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foxylady_89

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #140 on: November 01, 2012, 02:54:24 PM »
swerte talaga yung mga relationship na walang umaahas..at nagpapa ahas... walang perfect sa earth...



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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #141 on: July 31, 2013, 08:50:11 PM »
I'm just 21, and I haven't experienced this, but my opinion at the moment is the blame shouldn't be on the third party. It's always with the two-timing person. He cheated. He didn't address his problem with his relationship with the first person. There's already something wrong with their relationship to begin with.

Now as for the third party, it's up to you if it's worth it to get involved because no matter how hard you defend yourself, people will always think it's your fault too--sometimes, JUST your fault. Face the consequences, even if you feel it undeserved.

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #142 on: August 07, 2013, 03:50:32 PM »
Before nung college days ko esp nung di pa ako nagkakaboyfriend pinangarap kong maging 3rd party because of the thrill and excitement. But when I had my relationships ended because of 3rd party issues kinalimutan ko na yung pangarap na yun. Kasi once nagkaroon din ng issue sa family ko regarding dyan kaya totally tinanggal ko na sa isip ko ang pagiging 3rd party. Pero I was once a 3rd party in my previous relationship without knowing that I am a 3rd party. Sabi kasi ng gagong ex ko wala syang girlfriend yun pala nakailang girlfriends na sya tapos continuous pa rin sila ng girlfriend nya. Nalaman ko lang dahil sa pagiging pakialmera ko at syempre through fb na din. Ayun nung malaman ko super basag talaga ako kasi super love ko rin talaga kasi yung ex ko that time. Tapos if gaano na katagal relationship namen ganun na din pala katagal na buntis yung girlfriend nya.

Actually up to now, kahit wala na akong balita sa ex ko galit na galit pa din ako sa kanya at di ko sya mapatawad dahil dun. Sabi nga sa isang joke hindi lahat ng party masaya which is referring to a 3rd party. Well, talagang hindi sya masaya especially if di mo ginustong maging 3rd party pero naging 3rd party ka. Anyway, sabi nila di ko naman daw kasalanan kasi hindi ko naman alam.

But I guess, mahirap din ang maging 3rd party kasi may kahati ka sa lahat and kahit saang anggulo mo tingnan ikaw ang mali kasi ikaw ang sumisira ng relasyon e. Most of all, wala kang karapatang magreklamo kung may oras ba sayo o wala ang partner mo lalo kung pinili mo ang set up na ganyan. Pero bakit nga ba sila nagsesettle sa pagiging 3rd party kung [textspeak!] naman sila maging only one sa iba di ba?

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« Reply #143 on: August 07, 2013, 10:38:42 PM »
This just happened to me months ago and i'm still mending this broken heart...
Ayoko na sya sisihin sa pagsisinungaling nya na single sya o wala syang gf (or wife, may nakikita kasi akong kids ng girl sa fb)...
Iniisip ko na lang kasalanan ko din naman madali akong nagtiwala at naniwala agad sa mga sinabi nya...
Naging 3rd party ako ng hindi ko alam, galit na galit pa naman ako sa mga kumakabit, ako pala naging kabit :(
Never nya inamin, masyado na ko nanliit sa kakadeny nya, minsan nga, gusto ko na lang mag message sa fb ng girl at sya ang tanungin.
Hindi ko na lang tinuloy, para di na lang madagdagan heartbroken sa mundo (feelings pa talaga ng girl ang inisip ko)...
ano ba naman talaga ako... :(
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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #144 on: August 08, 2013, 08:28:41 AM »
This just happened to me months ago and i'm still mending this broken heart...
Ayoko na sya sisihin sa pagsisinungaling nya na single sya o wala syang gf (or wife, may nakikita kasi akong kids ng girl sa fb)...
Iniisip ko na lang kasalanan ko din naman madali akong nagtiwala at naniwala agad sa mga sinabi nya...
Naging 3rd party ako ng hindi ko alam, galit na galit pa naman ako sa mga kumakabit, ako pala naging kabit :(
Never nya inamin, masyado na ko nanliit sa kakadeny nya, minsan nga, gusto ko na lang mag message sa fb ng girl at sya ang tanungin.
Hindi ko na lang tinuloy, para di na lang madagdagan heartbroken sa mundo (feelings pa talaga ng girl ang inisip ko)...


