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Author Topic: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?  (Read 37088 times)

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #180 on: December 04, 2012, 03:10:02 PM »
Hi sisters, I just want to vent out also. I have this officemate who told me that they are gonna try for a second child this Dec, then mag practice daw sila this Nov cycle niya. Guess what she just found out yesterday that she is expecting, grabe! on their so called "practice" they conceived one try lang. Nakakainis lang kasi she keeps on telling me days before na possible na preggy siya and she exercised baka daw bad for the baby. It's so insensitive of her cause she knows what I'm going through. I cried to my husband telling him that I try so hard and these other people parang wala lang. Sabi niya maybe thats the problem I'm trying too hard. Sometimes I don't know what to do anymore, if I stop trying hard feeling ko wala lalo ako mapapala. Thanks for reading my long post. Baby dust to all of us!
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #181 on: December 04, 2012, 03:13:28 PM »
Pa vent out lang mga sis, kanina kinalabit ako ng mother in law ko at tsinismis na yung wife ng cousin ni hubby eh preggy daw, last year she undergo DNC kasi she got pregnant tapos mahina heartbeat ng baby kaya na DNC sya after a year ito na nga preggy na sya ulit. 

I got this feeling nanaman na bakit kami mag 5yrs na hindi pa din magtuloy-tuloy ang pregnancy ko. super sad nanaman ako dami pumapasok sa utak ko, lagi akong ganito pag may nalalaman akong relatives or frend na preggy :(

sa kabila naman ng mind ko hindi dapat ganun ang feeling, i know naman kung ano ang dapat but for sure you know the feelings din mga sis.

i know lilipas din ito hindi lang maiwasan na mag isip

im happy naman for them kasi almost a year na din sila kasal

Buti na lang meron forum na ganito para makapag vent out nakakagaan ng loob.



Hi sis I feel exactly the same, honestly I don't feel happy for them at all, I don't feel anything. There's too much pain in my heart and I just wish it was us. Sana someday I will feel better and accept whatever God's reason is.
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #182 on: December 05, 2012, 01:00:12 PM »
Ako I avoid talaga conversation regarding this kasi naluluha ako. Then just last week, I learned na buntis na naman SIL ko, nakunan siya early this year pero buntis na siya ulit mag 2 mos na. Pigil luha ko kasi mag 1 year na di parin ako buntis. Ang nakakainis lang, one time dumating relatives ni hubby sa house then tinatanong ako bakit di pa ako nagbuntis eh 31 na ako. Hindi naman sila yung sound na nagsesermon, nagtatanong lang na parang nagtataka. May trabaho naman daw ako at si hubby eh baka mahirapan daw ako kasi may edad na ako. Tapos sumingit si MIL, yun nga daw sinasabi niya sa amin. Deadma lang ako saka pangiti ngiti patango tango. Eh super stressed kaya ako sa kanila. Hindi ba nila alam na since January pa alang trabaho hubby ko? And lagi na lang silang nasa bahay araw araw kahit gumagawa kami baby kumakatok sa kwarto namin nakakawalang gana. Kaya deadma lang di ako umiimik. Mas okay yon kaysa sabihin ko kung ala sana kayo baka matagal na akong buntis!
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #183 on: December 17, 2012, 07:55:43 AM »
8years kaming magbf then going 7years na kaming married. We tried na mga fertility pills and iui (2x). Pero wala pa din. Nakakapagod. Nung start, iwas talaga ko sa friends na nagkakababy na, pero I'm very lucky kasi di nila ni-rurub sakin how lucky they are. Sa mga relatives naman, sa simula lang sila nangulit, now, di na din sila matanong. Yung mga relatives na lang na di ko lagi nakikita ang nagtatanong twing may reunion, but of course, I know na curious lang sila. Sa office naman, 3 kami na ganito, so, support system namin ang isat isa.

 So, how do I cope if may super insensitive? I told them, mamya, gagawa kami, make sure you have your ears covered because its going to be wild. Ayun, nagbublush sila. Mga pakialamera kasi.

