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Ninar612

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Hmm... Buti na lang i never experienced this although before, when i was still single and havent met my hubby yet, meron temptations pero i believe in the golden rule: do unto others what you want others do unto you... Ayaw ko makarma... hehe! Naku, ayaw ko nga na mangyari sakin yung nafi-feel ng number 1 dahil sa may 3rd party...  ;)
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hi mga ate! ako third party ako ngayon with my ex-gf...nakipag-break ako sa kanya 2 yrs ago kasi busy ako sa school, sya kasi yung type ng babae na sobrang kailangan ng time...after 3 mos naming mag-break nagkaron sya ng bf hangang ngayon sila,ok ang relationship nila talagang mahal na mahal ng guy yung ex ko..mahal ko sya, hindi ako nag-balak na pumasok sa ibang relationship..kaya bago mahuli ang lahat sinusubukan kong kunin sya ulit...last April nag-start kaming lumabas ulit...4 times a week kami kung lumabas...madaming beses na din na may nangyari samin...nasasaktan ako pag kasama nya bf nya..pero wala pinasok ko to kaya dapat panindigan ko...wala na kong paki-alam kung ako pa ang masaktan in the end,basta ginawa ko lahat bago mahuli ang lahat...pero tama sya maaga pa para mag-decide sya kung sino pipiliin nya...

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^ hijo basahin mo ulit yung pinost mo. Para ka naman ewan. Maraming babae sa mundo, and nagaaksaya ka ng panahon at effort, nagiinvest ka emotionally sa babaeng indecisive at needy. Maaga pa para magdecide sya? ano yan, kapag di available yung isa, dito sya sa isa. And may nangyari sa inyo? At syempre, may nangyayari din sa kanila ng BF nya. Share share? Magkasakit ka pa nyan.

Anyway, di ko alam panu mo natanggap ang sinabi nyang maaga pa magdecide kung sino pipiliin nya. Pero it seems like masayang masaya si babae dito, nakukuha nya lahat.

Umayos ka. Tigilan mo na yan wala ka mapapala sa taong yan.

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^^i agree 101% with aiah's post.

hinde ka mahal nung girl kasi kung mahal ka nya, ikaw ang pipiliin nya agad2x. take this advice from a woman's point of view hehe.

and im sure, kung ganyan ka kalalim magmahal, may darating na girl na magmamahal sayo at tutumbasan yung love na binibigay mo.

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Sometimes I feel I like to try to be a 3rd party, just to have a temporary man to cuddle me when I am lonely. I am the only one in my family left here in the Philippines, may friends come and go...

Oh girls, please don't hate me. I just thought about it, I haven't done that.

the_bassist

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thanks for sharing your opinions ate aiah and tsabadodo, sa totoo lang nahihirapan na din ako e...parehas lang kami nasasaktan...pero sa nararamdaman ko mas gusto nya talaga bf nya ngayon,kahit todo effort sya sakin...pinagtataka ko lang bakit masyado syang possessive sakin, masyado syang selosa na kung treat nya ko para nya kong bf...ewan! labo talaga! hindi ko na alam!

@femmea just don't fall in love that much...parang pinupunit yung dibdib mo pag nakikita mo sila...parang ang hirap kasi iwasan na dumating sa point na feeling mo kayo na...ewan ko kung ako lang yung ganon...

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i had my close encounters ganun naman yun you start off as friends, men naman talaga they'll pawn over you and see how far ka kakagat and you think it's all innocent kasi you start off as someone so secure of herself and 'whats another guy friend' right? wrong! --thats how far being naive takes you--next to that is stupidity if you press on.

 there's nothing wrong really with it until suddenly someone says "wag ka na sasama sa mga lalaking ikakasal na" thats what my dad said. i guess he very well knows da moves. but it's upto the girls naman talaga how far they want to take it and how much respect they have for themselves.  impossible na you can't control it unless you are way under the influence of any drug or inebriated--which really is no excuse...as i said stupidity na yun if you press on but if ever anyone does think of getting into one i'd say hiramin mo nalang pero wag mong aagawin.
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mr. the_bassist alam mo hinde worth yung ex mo para sa love mo. Dahil sabi nga ni sis tsabadodo kung mahal ka nya iiwan nya yung bf nya ngaun. Hinde ka mahal nun, ginagamit ka lang nya at ikaw naman nagpapagamit. Magisip ka mabuti.