I felt the same way for you sis! Kasi once I become a 3rd party without knowing that I am a 3rd party. Anyway, di naman naten kasalanan yun at di naten ginusto yun. Buti ka pa nga matino pagiisip at naisip mo kalagayan nung girl. Ako dati inisip ko sana ako na lang yung girl, ako na lang yung buntis para ako ang piliin. Ang stupid ko noh?
ano ba naman talaga ako... :(

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #145 on: August 11, 2013, 01:42:28 PM »
mga sis,  na-inspire ako sa mga nabasa ko dito.  lalo na yung 'YOU CAN STAY AWAY.  ITS JUST A MATTER OF HOW STRONG YOU ARE'.... and i consider myself a strong woman.

i have recently walked away from a relationship.  pareho kaming married.  nung una magkaibigan lang kami.  kaso kakatext at mga instances na magkasama ang mga families namin, ayun, nagkagustuhan kami.

i stopped because i realized i have too much self respect to allow myself to be a victim of anyone or of any relationship.  naisip ko, di ko iiwan ang pamilya ko for this person.  [textspeak!] kaya ako pumatol sa kanya is becoz of my need for variety.  but why will i set myself up to be hurt, tuliro, depressed? looking inwards,  why do i need to do this? 

sa ngayon nami-miss ko sya.  pero tulad ng sabi ninyo,  I WILL BE OK eventually. 

im thankful for coming across this page.  it gave me courage to continue to do what is right.

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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #146 on: September 15, 2013, 03:17:53 PM »
My friend ako na naging 3rd party as in married na yung guy then ako yung nakikinig sa lahat ng prob niya ang nakakainis lang min kase alam mo ng may asawa na why papatulan pa..

Sa love hindi parting PUSO.. gamitin din ang UTAK..
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Ang mahirp lang yung hindi sinabi agad sayo....

Bago ka talag pumasok sa isag relasyon kilalanin mong mabuti ang magiging partner mo...


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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #147 on: September 15, 2013, 04:53:04 PM »
i have a friend na 3rd party sya,payag sya kahit sa umpisa naman eh alam nyang may gf etong si guy.based abroad kasi kame LDR sila (nasa pinas yung gf) pero yung friend ko single and soon to be old maid chos! hahaha! anyways,nagbakasyon SILA sabay nung guy at friend ko at syempre ang kasama sa pinas ni guy eh si totoong gf for short etchepwera sya sa pinas tas nung bumalik na naman sila dito sa auh sila na naman.ga** nya noh nakakainis kahit anong sabe ko keber nya.
tingin ko sakanya desperada kasi nasa 33 na din sya eh,i mean wala na ba talaga syang makilalang iba na single? at ngayon parang papupuntahin ni guy yung gf nya dito tas ano sya ngayon "nganga"?
t*nga nya sa edad nyang yan kung humanap na lang sya ng lalakeng available edi hindi na nasayang panahon nya.siguro take din nya chances nya na sya pipiliin ni guy pero walang bakas na hihiwalayan nya si girl at eto nga eh pasusunurin pa dito.kung nakuha ba nya yung guy,kung sya ba ang pinili eh magiging masaya sya na inagaw nya lang sa iba?
mga gantong babae parang hindi nag iisip na akala mu hindi kapwa babae ang sinasaktan nila.tska naranasan na nyang mambabae yung ex nya so alam na alam nya pakiramdam ng isang babaeng naloko.tsss!
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Re: Being a 3rd party in a relationship..your reactions & POV's about this
« Reply #148 on: September 15, 2013, 07:20:40 PM »
^ hay minsan babae rin talaga may fault...

May kasabihan nga na kung ayaw mong gawin sayo huwag mong gawin sa iba.

Yung mga iba naman guy.. meron na hindi pa makuntento sa isa...hayyy that's life...


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« Reply #149 on: September 15, 2013, 08:41:33 PM »
^and sis tama din yung "walang manloloko,kung walang magpapaloko"  ;)
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« Reply #150 on: September 16, 2013, 08:16:20 AM »
I have an ex na i didn't know may gf na because we lasted 2 yrs and 9 months tapos nagbreak kame 2008 pa. 2 yrs ago, that was year 2011 eh inadd niya ako sa FB tapos nakita ko dun sa wall nung ex ko may nagpost na babae sabi "happy 8 yrs so nagtaka naman ako paano kayo naging 8 yrs kung 2 yrs and 9 months ang tinagal namen and then para akong nabuhusan ng tubig na malamig because i was the third party at may iba siyang gf di ko alam eh since the beginning up to the end eh akala ko ako lang talaga and what hurts kasi never ko nakitaan ng signs dahil everyday kame magkasama, kilala ako ng family at friends niya at ganon din sa side ko na engage pa nga kame tapos nakipagbreak siya saken kasi naghihinala siya na i' m cheating on him ang dami pag masasakit na sinabe tapos it was 2011 ko lang nalaman na siya pala una nangloko kung alam ko lang dapat ako pa yung mas nagalit di tulad nung 2008 na grabe ang natamo kong insulto yun pala siya nanloloko grrrrrrrrrrrr