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #184 on: December 17, 2012, 01:16:40 PM »
Meron din ako kasama dito sa office na same case ko. Actually siya nag encourage saken na magpaconsult sa OB before. Iniiwasan ko magdress kasi lagi ako inaask if 'meron na' tapos di ko agad ma-gets kung ano iniisip ko lagi sweldo ang tinutukoy nila tapos biglang titingin sa tiyan ko tapos parang mangingilid na luha ko pag sabi ko na wala pa. Family ko naman di nag aask kasi they know naman na super stressed and pagod ako since kinasal ako. I really hope na maafford na namin kumuha ng house near sa office next year.
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #185 on: January 04, 2013, 09:55:58 AM »
 :'( mga kapit bahay ko buntis na ulit,,, kung mag malaki ummmpppfffff... dedma lang lagi ko sinasabi sakanila wow ang galing nyo naman,,,
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #186 on: January 05, 2013, 06:29:45 AM »
iiyak sandali then maya maya ok na ulit...ganon talaga buhay  :-[

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #187 on: January 05, 2013, 10:47:01 AM »



               Yung mga tao sa paligid ko ngayon..di na nagtatanong..simula nung sinabi ko  na me mga cysts ako..
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #188 on: January 06, 2013, 01:04:17 PM »
masakit ang ganito, almost 2 yrs married na kami ni husband and childless pa rin, masakit na mga kaibigan mo nagkakanak na, yung iba single mom pa, samantalang kami ni husband me pangbuhay sa anak pero hindi mabigyan ng anak. pero i am still hoping kasi me pinsan ako 2 yrs dn silang married saka nagkaanak, since sa march 2013 pa kami magtu-two years, hopia pa rin ako.

nagpawork up na kami and medyo si husband ang me problema, pero sabi namin hindi kami naniniwala n may problema ang sinuman sa amin dahil alam namin ibebless pa rin kami ni lord.
nakakaiyak lang na halos lahat na ata ng asa paligid mo nabubuntis at nagaanak na, lagi yun hinihingi ko sa iba pag kakamustahin kami, pag-pray na lang dn kami kasi sa loob naming magasawa wala kaming perang pang-fund ng ivf, gusto ko mainggit pero ayoko makasanayang magkaron ng inggit sa kapwa, kahit documentaries puro buntis at pagaanak makikita mo, pati commercial. naiiyak ako pag nakikita ko po yun. nasasaktan ako, wala naman ako magawa kundi tumitig na lang sa tv at manalangin sana ganyan din ako someday.

ang masakit nito the past few days, nagising akong nahihilo though hindi ko ito nararanasan, as in ikot paningin ko, tapos prang constantly every few minutes me hangin akong nararamdaman sa utak ko which never happened before and sa gitna ng cycle days ko bigla bigla nung morning habang nagwawalis ako, may tumulong dugo na hindi naman na tumuloy, akala ko maagang mens kasi 20days ng cycle ko pa lang, and for 2 weeks napaisip nako baket ganito hndi ko nararanasan to sa nakaraang cycle ko, lagi ko na iniisip dinarasal at mnsan nakita ko sa panaginip na BFP ang resulta ng PT ko pero BFP ang naisigaw ko sa panaginip. nagisign ako amsaya nako pero kahapon lang dumating si AF so i was so devastated.
sa totoo lang hindi ko na alam gagawin ko tuwing may magtatanong. at sa mga kaibgan kong may baby at buntis tingin ko ang yabang nila, pero marerealize ko hindi sila mayabang, siguro, medyo apektado lang ako bakit hindi ako katulad nila. sa ngayon waiting pa rin ako and sana sa mga susunod na months darating na ang para sa amin.. sa ating lahat :-)
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #189 on: January 08, 2013, 11:00:22 AM »
Hindi maiiwasang mainggit at umiyak, pero gawin mo lang silang inspiration.  ;)

Here's my story...
Kaka-graduate ko lang nang mabuntis ako ni BF, sadly hindi kami nagkatuluyan. Lagi ako nagtatanong, "bakit ako pa? bakit kailangang maging single mother ako?"

Ngayon, married na ako. Si hubby na ang "father" ng daughter ko. Sadly, sobrang hirap kami magka-baby. Lahat ng natural method ginawa namin, pati yung sabi na positions, lalagyan ng unan yung likod, minsan ilang minutes din hawak niya ang paa ko pataas. Hindi ko naman siya masabihan na pumunta sa specialist para magpatingin, parang sampal naman sa pagkalalaki niya. 5 years na TTC, nawalan na kami ng pag-asa. Nag-usap kami, tanggap na raw niya kung hindi kami magkakaanak. Ibuhos na lang daw namin lahat ng love at attention sa daughter ko.

Nagkaroon ako ng bagong workmate at noong nalaman ko na buntis siya, nagbiro pa ako... "Palagi akong didikit sa iyo para mahawa naman ako". Nakikinig pala ang boss namin, TTC rin sila ng gf niya, at nakieksena sa amin.."Kung nakakahawa iyan, e di isasama ko dito si J____" sabay tawa.