Na-ccarried away ako  ;D

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mr. the_bassist alam mo hinde worth yung ex mo para sa love mo. Dahil sabi nga ni sis tsabadodo kung mahal ka nya iiwan nya yung bf nya ngaun. Hinde ka mahal nun, ginagamit ka lang nya at ikaw naman nagpapagamit. Magisip ka mabuti.

Na-ccarried away ako  ;D

hayy...siguro makikipaglaro muna ko ng konti pa...

charlie1020

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #29 on: August 07, 2011, 06:22:54 PM »
I met this guy, sister company kami. For 4yrs, all our conversations are purely business lagi kasi ako may transactions sa kanya hanggang sa lumipat na ako ng company and resigned. After a year nung lumipat ako ng office nagkita kami ulit, we enjoyed each others company sabay lunch, dinner pati pag uwi. Dun ko nalaman na matagal na daw nya akong crush nahiya lang sya manligaw, well attracted din naman ako sa kanya. Inamin nya din na he's married for 12 years and have 1daughter. Hiwalay na din sila 5years ago. Naging kami, after a month nalaman ko na nagkabalikan sila ng wife nya at hindi naman pala sila 5years ng hiwalay kundi 1month pa lang. Nagalit ako pero sabi nya hindi nya ako bibitawan kahit ano mangyari, dahil mahal ko sya pumayag ako kami pa rin:(

Isang araw bigla ako tinext ng wife nya, nabasa daw nya yung mga messages ko. Sabi nya magsama na kaming dalawa ng asawa nya at isama ko na rin ang 5kids nila. Nagulat ako kasi ang sabi nya sa kin isa lang anak nya ayun pala lima na. Napakatanga ko talaga pinatawad ko pa din sya, kasi nagawa lang daw nya magsinungaling dahil mahal nya ko.

Tuloy pa rin relasyon namin pero ngayon hirap na ako magtiwala sa kanya. Ang hirap maging 3rd party / kabit / other woman, nag aantay ka lang ng text/tawag nya. Mag isa ka lang sa lahat ng ocassions, hindi ka pwede magdemand ng oras :(

I'm planning to end the relationship.. and hopefully someday i will find the right person. someone i can call my own..

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #30 on: August 09, 2011, 09:27:10 PM »
sis charlie1020 have you thought about the repercussions of being a third party? Susme, anong klaseng lalake yan. Ubod ng sinungaling. Walang respeto sa babae. May nanay ba yan? Sorry pero is this something you would be proud of? Hindi ka ba natatakot na mumultuhin ka ng ginawa mo ngayon? Pag dumating yung right man for you, paano kung malaman nya yang ginawa mo? Ng future inlaws mo at ng magiging mga anak mo? Masasaktan silang lahat. Yung kahihiyan na ibibigay or binigay mo sa kanila hindi mo naiisip? Sometimes, it boilsdown to the question of the quality of upbringing ng isang tao. Ikaw, pinalaki ka ba ng ganyan ng magulang mo?


Kalimitan nating naririnig sa mga taong gumawa ng kabalbalan yung "sige kahit ako nalang ang sabihan nyo ng masasamang salita wag lang ang pamilya ko." Parang ganyan rin yan. Yung mga magnanakaw sa gobyerno tulad nila ligot, garcia. Yan lagi ang linya nila. Naawa ako sa pamilya (anak, apo) na apektado. Wala silang kasalanan and yet sila ang nagdudusa sa kahihiyan.

Ninar612

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #31 on: August 10, 2011, 08:53:32 AM »
^ naku sis krissys, i agree sa lahat ng sinasabi mo...

Sa mga third party dyan, If ayaw mo/nyo maapektuhan pamilya nyo umayos kayo ng kilos... Tsaka dapat hindi lang yung pamilya nyo iniisip nyo, dapat nga mas iniisip nyo yung sarili nyo kasi jan nagsimula yan... Paano nila rerespetuhin pamilya nyo, at paano kayo rerespetuhin ng pamilya nyo mismo kung kayo mismo hindi nyo nirerespeto sarili nyo... Ito na lang, hindi ba kayo nahihiya sa Diyos? Maninira kayo ng pamilya na dapat ay buo... Tapos mag expect kayo na hindi malalagay sa kapahamakan or kahihiyan ang pamilya ninyo kung kayo mismo ay maninira ng ibang pamilya? Ay, ano yun, sinuswerte kayo? Nakikihati na nga kayo, naninira pa, tas walang effect sa inyo? Ok ah...

