a little pain

[lulay23]

well..for a while..i think im already ok..not until a friend of mine mentioned to me na she saw the profile pix nun kabit ni ex hubby sa facebook...syempre at first sabe ko..hindi ko alam kase naka block sila sa akin..tas out of curiosity tinanong ko kung anong picture..sinend nya sa kin [textspeak!] profile pix..ayun..silang 2 (si kabit at ex hubby) ang profile pix ni kabit with all smiles pa...O-U-C-H!!!

i felt bad na feeling ko nabastos ako for the nth time..knowing na kasal pa rin naman kame..although its been a year since we parted ways at ipagpalit kame ng anak ko dun sa girl...kaya lang sana hindi sila ganun ka heartless at maging sensitive sila...knowing na may bata nainvolved..pinabayaan ko na nga ..so sana lang maging discreet..

tas [textspeak!] account ni ex hubby na gawa ni kabit..iba din profile pix..more on sunset setting tas silhoutte nilang 2...

naiinis ako sa sarili ko na may setbacks pa din..im trying to move on since its been a year..and wala naman akong napala sa buong ordeal kundi puro sakit at sama ng loob..

yun lang..i just want to vent out na nakakainis na naaapektuhan pa rin ako..knowing na he already gave up on us a year ago...kainis much!!

[chiqmom]

well i guess you have to prepare yourself for more incidents like this.  hehe

in my case, the kabit would always post their pictures sa FS nya with matching shoutout pa like she's so in love with my husband (kasal din kami sa church, not yet annulled). This was last year. at first, masakit but i learned to accept. ngayon, i saw a profile with his supposed new girlfriend, they're face were too close na kulang na lang maghalikan. was i hurt? a bit but its not as if it still matters to me now. i have accepted the fact na may sariling buhay na sya and our separation was i guess his ticket to do these stuffs.

sis, it will pass. its part of the "moving on" process.

[lulay23]

awwww...i know this too shall pass..may sakit pa rin pala...kinuwento ko sa mom in law ko..sabe ko wag na nya awayin or pagalitan kase..we cannot control them..the more na inaawat..the more na pinagsisigawan na gusto nila isat isa...

oh well..sa umpisa lang naman masakit..pero alam ko the next few days..ok na un....

yeah..part nga ng moving on un... =)

[chiqmom]

saka sis just remember matatapos din kabaliwan nila.  kapag wala ng nagagalit, wala na din ang thrill so they might get bored with each other. ito ngyari sa kabit and husband ko. sa separation nila, somehow nakabawi na din ako sa babae. she finally felt my pain.

[lulay23]

i know...feeling kase namin..the more na pinapakialaman sila..the more na pinagsisigawan nila na sila...parang you and me against the world..so the more na pinapansin at sinisita sila..ayun..lalong nagsisiksikan sila...

haayyy..oo naman..i know in God's time..this too shall pass..swerte ko na lang..mabait in laws ko..just to make it up siguro sa pagkakamali ng anak nila..peroganun talaga ang buhay..sabe nga nila..S H I T happens..pero life must go on! =)

[chiqmom]

^swerte mo nga. in my case, naputol din communication with my in laws.

[aquacharly]

Almost all wives suffer through a lot before calling it quits and leaving their marriage behind.
I salute you for  making that big step, for whatever reasons... I am sure you thought it out well and it took a lot of courage.  Still takes a lot of courage to this day, for sure.

Now, all beginnings require a lot of effort and pain -- as in all births require pain and effort.  So this new life of yours will likewise give you some more pain, and require more effort from you.   life really is unfair at times...  so just let go of your estranged hubby and that kapalmukz kabit.  Believe me, she is not as happy as she seems now.  There is always the threat of being replaced by another kabit, or of his going back to you.. (BUT please do not hold our breathe for that.  Leave in the past what does not work, ika nga.)   

Do not also be puzzled how he can be so kampalmukz, kasi it is the kabit who is taking the lead on that.  You know, it is in the nature of kabitz to really be all over the place.  Kasi they gotta prove to the world that they have legitimacy ... na sila ang mahal.  More than that, they have to quiet that little niggling voice they encounter before they sleep that what they are up to is indecent...   so that advertising distracts them for awhile that is why they are kapalmukz.

God is not blind.  Trust in Him.   You will see, after some time,  you will be grateful that your life is soo much better than what it was when you were in misery living with your husband.

[kaye27]

^super like what you had said sis aquacharly.. they are really like that, wants to be seen in different places with the guy kasi they felt that sila ang mahal.. to boost their ego even if alam nila deep inside na mang aagaw padin sila.

[chiqmom]

^^that was inspiring!

[lulay23]

I heart you sis aquacharly...you never fail to amaze me with all your advices..i agree..there is always a threat..ako..im happy where i am right now...actually..nun nakita ko yun profile pix nun araw na un..i texted all my friends and loved ones to send me a hug and kisses..without saying why i need it..basta sabe ko lang ..let me feel your presence..i need some hugs and kisses right at this moment..ayun..may mag nagtext ng why..meron din naman nag send ka agad ng mga hugs msgs..[textspeak!] mga saumagot ng why..sinagot ko lang din ng basta..and they comply naman..so after nun..i felt better..i realized na ang dame nagmamahal sa akin..encouraging words..from friends, relatives,family..so ayun..naisip ko..i have so much in my life...and it really felt good na pag kailangan mo [textspeak!] mga tao sa buhay mo to lift you up..andun sila...and im thankful for that!

=)

[jpsv72]

i admire your courage sis and I pray na sana you will find peace with or without someone beside you anyway you have your baby and will serve as your inspiration. God bless and hugs and kisses na rin from me add mo pang pagaan ng kalooban.