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The One that Got Away -> just wanna share this article =)
« on: February 17, 2011, 01:34:34 PM »
THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY

Source: The Manila Times
By: Mark J. Macapagal

In your life, you’ll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There’s the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you’re with…and the one that got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess it’s that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn’t fall the right way, I suppose.

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn’t matter who you’re with, it just doesn’t work. Small problems become big; inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because you’re not ready and it shows. It’s not that you and the person you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day you’re ready. You really are. And when this happens you’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the right time and you’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense, it really will.

So that day comes when you’re finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you’ve become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there’s no telling when this day will come. Hopefully you’re single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesn’t matter.

All you know is that you’ve changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.

You’ll think about them because you’ll wonder, "What if they were here today?" You’ll wonder, "What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?". That’s what the one that got away is. The biggest "What if?" you’ll have in your life.

If you’re married, you’ll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, nomatter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you’re mature enough to realize that you’re already with the one you’re with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you’ll think about him/her every so often, but it’s alright. It’s never nice to live with a "might have been," but it happens.

Maybe the one that got away is the one who’s already married. In which case it’s the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you’re old and gray and reminiscing. But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different. What do you do if it’s not yet too late? Simple…find him, find her. Because the very existence of a "one that got away" means that you’ll always wonder, what if you got that one?

Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn’t matter if you’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. You’d be surprised, you just might be "the one that got away" as well for the person who is your "the one that got away."

You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won’t make a difference.

If the timing is finally right, it’ll all just fall into place somehow and you know, I’m thinking, it would be a great feeling in the end, to be able to say to someone, "Hey you, you’re the one that almost got away." =)


--> super relate :) haysss..
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« Reply #1 on: February 19, 2011, 11:16:25 AM »
super relate too. I have a copy of this article for a long time na coz this struck me :)
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« Reply #2 on: February 19, 2011, 03:46:54 PM »
@sis katthee yep super relate din.. hehe

i believe in a lifetime meron ka talagang makikilala na "the one that got away", you are lucky if you found him/her again, pero mostly talagang sila yung nawala na totally :)
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« Reply #3 on: February 25, 2011, 06:20:51 PM »
I read this article in facebook. I can relate... wrong timing!
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« Reply #4 on: February 25, 2011, 08:10:13 PM »
I read this article in facebook. I can relate... wrong timing!

@sis shoes travel its just matter of timing talaga hehe nakakainis lang pag ganun tee hee!  ;D
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« Reply #5 on: February 26, 2011, 04:56:52 AM »
@sis katthee yep super relate din.. hehe

i believe in a lifetime meron ka talagang makikilala na "the one that got away", you are lucky if you found him/her again, pero mostly talagang sila yung nawala na totally :)

reading this got me wondering.. has anyone ever thought of me as "the one that got away?" ???

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« Reply #6 on: February 26, 2011, 02:00:13 PM »

Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn’t matter if you’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. You’d be surprised, you just might be "the one that got away" as well for the person who is your "the one that got away."


I wonder it too... am I the one who got away too? online siya ngayon sa FB, should I say hi, should I say say hello? hayz
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« Reply #7 on: February 26, 2011, 02:49:30 PM »
reading this got me wondering.. has anyone ever thought of me as "the one that got away?" ???

@sis cherub rock, meron yan sis hehe :D especially pag naging mabuti ka naman to them :) tee hee!  :D at mabuti na din na ganun para lagi nilang maiisip na sila ang nawalan hindi ikaw :)

I wonder it too... am I the one who got away too? online siya ngayon sa FB, should I say hi, should I say say hello? hayz

@sis mishmish wag kana magaksaya ng time, if you think na makakapagsaya sayo un and wala namang conflict in between the two of you, go for it.. kesa mabuhay ka sa if's.. and then pag dumating yung time na nagawa mo na lahat then nothing happened, let go.. :D at least you did your part. wala kang regrets :D
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« Reply #8 on: February 26, 2011, 03:48:49 PM »
^sis, hmmm tingin ko wala naman sigurong magiging conflict  ;) actually we're both married na din (naligaw lang ako dito sa being single na thread  :P) siguro kaya lang ako walang courage to make the move kasi, parang ang tagal na naming walang communication, siguro parang awkward lang.... di bale... the next time na mag-online siya ulit.. hope i would have the courage to say hi man lang...