Ayan ang POV ko sa mga 3rd party... Sorry kung nadala ako ng emosyon... Point of view ko lang ito... Pwedeng tama pwede din naman na mali... Good morning!!!
« Last Edit: August 14, 2011, 08:51:51 PM by Ninar612 »
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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #32 on: August 11, 2011, 01:03:42 AM »
Hi mga sis nagkaron ako ng experience sa ganito ang sitwasyon. Mga 5 years ago na ata. Hindi ko alam na may daughter pala siya wala na sila nun mother nun daughter niya pero try nun girl na fix yun relationship. He keeps insisting na ayaw na niya makipag ayos sa mother ng daughter nya at ako ang gusto niya. Ewan ko lang kung totoo yun ahh baka pa epek lang ng kumag. hahaha... Nag set pa siya ng way for me to meet his daughter pero decline ko offer niya. Kase may chance na for them to be a family and sa tingin ko naman he cares pa din sa mother ng daughter niya sayang naman kung papalampasin yun diba. Ayoko maging evil step mother sa mata ng daughter niya kaya nakipag hiwalay na lang ako.

charlie1020

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #33 on: August 12, 2011, 06:03:15 PM »
thanks for all the comments. nakipaghiwalay na po ako..

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #34 on: August 13, 2011, 08:29:16 AM »
hi sis charlie1020

good to hear that. i mean there is no good in breaking up with someone pero kung misery lang ang ibibigay sayo i think its wiser na mgletgo na lan. sis i know na it wont be easy for you but eventually magiging okay ka din. you deserve someone better. pray a lot lang sis, seek for Gods guidance, He'll surely enlighten you. *hugs sis :-(
"maybe getting over someone youre in love with isnt impossible. Unless, maybe you dont actually get over it. Maybe you just learn to live with it....." - Felicity

charlie1020

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #35 on: August 14, 2011, 01:00:54 AM »
thanks so much sis mini... hug you tight! crying while reading your message very touching.. thanks a lot!

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #36 on: August 14, 2011, 09:35:37 AM »
thanks so much sis mini... hug you tight! crying while reading your message very touching.. thanks a lot!

sis charlie1020

just wanna share this excerpt from the book "Confessions of an impatient bride"

-Life has its seasons and we need to learn to respect them.
One of the hardest things God has asked me to do is to
wait:
To wait for Him to speak.
To wait for His plan to unfold in my life.
To wait for a long overdue answer to prayer.

-If we believe that there are no if s in Gods world, then we
can rest assured that where we are right now and how we got
here is where God exactly wants us to be.

basta sis pray a lot lang talaga at tough times only God can hear our true misery. There's a reason for everything, and wala namang permanent sa mundo. So the pain that you're feeling right now will just pass. What you need to do is to move on and ituloy ang buhay. In God's time, He'll gonna give the true desires of your heart. Godbless sis! If you need someone to talk to, you can send me pm's anytime. Aja!  ;D
« Last Edit: August 14, 2011, 09:37:45 AM by minikeyklush »
"maybe getting over someone youre in love with isnt impossible. Unless, maybe you dont actually get over it. Maybe you just learn to live with it....." - Felicity

charlie1020

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #37 on: August 14, 2011, 02:15:18 PM »
thanks much sis mini.. maybe i have to buy that book sana meron pa

minikeyklush

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #38 on: August 14, 2011, 05:27:14 PM »
thanks much sis mini.. maybe i have to buy that book sana meron pa

@sis charlie1020

i have a pdf copy of this book if you want  ;D just pm your email address im gonna send it to you. Godbless sis! Basta stay positive lang :D
"maybe getting over someone youre in love with isnt impossible. Unless, maybe you dont actually get over it. Maybe you just learn to live with it....." - Felicity

charlie1020

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #39 on: August 15, 2011, 09:36:02 PM »
Thanks sis! got it yippeee!

 

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