another TTC blog. Let's keep our spirits up girls =)

http://oplanbaby.blogspot.com/2011/05/i-will-be-better.html
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