THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY
Source: The Manila Times
By: Mark J. Macapagal
In your life, youíll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. Thereís the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one youíre withÖand the one that got away.
Who is the one that got away? I guess itís that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didnít fall the right way, I suppose.
I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.
How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When youíre not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesnít matter who youíre with, it just doesnít work. Small problems become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because youíre not ready and it shows. Itís not that you and the person youíre with are no good; itís just that itís not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.
Then one day youíre ready. You really are. And when this happens youíll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but itíll work because youíre ready. Itíll work because itís the right time and youíll make it work. And itíll make sense, it really will.
So that day comes when youíre finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and youíve become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, thereís no telling when this day will come. Hopefully youíre single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesnít matter.
All you know is that youíve changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.
Youíll think about them because youíll wonder, "What if they were here today?" Youíll wonder, "What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?". Thatís what the one that got away is. The biggest "What if?" youíll have in your life.
If youíre married, youíll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, nomatter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully youíre mature enough to realize that youíre already with the one youíre with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, youíll think about him/her every so often, but itís alright. Itís never nice to live with a "might have been," but it happens.
Maybe the one that got away is the one whoís already married. In which case itís the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when youíre old and gray and reminiscing. But if neither of that is the case, then itís different. What do you do if itís not yet too late? SimpleÖfind him, find her. Because the very existence of a "one that got away" means that youíll always wonder, what if you got that one?
Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesnít matter if youíve dropped in from out of nowhere. Youíd be surprised, you just might be "the one that got away" as well for the person who is your "the one that got away."
You might drop in from out of nowhere and it wonít make a difference.
If the timing is finally right, itíll all just fall into place somehow and you know, Iím thinking, it would be a great feeling in the end, to be able to say to someone, "Hey you, youíre the one that almost got away." =)
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