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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #40 on: September 20, 2011, 06:36:13 AM »
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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #41 on: September 20, 2011, 11:27:17 AM »
When i was in college i had a bf. We broke up for a certain reason tapos after a while nagkabalikan din kami what I don't know is meron na pala siyang gf nung time na yun so there. Nag message sakin the girl na I was the other girl daw. So I asked my bf then ano ba talaga. I still pursue masakit and super hirap being in that situation. Don't ever think of being one.


Sometimes, people are in this situation kasi they really love the person, even if they are hurting. We just need to be strong..
« Last Edit: October 18, 2011, 01:50:00 PM by PINKISS »

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #42 on: October 12, 2011, 05:12:21 PM »
during my college days my bestfriend introduced me to this guy since she knew i was single that time. i've been deceived by his physical attributes and the fact that he's playing for san sebastian basketball team. we started going out. then my bestfriend told me "go he's a good catch", loka pa ko noon kaya naging kami kahit walang feelings, parang crush lang..until inamin sakin ni guy na pang3 ako, pangatlo mga sis. nainis ako kasi feeling ko naloko ako kaya nagbreak kami pero after a few days natatawa na lang ako...kasi at the first place parang nangloko rin naman ako sa kanya kasi di ko naman talaga sya love..so we're even.  :)

siguro kung may love ako nun for him baka mabaliw baliw na ko nun.  ;D

seriously, masamang tingnan ang pagiging 3rd party lalo na kung alam mo naman na ganun yung sitwasyon kasi you have the choice to move out as early as you can but then you didn't exert any effort to make things right.
dun sa mga nabibiktima naku mga sis iwan na lang natin sila, walang magandang magagawa satin yun, baka sumama lang ang tingin satin ng iba kahit na alam natin na tayo ang naloko.
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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #43 on: November 04, 2011, 03:07:36 PM »
:( mahirap to... spare tire... :(
pagkatapos nyo maging saya.. malungkot na naman.. EMPTY ka na naman.. di mo sya pwedeng tawagan pag kailangan mo.. :( hintay ka lang ng text nya.tawag nya.

di mo sya kasama sa pasko.. its either late or advance ang celebration nyo..
pag birthday nya.. ganun din.. late or advance..

basta walang occasion na sakto. laging late at advance..
pag asa mall. hayst.. naglalakad na magkalayo.. :(
sa sinehan lang kayo swet

basta hindi masaya.. :(

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #44 on: November 05, 2011, 12:51:34 PM »
@ minikeyklush

Me too.. Can i get a copy also of the book? :)

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #45 on: November 06, 2011, 05:38:40 PM »
Sana sa mga nagbabalak, at nasa ganyang relasyon... wag na kayo magpatagal pa kung hindi rin kayo sigurado kung kayo ang pipiliin ng mga ka affair ninyo. i mean if you feel mahal kayo, or if you feel hindi naman, make the relationship right nalang.
i have never been a third party and i swear i would never allow myself to be in that situation kasi i know how it feels to be the GF at lokohin ka. sobrang sakit.
kawawa din naman ang nalolokong GF, pati na rin si 3rd party kasi kung ginamit lang siya or talagang spare tire lang....

babae rin  kayo dapat meron tayong sisterhood that we don't do this to each other diba...
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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #46 on: January 29, 2012, 07:21:20 PM »
Wow. Found a thread that suits my current lovelife stich.
 :'(
There's this guy at the office... we always talk to each other, had fun conversations and he wants to go out with me. We seem compatible but the only thing that hinders me to go out with him is because he's married but is having marital problems. Hayyy...
Ang hirap umiwas and tell him na let's just be friends... Sana may makabigay ng advice... :(

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #47 on: January 31, 2012, 10:19:37 AM »
Wow. Found a thread that suits my current lovelife stich.
 :'(
There's this guy at the office... we always talk to each other, had fun conversations and he wants to go out with me. We seem compatible but the only thing that hinders me to go out with him is because he's married but is having marital problems. Hayyy...
Ang hirap umiwas and tell him na let's just be friends... Sana may makabigay ng advice... :(



