Author Topic: My boyfriend physically hurt me. (Read 3685 times)

shiftingsands · « **Reply #20 on:** March 05, 2011, 08:35:36 pm »

if you are justifying his bad behavior then what's the point of asking for advise. it's clear that your bf is at fault but you keep making excuses for him.

sana one day magising ka and sabihin mo sa sarili mo that enough is enough. and leave him for good.

jpsv72 · « **Reply #21 on:** March 06, 2011, 11:12:26 pm »

hi sis bergal
what happened na to you? are you still alive o baka naka ospital kana? $:-\$
what about your abusive bf? any update?

jpsv72 · « **Reply #22 on:** March 07, 2011, 03:23:05 pm »

nakakatakot naman kc boyfie nya

at nakakaawa naman si sis

ysa.belle · « **Reply #23 on:** March 07, 2011, 03:26:48 pm »

@TS, i hope you are okay sis...

moonie · « **Reply #24 on:** March 07, 2011, 04:05:15 pm »

Iniinsulto ka.
Minumura ka.
Binabale wala ka.
Sinasaktan ka.
At lahat ng ito, sabi kasalanan mo pa.

Sis, He DOES NOT RESPECT you.
He DOES NOT LOVE you.

Wala kang mapapala diyan kundi mas marami pang mura, insulto, pangmamaliit at pananakit. Kahit sabihin pa natin ikaw ang nag-uumpisa ng away, di dahilan yon para saktan ka. Dapat umiwas pa rin siya. I think you should see this as a sign na hindi kayo para sa isa't-isa --- unless plano mong maging boksingera na parating may sparring partner.

Ikaw ano ba ang nakikita mong future sa kanya?
I think it's time to find somebody who will love you and treat you right. Yang love mo siya, hindi niyan magagamot ang problema.

ysa.belle · « **Reply #25 on:** March 07, 2011, 04:19:27 pm »

^correct. and hindi lang love ang basehan para matagal ang isang relationship. dapat andun yung trust & respect.

kaye27 · « **Reply #26 on:** March 07, 2011, 05:35:15 pm »

i so agree with all of you sisses. BF palang yan ha!! pano pag asawa na, punching bag kana? not worth it.. pinapababa nya lang self esteem mo.

Love yourself

ana mimi · « **Reply #27 on:** March 07, 2011, 06:21:04 pm »

Ang mga ganyang lalaki pinapatay.. hayup yan ha.. kapag ako sinuntok ng bf ko, sasaksakin ko talaga sya. hinayupak na yan.. kapal ng mukha..

ewan ko ba kung bakit may mga babaeng natitiis yang mga ganyang lalaki.. isang cycle lang yan sa abusive partner at battered gf..

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1: Tension building phase

This phase occurs prior to an overtly abusive act, and is characterized by poor communication, passive aggression, rising interpersonal tension, and fear of causing outbursts in one's partner. During this stage the victims may attempt to modify his or her behavior to avoid triggering their partner's outburst.
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2: Acting-out phase

Characterized by outbursts of violent, abusive incidents. During this stage the batterer attempts to dominate his/her partner (victim), with the use of domestic violence.
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3: Reconciliation/Honeymoon phase

Characterized by affection, apology, or, alternately, ignoring the incident. This phase marks an apparent end of violence, with assurances that it will never happen again, or that the abuser will do his or her best to change. During this stage the abuser feels overwhelming feelings of remorse and sadness, or at least pretends to. Some abusers walk away from the situation with little comment, but most will eventually shower their victims with love and affection. The abuser may use self-harm or threats of suicide to gain sympathy and/or prevent the victim from leaving the relationship. Abusers are frequently so convincing, and victims so eager for the relationship to improve, that victims who are often worn down and confused by longstanding abuse, stay in the relationship.[1][4]

Although it is easy to see the outbursts of the Acting-out Phase as abuse, even the more pleasant behaviours of the Honeymoon Phase serve to perpetuate the abuse.
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4: Calm phase

