Author Topic: i don't want to be your kabit's copycat (Read 1046 times)

iheartb · « **on:** March 15, 2011, 10:24:56 am »

it's been almost a year when i discovered that my hubby is having an affair with his officemate. we got separated for 3 months. after i've given birth to our 3rd child, he begged me to take him back - and of course i did. we're ok now but still, there are things that i find really odd. he wants me to do this and that, to wear this and that, to be this and that. i realized that he's turning me into a copycat of his mistress! what should i do?

mistiqshannen · « **Reply #1 on:** March 15, 2011, 03:56:50 pm »

they say that inorder daw to NOT look our hubby to others e we become mistress also. we do what they find dun sa mga mistresses hehe.. its one way of spicing up the marriage..

another thing.. if you are not comfortable talaga tell him you are not. if ipipilit nya talaga yun bagal na di mo kaya well ibang usapan na siguro yun sis. Maybe try to compromise muna..

prettykhae · « **Reply #2 on:** March 16, 2011, 04:48:35 pm »

sis iheartb, i think you should tell straight to ur hubby na u are not his ex kabit! san na pala si kabit? kung ako a, ayokong gawin yung pinapagawa nya, kasi ikaw yan e. bakit nya pinapabago? parang sampal yan e... kausapin mo kaya... alam kong napipilitan ka lang gawin to please him, pero dya ba naplease ka na nya?

pinkberries · « **Reply #3 on:** March 17, 2011, 01:54:49 am »

@iheartb , sis kung kaya mong gawin, pwede mo naman gawin. parang simple lang naman ang mga hiling ng hubby mo. buti hindi ka pa niya pina request mag suot ng exotic or more adventurous lingerie at night, like "featherlike" lingerie, sexy leather lingerie with corset and the like. at para pantay, pasuotin mo rin siya ng neck tie. neck tie lang.

RuChe · « **Reply #4 on:** March 17, 2011, 08:29:10 am »

haha. natawa naman ako ke sis pinkberries. Ako din kala ko yun ang gusto pagawa sa yo ni hubby.

Pede mo naman siguro sabihin sa kanya kung ayaw mo nung iba nyang pinapagawa na di mo kaya. Like sa strong perfume. Kung di ka naman makahinga sa sobrang bango eh over naman sha kung ipipilit nya pa yun. Tapos mag request ka din ng gusto mo ipagawa sa kanya para fair.

*CuTiE* · « **Reply #5 on:** March 17, 2011, 11:35:47 am »

sis iheartb parang may song na swak sa situation mo sis... hindi ko lang maisip ngayon at may maingay na radyo nearby... hehe for me, tingnan mo na lang ang request ni hubby as way to enhance your personality. PERO, kung it is really against your will, dont do it. di ka ba nya kayang mahalin just the way you are?

sorry sis ha, medyo strong ata yung dating, pero kasi minsan kainis din mga ganyang lalake, as if naman sila...

na-carried away ako...

modified to add:

isn't he over yet with his mistress?

aquacharly · « **Reply #6 on:** March 17, 2011, 12:34:01 pm »

Have an open mind, try it.. you just might like it.
Whatever is reasonable to you, go.
If you think it demeans you.. then, don't
Hwag mo isipin na he is turning you into his ex-kabit's xerox copy. Think of it as added information or additional preferences he picked up in his journey through life.

Eto lang ha, the more unpredictable you are... the better hold you have on your hubby, IMO.
Try to give him the illusion of your being in the category of "bawal". Sabi ng lolo ko noon in the face of my lola's volcanic anger at catching him at something again.. kasi "masarap yung bawal"
LOL , go figure.