@sis chichi143, i think you should start to put distance to him. The thing pa lang na he wants to go out with you is very alarming na. I have a friend na started with what you have right now nung guy na tinutukoy mo.. eventually nagkaaffair sila but at the end of the relationship pinili nung guy yung family nya and harapan syang idinumped. She was really depressed and wala naman syang magawa sa pangyayare coz sya din un nasa mali. So there if i where you sis, habang may chance lumayo na.. mahirap magrisk sa mga bagay na alamung hindi sigurado at walang patutunguhan in the end. Masyadong delikado yan sis esp kapag may nainvolved na any feelings or emotions. Besides baka sa pakikipaglapit mo sa kanya, lalong mawala yung chance na makita mo yung mr right mo. :) Kaya aja sis! Move on and wait mo nalan yung right person for you in HIS time :)
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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #48 on: February 01, 2012, 02:27:16 AM »
Caveat: just my point of view in taking this topic constructively.

Whether or not we are a victim of 3rd party or we are the 3rd party, the third party must be given credit on the end result of a relationship.  Think of it that a third party is performing a "public service."  Serbisyo publiko sort of thing because one way or another, nagsasacrifice siya for the greater good.  Either marealized natin na may dapat pala ayusin sa relationship and he/she is a sort of living reminder of that fact or the third party gives us the opportunity to know what our partners are really like.  So from that, we are given notice, ganito pala yung partner ko, bf/gf ko or asawa ko.  As a result, nabibigyan tayo options on how we'll play the cards being dealt to us.

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« Reply #49 on: February 01, 2012, 01:08:05 PM »
@sis chichi143, i think you should start to put distance to him. The thing pa lang na he wants to go out with you is very alarming na. I have a friend na started with what you have right now nung guy na tinutukoy mo.. eventually nagkaaffair sila but at the end of the relationship pinili nung guy yung family nya and harapan syang idinumped. She was really depressed and wala naman syang magawa sa pangyayare coz sya din un nasa mali. So there if i where you sis, habang may chance lumayo na.. mahirap magrisk sa mga bagay na alamung hindi sigurado at walang patutunguhan in the end. Masyadong delikado yan sis esp kapag may nainvolved na any feelings or emotions. Besides baka sa pakikipaglapit mo sa kanya, lalong mawala yung chance na makita mo yung mr right mo. :) Kaya aja sis! Move on and wait mo nalan yung right person for you in HIS time :)

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #50 on: February 03, 2012, 07:14:06 PM »
Ever since, ayoko talaga ng may mga third party kasi na experience ko na to sa family ko. My father has a kabit.
Ako naman galing sa relationship na nalaman ko na may third party pala. So I broke up with him few weeks back. Until now d pa nya inaamin.
But I'm proud sa mga girls na tinigil na or come up on their senses na hindi maganda maging 3rd party sa relationship. Hindi ko naman inaway si kabit  coz, Alam ko weak tayong mga girls, but I realized na mas weak ang mga guys sa temptations. Cheers!
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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #51 on: February 03, 2012, 07:46:06 PM »
pag pagiging 3rd party is a choice. hindi mo pwede sabihin na kasi nahulog lang loob mo, kasi nagkaka marital problems yung mag asawa, etc etc.

pwedeng pwede kang umiwas kahit ibigay pa niya ang buwan sayo.