Pumasyal si hubby sa kanila at nakipagkita sa mga friends niya. Noong niyaya siya uminom, tumanggi pa daw siya kasi yung iniinom nila e galing abroad na rhum na may nakababad ng cobra at scorpion. Sinabihan daw siya na aphrodisiac yun kaya napa-shot daw siya ng isa.

Isang araw paggising ko, sobrang sakit ng breasts ko, hindi ko naman inintindi kasi isa yun sa sign kapag malapit na ang period ko. Nagsusuka na rin ako kaya nanghingi pa ako ng gamot sa project nurse namin. Kinabukasan, ganun pa rin, parang ang sama ng tiyan ko kaya nagpabili ulit ako ng gamot. Noong iinumin ko na sana ulit yung gamot, saka ko naisip na 1 week na ako delayed. Hindi kaagad kami bumili ng PT kasi sabi niya baka pagod lang ako. 3 weeks delayed na ako nung bumili kami ng kit. Few seconds, 2 lines...POSITIVE!

Maraming nagtanong sa akin kung ano at saan mabibili ang ininom na "potion" ni hubby...  ;D

Pagpasok ko sa work, mega-chismisan kami, pati yung boss ko tuwang-tuwa. Ayon, after 1 month nakita at nakilala ko si J___, gf ni Sir...  ;D

January 2012 - nanganak si workmate, baby boy
April 2012 - i gave birth to a healthy and lovely baby boy
December 2012 - nanganak si J____, gf ni Sir, baby boy

Amazing di ba!  ;)

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #190 on: January 16, 2013, 03:55:07 PM »
everytime i hear someone complaining about the hardships of pregnancy and giving birth, parang gusto kong sabihan ng "you have no idea what you're talking about"!

hay! i'm losing hope na, 5 1/2 years of marriage, still wala pa rin, i'm losing hope na, help me please!

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #191 on: January 16, 2013, 08:20:29 PM »
Hi mga sis,
Same tayo mga sis ako i dont give a dang na kahit anong stories pa ng iba kung buntis na, manganganak, naglilihi..di ko na pinapansin. Do not go to baby showers nila, block off baby posts in fb,  para di ko na maisip ang baby na i lost thru miscarriage.. Hay..Ayoko kasi maging plastic na im happy for them. I just want to be quiet and leave me be...
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #192 on: February 11, 2013, 04:05:57 PM »
so glad found this thread, 3 years married pero wala pa ding baby.  got pregnant 3 years ago pero nawalan ng heartbeat si baby, sayang honeymoon baby pa naman :( ngayon consult an OB and found out pcos ako.  habang nagbabasa ako ng mga posts dito sa thread na ito iyak ako ng iyak, napipifeel ko hurt and frustrations na pinagdadaanan nating lahat na ttc.  napapagod na rin ako sa mga comment at tanong ng mga tao sa paligid ko, ayoko na tuloy makipag usap minsan, napapansin lang gain weight ko hmp! di nila alam may pinagdadaanan ka  >:( kung maka comment wagas.   so everytime na ganon, i smile na lang and simply say "hindi pa siguro time, hayaan mo pag meron i aannounce ko ng bongga" or "hayaan mo pag naumpisahan ko mabuntis sunod sunurin ko na" I will not deny na naiinggit ako minsan pag may friends ako nababalitaang preggy lalo sa office katabi ko parehong new parent kaka irita kung magkwentuhan parang walang trabaho pero I know it's not an healthy attitude.   I asked hubby as early as now if ok lang ba sa kanya kung hindi kame mabibigyan ng baby, sagot nya malungkot daw yun pero we need both to accept whatever God's will for us, madame naman daw kame pwede pang gawen.  And that made me feel already secure, no pressure kung baga for both of us.  Pero syempre journey begins, kailangan ko ng treatments.  Hindi ako mawawalan ng pag asa.  Prayer ko lang na bigyan kame ng strength na mag asawa through the journey pasasaan ba at makakaisa din kame, mauna na lahat ng mauuna hahaha ayos lang at least kame makakapaghanda pa!

virtual hugs mga sis and more baby blessings to all of us!  keep on posting for updates and let's pray for each other!  AJA!

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #193 on: February 11, 2013, 08:19:27 PM »
Same here mga sis. Kada may family gathering, lalo na sa side nila hubby eh ito ang tanong: "Ano, may laman na ba?" sabay pag sinagot mo ng "wala pa po", sasabihin kay hubby: "mahina!"

Kung alam lang nila.. kung pwede nga lang pigilan ang paglabas ni AF, ginawa ko na. Si MIL, last month tinanong ako kung bakit ang aga kong naligo. sabi ko "meron po kasi ako", sabay sagot ng "akala ko ba hindi ka na magkakaron?". duh! ewan ko sa matandang to! nakakadagdag lang ng stress!