During this phase (which is often considered an element of the honeymoon/reconciliation phase), the relationship is relatively calm and peaceable. However, interpersonal difficulties will inevitably arise, leading again to the tension building phase.

pwede mo ngang ipakuling yang bf mo, magpa medical ka sa mga pasa mo sa suntok nya tapos ipakulong mo sya.

daria · « **Reply #28 on:** March 08, 2011, 01:00:53 pm »

foul.
you know what to do.
ano na nga bang ginawa mo?

jhenrheign · « **Reply #29 on:** March 08, 2011, 01:16:41 pm »

grabe, nakatagal ka ng ganun? mga ganyan umpisa pa lang iniiwan na... di lang sya ang lalaki sa mundo, madame pa dyan. Ano pa hinihintay mo girl?

tama mga sissies natin dito, bf pa lang yan, what more kung asawa na... kung mahal ka nya di ka nya kayang saktan... wag ka magbulag bulagan sis...

Bagay sayo sis yung movie dati ni j.lo yung Enough...

ana mimi · « **Reply #30 on:** March 08, 2011, 02:23:32 pm »

tama.. yun din naisip ko e.. yung movie na ENOUGH

jpsv72 · « **Reply #31 on:** March 08, 2011, 03:33:27 pm »

yup sis napanood ko rin yun

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raven03 · « **Reply #32 on:** March 08, 2011, 05:59:51 pm »

Hopefully, hindi si TS yung nasa news sa 7 the other day na 17 years old at binaril sa face ng bf at si bf eh nagpakamatay din sa University grounds. Naku, tong mga bata na 'to.

ana mimi · « **Reply #33 on:** March 08, 2011, 06:03:32 pm »

haha.. wag naman sana.. naku, mga kabataan talaga ngayon.. kakaiba.

StrawberryJammy · « **Reply #34 on:** March 08, 2011, 07:41:33 pm »

grabe yung no? saltik sa utak! who in their right mind would do such a thing?

jpsv72 · « **Reply #35 on:** March 08, 2011, 10:57:27 pm »

really me ganun???

wala kc ako jan sa Pinas kaya wala akong balita but last time I read a news na meron din ganito ang style, yun yata yung relative ni Angel Locsin???

hay naku, mga kabataan nga naman.

raven03 · « **Reply #36 on:** March 09, 2011, 09:48:13 pm »

Kaya sometimes I don't watch local news, nanunuod lang ako kapag alam kong I can take it. OA kasi ako, minsan yung mga charity stuff nila sa TV iniiyakan ko.

TS paramdam ka na, nag-aalala na kami sayo.

chiqmom · « **Reply #37 on:** March 09, 2011, 09:59:14 pm »

sis, what's broken is broken. you can feel guilty but it doesnt change the fact na the relationship is already wasted. break up with him and let each other live again.

roxykarlo · « **Reply #38 on:** March 10, 2011, 02:31:00 pm »

physical abuse is not a joke. better leave him and tell it to the authorities. sino siya para ganyanin ka niya? isumbong mo kay tito noynoy para mabitay. joke.

sosychill · « **Reply #39 on:** April 07, 2011, 09:51:26 pm »

ay sos, sis try to bump your head baka magtino ka na. if you wanna live hiwalayan mo na yan. di lang physical abuse huh verbal pa!!

naalala ko tuloy yung friend ko ganyan yung ex niya sa kanya. talagang sobrang verbal abuse ang inabot niya. ewan ko sa lalaking yun papansin lagi pero gf niya hinahayaan niya lang. eh maganda pa yung friend ko,sexy, mahinhin at cum laude pa pero ginaganon niya lang. walang hiyang yon nang gigil talaga ko pag naalala ko. kaya one time sa campus nung nakita ko si friend na namumula mata, sinugod na talaga naman si ex niya sa gym ng campus at pinagsasalitaan ng kung ano ano, naawa ko sa friend ko, umiiyak lang siya habang lahat kaming magbabarkada sinisigawan yung ex niya. hayysss. those bastards. go to hell!!

kaya sis ayaw namin mangyari yan sayo. get your old life back okay..

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