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #52 on: February 09, 2012, 03:06:43 AM »
lahat naman kasi na 3rd party, sa simula pa lang alam nang "bawal" ang papasukin eh. aayaw-ayaw pa kunwari, kabig naman nang kabig.

dyan usually nag-uumpisa sa mga free lunch, free dinner, free snacks, free rides... hanggang sa free sex na. ayon, kabit na kalabasan mo.

kadalasan, jina-justify pa na kesyo friendly lang dates daw, official business daw. ahsauce! dyan nga nagsisimula yan.

tapos sabayan pa ng mga sad stories ni Boy Bolatik about his wife, kaya ayon, si Inday Garutay naman feeling nya ang laki ng tiwala ni Boy Bolatik sa kanya para i-share sa kanya ang mga marital problems. kilig na kilig sya kasi sya lang nakapagpapasaya kay Boy, kaya ayon, pati PURI at DANGAL isinuko na rin kasi gusto nya happy palagi si Boy Bolatik. ;D

paalala lang sa mga gusto magpalibre ng lunch o dinner sa mga married guys. bago kayo pumayag, kilalanin nyo muna ang mga wifeys nila ha? baka isa dyan sira-ul0.  ;D
baka matulad kayo sa kapibahay ko. dumidiskarte pa lang si Boy Bolatik sa kanya, ayon, binasag ang plato sa mukha nya ng isang sira-ul0ng asawa.

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #53 on: March 05, 2012, 03:17:13 PM »
i will always be against this. kase sa ganito kame nasira ng dadie ng anak ku. i'm not a violent person pero nung time na yun, sa sobrang galit ku dun sa girl, muntik na ku maging amazona. tlagang feeling ku magugulpi ku siya kahit mas malaki siya sa ken. :P
pero shempre i tried to talk sense to her. i even told her na kaya maayos yung approach ku sa kanya kase mukha naman siyang may pinag-aralang babae. pero since ndi umubra yung pagiging mabait ku, nakatikim din siya ng matitinding salita from me. mayabang siya, inasahan ku na yun kase nga my ex-hubby is siding on her. i fought to win him back, not for me, but for our babie's sake. kaso ayun nga. nalulong na siya dun sa babae. e ayoko naman magpakatanga. if the situation will affect our babie, mas magiging masama yung effect sa kanya nun kung pipilitin namen magsama kahit ndi naman kame nagkakasundo na. kaya i made my choice na rin. i gave him up.

JUST MY OPINION, walang lalakeng manlalandi kung walang babaeng magpapalandi. na kahit alam nilang may masisirang pamilya e pansariling kaligayahan pa rin ang iniisip. ang mas masama pa nito, pati yung mga bata naapektuhan. i know i may have my own flaws pero if he really loves us, he might want to consider first to fix things up, not to make it worse.
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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #54 on: March 06, 2012, 03:56:34 PM »
Guy here, mahirap to lalo na sa girl. Spare tire ka na tapos iiwan ka pa kapag di ka na nya need. Worst case kapag "napag-sawaan na"

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« Reply #55 on: March 08, 2012, 02:34:54 PM »
JUST MY OPINION, walang lalakeng manlalandi kung walang babaeng magpapalandi.

True. I salute you sister for not stooping down her level. Bahala na si Lord sa kanya, hindi masamang magmahal pero hindi naman tama kung naninira na ng pamilya.
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« Reply #56 on: March 08, 2012, 02:58:08 PM »
sana yung mga 3rd party at mga nagbabalak maging 3rd party, mahabag naman sila! sobrang selfish nila at nagagawa nilang maatim makasira ng relationship. love ba kamo? kung love nila yung isang tao, they would give way kung nasa relationship yung taong yun. hindi sila maninira. hindi sila mang-aakit. hindi sila manlalandi. kung landian kaya yung karelasyon nila, nasasaktan pa kaya yung mga yun?! kung sila kaya masira ang relationship, what would they feel?!

para sa'kin sila ang mga taong walang bait sa sarili. kung mahal nila sarili nila, hindi sila gagawa ng ikakasira nila. if i ever encounter one, baka masabunutan ko pa. kairita! >:(

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« Reply #57 on: March 09, 2012, 10:45:11 AM »
True. I salute you sister for not stooping down her level. Bahala na si Lord sa kanya, hindi masamang magmahal pero hindi naman tama kung naninira na ng pamilya.
you said it right sis! thanks ha!