Dito pa kila hubby, sunod sunod yung mga nanganganak. Ngayon nga may kapapanganak lang na pinsan nya. Tapos sa mga susunod na bwan, meron ulit mga naka line up. Deadma nalang, wala rin naman magagawa eh. Dinadaan nalang talaga namin sa prayers.. maraming maraming prayers.
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #194 on: March 03, 2013, 06:12:06 PM »
sa barkadahan ni bf, sya na lang ang walang anak.. kaya lagi sya ang nasa napagttripan.. sa barkadahan ko, karamihan may anak na pero meron pa ring wala kaya minsan lang ako natatanong. btw, 28 na ko at si bf naman ay 32 na. choice naman na wag muna.. we practice natural method.. gusto kasi namin maging stable muna kami.. magkaron ng sariling bahay. madalas kami asarin/lokohin na magpatingin na kami at baka may baog sa aming dalawa.. dinedeadma na lang namin sila kasi alam naman namin na nag-iingat kami.. minsan nga natanong ko si bf paano kung isa sa amin ay baog nga.. nagulat ako sa sinagot nya, "wag kang matakot kasi kung ibibigay ni Lord yon ibibigay nya. sa ngayon hindi pa kasi natin hinhiling sa kanya na magkaroon tayo ng anak."
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #195 on: March 03, 2013, 10:41:18 PM »
sometimes nakakapagod na um-attend sa mga gatherings esp sa side ni husband...  Yung mga cousins kasi nia, considering mas nauna pa kami nag asawa sa kanila may mga anak na...   :(  Nakakaasar lang pag minsan pag tinatanong ka ng mga insensitive na kamag anak ng "O, kelan ka mabubuntis?" 
 

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #196 on: March 07, 2013, 01:15:38 PM »
Bihira na akong mag FB.. :P
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #197 on: March 07, 2013, 02:02:32 PM »
ako mas nappressure ako sa side ni hubby. especially kay MIL. sa cousins niya kasi, isa kapapanganak palang last january, tapos dalawa preggy na. so syempre pag may mga occasions sila hindi maiwasan magtanong kung meron na. tapos sinasabihan si hubby na mahina. nakakainis pa pati ibang cousins niya ang hilig makialam sa amin. nag tanong yung isang cousin niya na babae sa akin kung meron na ba so i said wala pa. sabay sabi kay MIL ko bakit hindi pa daw ako ipacheck up kasi 6mos. na daw hindi parin nabubuntis. masyado lang nakikialam. pero iniignore ko nalang pag ganon. now kasi mas iniisip ko nalang ibibigay din samin ni God yun in his perfect time. and i know pag dating ng time na yun, mas maaappreciate namin yung blessing niya. i'm trying to learn the art of deadma nalang. ayoko magpadala sa mga insensitive people.

just yesterday pala, after our check up, MIL talked to me. issue kasi samin yung religion. (hubby's family is a Buddhist while me Catholic, and i have no plans to convert to their religion) binigyan ako ng mom ko ng 2 poon when i got married to be displayed sa room namin, nung nakita ni MIL pinaalis niya. kesyo ganito ganyan. i kept them inside my cabinet nalang. then kagabi sabi sakin ni MIL kaya siguro hindi pa raw ako nabubuntis kasi nagalit daw sakin yung mga poon, dahil tinago ko daw. kasi hindi daw pwede ganunin yun. isip ko naman, why blame naman yung mga poon, pinababalik niya tuloy sakin yung poon sa mom ko. clearly naman, as per our OB, hirap talagang makabuo dahil sa motility and morphology ni hubby. medyo napikon lang ako kasi minsan wala sa lugar mga sinasabi mom ni hubby. but i just let it passed. inisip ko nalang gustong gusto narin kasi niya magka apo kaya kung ano ano nalang nasasabi.  :P
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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #198 on: March 07, 2013, 03:41:16 PM »
Bihira na akong mag FB.. :P

me too, I can't help but feel bad about my situation. gusto ko mang maging masaya sa mga friends ko na may babies and proud sa pagiging mom, di ko magawa. i'm not sure kung hanggang saan ko kakayanin ang ganito, buti nga may forum na ganito at least dito ko na i share ang mga sentiments ko kasi feeling ko walang nakakaintindi :'(

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Re: How do you cope when everyone is getting pregnant but you?
« Reply #199 on: March 08, 2013, 05:32:12 AM »
haha, ako rin! bihira na rin mag fb :P

 

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