siguro naman i'm not being unfaithful kay hubby  :P :P
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« Reply #9 on: February 26, 2011, 06:36:26 PM »
^sis, hmmm tingin ko wala naman sigurong magiging conflict  ;) actually we're both married na din (naligaw lang ako dito sa being single na thread  :P) siguro kaya lang ako walang courage to make the move kasi, parang ang tagal na naming walang communication, siguro parang awkward lang.... di bale... the next time na mag-online siya ulit.. hope i would have the courage to say hi man lang...

siguro naman i'm not being unfaithful kay hubby  :P :P

@sis mishmish.. hihi natawa ako sayo loka ka sis! hahaha  ;D nway, kung purely pagha-hi lang yan go sis hehe :D pero dapat gang dun lang.. pero meron talaga sis na ganyan na kahit married kana meron pa ding tao na maiisip mo kahit minsan na "the one that got away" hehe pero sabe nga, got away na talaga pag ganun hehe Godbless sis, mag- hi ka na tee hee!  ;D
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« Reply #10 on: February 26, 2011, 11:19:43 PM »
^LOL!

haven't seen him for 7 years na din, sometimes talaga, naiisip ko kung ano ang sasabihin ko sa kanya let's say we bump into each other sa mall, sa restaurant... para kasing naka-hang pa din ako, hey don't me wrong ha, i love my hubby with all my heart, it's just that feeling ko walang closure, in the sense na hindi ko alam kung anong nangyari bakit he changed his mind.. bakit all of a sudden mas pinili niya ang pinili niya... kung bakit ako ang na-give up niya... wala lang, so my questions left unanswered lang kaya siguro ganun... alam kong harmless naman itong feeling na to.. hehe lagot talaga ako kay hubby kung alam niya to  ;D ;D

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« Reply #11 on: February 27, 2011, 09:16:34 AM »
supppeeerrr relate din ako.. i post it in my facebook para mabasa naman ng iba. very nice article...
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« Reply #12 on: February 27, 2011, 09:55:51 AM »
^ Waaahh I wanted to post it on facebook too, kaso mababasa yan ni "the one who got away" feeling na kung feeling LOL! baka maya niyan isipin niya pinatatamaan ko siya! LOL!!  ;D
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« Reply #13 on: February 27, 2011, 07:20:11 PM »
@sis mish mish wag mo na ipost eh hehe it's better to left that way sis, kung nag-hi ka na sa kanya hehe :D
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« Reply #14 on: February 27, 2011, 07:32:12 PM »
super nice... very relatable!!!
LOVE IS NOT TO BE FOUND IN SOMEONE ELSE, BUT IN OURSELVES; WE SIMPLY AWAKEN IT. BUT IN ORDER TO DO THAT, WE NEED OTHER PERSON.
THE UNIVERSE ONLY MAKES SENSE WHEN WE HAVE SOMEONEONE TO SHARE OUR FEELINGS WITH.

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« Reply #15 on: February 27, 2011, 08:53:49 PM »
^^sis minikeyklush - yes better to leave things as they are....  :)
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« Reply #16 on: March 02, 2011, 10:24:41 PM »
@sis mishmish sometimes the best thing that we could do for the people that we love and we have loved is to stay out their lives hehe sabe lang sis hehe  ;D
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« Reply #17 on: March 02, 2011, 10:41:16 PM »
^oo nga eh... minsan kasi some things are not meant to be... and we have to accept this harsh reality hehe  :P
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« Reply #18 on: March 03, 2011, 09:11:23 AM »
@sis mish mish ang mushy naten ke aga aga hahaha  ;D
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« Reply #19 on: March 03, 2011, 09:40:49 AM »
^LOL!  :P
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