sobrang tibay ng loob, patience and faith kay Lord ang kelangan para mapigil mu yung sarili mu makapanakit ng tao dahil sa kasalanan nya sayo at para na rin makamove on ka sa ganitong situation. at shempre, iniisip ku rin yung anak ku kaya yung actions ku e hindi padalos2. takot din aku sa karma e. kase naniniwala aku na kahit may kasalanan ang tao sayo, if you place justice in your own hands, makakarma ka pa rin. kaya tlagang ipinaubaya ku na sila kay Lord. hindi pa ku feeling guilty.

saka naman, para sa mga nagbabalak at nasa ganitong situation, gamitin ang utak wag ang puso. at respeto sa kapwa na lang. dame2 lalake sa mundo, maraming single jan bket naman sa attached pa kayo pumapatol? grabe! ano?! desperada na?! wala ng choice?! hindi naman siguro d ba? ang makilala ka lang bilang third party e nkakadegrade na ng pagkatao e. and remember, ALL GOOD THINGS (kahit in reality hindi naman to kasama sa "good things") COME TO AN END. kaya kung masayang-masaya kayo naun, darating ang time na you will need to face the consequence of your actions. anjan lang yung karma. madalas malupet yan maningil. JMO. :)
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« Reply #58 on: March 09, 2012, 10:51:47 AM »
Wow. Found a thread that suits my current lovelife stich.
 :'(
There's this guy at the office... we always talk to each other, had fun conversations and he wants to go out with me. We seem compatible but the only thing that hinders me to go out with him is because he's married but is having marital problems. Hayyy...
Ang hirap umiwas and tell him na let's just be friends... Sana may makabigay ng advice... :(
you know the RIGHT thing to do sis. yun pa lang idea na he's married but having marital problems is a very good reason para iwasan mu siya. panu ku nasabi yun? pangitang-pangita naman na he's just using you. sorry for the word. ganyan ang ibang mga lalake. they're using that excuse para makakuha ng mapaglilibangan. shempre nga naman, hindi na magiging hesitant yung babae pag sinabi ni guy na he's having problems with his marriage. meaning, any minute may possibility na maghiwalay na sila. pero no. although minsan, totoo to. may problema nga sila pero tama ba yun na imbes na they will try to fix things up, e manggugulo pa sila ng buhay ng ibang babae? yung characteristic nya pa lang na yun e nakakaturn-off na d ba? e panu kung mahina si babae? baka magtuloi2 na siya sa pagiging kabit. bottomline here, delikado tlaga yung ganitong situation. saka think of it this way na lang: if he's married and nagawa nyang lokohin yung asawa nya by having a third party, what makes you an exception para d ka rin nya lokohin? what i mean is, once a cheater, always a cheater. wala akung pinatutungkulan ha. eto kase ang naranasan ku. twice aku niloko ng ex-hubby ku, nung time na nagkakaproblema kame. he tried to seek happiness sa ibang babae. gang sa ipagpalit nya kame dun ng anak ku. then wala pang 1 week, bumalik siya sa men at iniwan nya yung third party. then after a year, ayun. nagloko ulet. this time ndi ku na pinalagpas yung kalokohan nya and me and my daughter moved on without him.

really, if you're the very emotional type, you'll just suffer emotional torture pag pumayag kang maging third party. kase hindi lahat ng oras nya na sayo and hindi rin nya maibibigay ang lahat ng rights mu as a gf kase nga he's married. kahit pa may marital problems siya, that doesn't change the fact na may responsibilidad na siya na dapat gampanan. at nakikihati ka lang, unless he will really leave his family for you which is i think very rare cases lang yung ganun. JMO. :)
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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #59 on: March 09, 2012, 01:06:28 PM »
^I can feel some REBOUND issues here.

As early as now, get out sis. Do you think your worth is just for a rebound?
Wag mong isipin you can save him from 'marital problems' he's having.

He's married. Period. Kahit hiwalay sila totally, he is still married.Period.
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