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« Reply #151 on: September 16, 2013, 01:05:29 PM »
^wow! Minsan talaga, topak din ng mga lalaki...
Hindi nagsasabi ng totoo. Kung may gf na, na may asawa na, na kasal na pala! Or na may gf pa o na kasal pa pala.. Tapos pag nahuli mo, iddeny ng todo!
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« Reply #152 on: September 16, 2013, 01:11:51 PM »
^baka hiwalay sila nung naging kayo sis tas nagkabalikan lang ulit.may mga kilala akong ganyan eh naghiwalay ng 1 or 2yrs tas nung nagkabalikan ulit sinama na nila ibilang yung yrs na hiwalay sila.
kasi kung kilala ka naman ng fam & friends nya at everyday pa kayo magkasama imposibleng may iba sya pwera na lang kung nasa ibang bansa yung girl  ;)
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« Reply #153 on: September 16, 2013, 03:13:40 PM »
No sis i asked him if totoo ang mga nabasa ko sabi niya "Sorry, nagtwo time ako" kaya galit ako galit na di lang siya nanloko saken pati yung mga kaibigan, kapamilya niya na alam palang sila pero di nagsalita, si girl ay nasa batangas. Kame ni ex nasa manila.

Believe me yan din inisip ko pero di ko nakayanan kasi siya din umamin na saken at mas masakit yun kasi ilang yrs na kame hiwalay saka ko pa nalaman, to think na ikakasal na dapat kame, kaya pala yung reaction niya para magbreak kame is sobrang OA i think kasi di niya akalain na sobrang seryoso na talaga ng kinahinatnat namen since third party ako initially ang plan niya idispatsa ako as soon as magsawa siya pero di agad nangyari kasi kahit ilang beses kame nagbreak siya yung nakikipagbalikan not until 2008 siguro hinanapan na niya ako ng butas para siya na kumawala at baka mahuli siya ng real gf niya. Nakakairita lang bakit ka nagyaya ng kasal tapos after 2 wks punagbintangan mo kong nanloloko tapos hiniwalayan ako tapos siya pala yung may iba? Kaloka.

Tapos yung set of friends na lage namen kasama ay ang set of friends na nakita ko kasama nila nung babae sa pics. Ang tindi!!!!!

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« Reply #154 on: September 16, 2013, 03:21:45 PM »
^WOW! yun lang talaga ang nasabe ko haha! at buti na lang sis hindi kayo nagkatuluyan.kapalmuks eh!  >:(
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« Reply #155 on: September 16, 2013, 03:58:28 PM »
what!!??  :o :o tindi sa kakapalan ng mukha ah! ano ba yan! Thank you nalang talaga at buti nalang hindi kayo nagkatuluyan! Blessed ka pa din! :D
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« Reply #156 on: September 16, 2013, 10:45:22 PM »
naexperience ko na maging 3rd party nangyari to nasa abroad kami pareho nung guy. si guy may gf sa pinas. alam ko may gf sya pero d ko naiwasang mafall dahil sobrang sweet at maalaga sya nageeffort puntahan ako sa bahay,sa una masya pero tumatagal nasasaktan na ko kasi nakikita ko tumatawag yung babae pag magkasama kami d nya sinasagot. ayun ako na lumayo kasi alm ko kung san yun hahantong alam ko wala din akong laban kasi paguwi namin pinas si gf pa din pipiliin nya 6yrs na sila ni girl.. minsan biktima lang talaga ng maling pagkakataon at maling sitwasyon

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« Reply #157 on: September 17, 2013, 01:55:03 PM »
^buti ikaw sis may initiative na lumayo.
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« Reply #158 on: September 17, 2013, 02:08:41 PM »
^oo sis, kasi ayoko mkulong sa ganong sitwasyon sobrang hirap, ayoko din sirain yung relasyon nila kasi ang tagal na nila. nakafollow nga ko sa instagram nung gf nya ayun kita ko naman happy sila ngaton at walang kaalam alam si girl sa naging kalokohan ng bf nya

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« Reply #159 on: September 18, 2013, 06:49:21 AM »

Grabe naman ang mga lalaki na nanloko sa inyo. They deserve to burn in hell.

^sis, if you are the gf of this stupid guy, don't you think you would want to be told ng kalokohan ng lalaki? Alam ko it is a dilemma to tell or not to tell the gf. But nakakaawa naman gf nya, worse, baka pakasalan pa ng gf nya yung hudas na bf. Kawawa naman.

 

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