Author Topic: is it worth a shot? (Read 6908 times)

gurlzat03 · « **Reply #40 on:** June 23, 2011, 09:25:48 pm »

^ super agree sa post mo sis... Eventually, we will find the happiness we deserve... Just have your complete trust in God and for sure, everything will be okay.

anne_mae · « **Reply #41 on:** June 23, 2011, 09:28:24 pm »

thanks a lot. yup, it's easy to give advice but hard if ikaw na yung nsa situation. i know what's right and wrong eh. but ayun, even though i know yung negative side niya, ipinagtatanggol ko pa rin siya. oh well. i hope i'll be ok soon. i really do hope things will be better for me. i just hate being sad and i feel so lost. na parang kung pwede lang i need a new guy right now para lang you'll stop crying. as if a replacement or rebound will help you get through it. haha.

gurlzat03 · « **Reply #42 on:** June 23, 2011, 09:33:32 pm »

You're right sis, it's easy to give advice pero its very hard to follow the advice given to us. But if we have courage enough to follow those advice, then i don't think its hard. I've been in your situation before, we were supposed to be married nga last July (oh by the way, mag-1 year na pala!) pero siguro some things are not meant to be... Just always remember to love yourself, wala naman kasing ibang tutulong sa 'yo kung hindi sarili mo lang. And when the right time comes that you're ready to fall in love again, don't forget the lessons learned from your past relationship. goodluck!

_gigles_ · « **Reply #43 on:** June 23, 2011, 10:19:51 pm »

^thats true. We know whats right and wrong, hell we even give the same advice to our friends but if its us in the situation its hard to do what we know is right but you have to gather up all your strength and do what you know is right. And I totally agree with loving yourself, love yourself first above others. Goodluck sis!

gelvixen · « **Reply #44 on:** June 23, 2011, 10:23:27 pm »

I read the post of sis paloma, a big ouch!!!

my sympathy to you-grabe akala ko ako lang yung nagmukhang loser sa moment na to sa guy.. hindi pala. im not saying na loser ka literally sis ha? the circumstance that the guy gave to you. hes so mean parang hindi sya lalaki. well just my exe's did! and yes! madami sila hindi lang once kundi twice na kong umasa,niloko and umiyak.

Share ko lang yung second bf. on and off kame for 4 years.. yes ganun ako katanga sa kanya. pinagtyagaan ko yung pagkamoody nya to the extent na iniintindi ko kahit parang kinahihiya niya ko- haller! ang pangit ko ba??? haha.I dont think so naman. kahit off na kame i still give myself to him then parang wala lang sa kanya. tapos nagkagf sya ang sabi niya "naipit lang ako,hindi ko sya mahal,ikaw talaga ang mahal ko..hihiwalayan ko din sya para sayo" then naniwala naman ako-t**** eh! ganun ko kasi sya kamahal.

hanggang sa dumating sa point na parang nagsawa na ko to be his second best. naawa na ko sa sarili ko kasi lahat naman binigay ko but still napakahirap pa rin para sa kanya na hiwalayan yung gurlet nya,samantalang saken kahit sa text lang nakikipaghiwalay na sya.. lagi kong tinatanong sa sarili ko kung anong mali saken, kung may kulang pa ba? siguro ang mali ko lang nagmahal ako ng sobra.. grabe nasayang na naman yung paghihintay ko, nauwi lang sa wala. Ang dami ko na ding napalampas para sa kanya haaays. Hindi nya ko kayang ipaglaban, wala syang b****!

Tapos ngayon nagpaparamdam na naman sya.. tinetest na naman nya kung bibigay ako? naiinis na ko kasi sa tuwing makakmoveon na ko bigla syang nagpaparamdam. natatalo ako ng love ko sa kanya. sa ngayon tinatapangan ko na lang yung sarili ko na iresist sya kasi ang sakit sakit na ng binigay niya. Pagod na ko. siguro yung closure na hinihintay ko, ako na lang gagawa para sa sarili ko. enough!.... hindi lang sya ang lalaki sa mundo.

tama nga yung sinabi ni sis gurlzat03 - walang tutulong sa atin kundi tayo din. cheer up gurls!!

gurlzat03 · « **Reply #45 on:** June 25, 2011, 12:30:35 pm »

hugz sis.. i would suggest na let him go and don't wait for the closure kasi it won't happen. sabi nga sa mga nabasa kong post dito, there's no such thing as closure but there is a thing called "ACCEPTANCE".. at times, we should learn to accept that things are not really meant to happen the way we want them to be.. Pero don't forget that when God closes a door, he opens a window... Live, love and learn. better things are coming if we accept everything that happens to us.. Life is yours! Go on and stay beautiful!

_gigles_ · « **Reply #46 on:** June 25, 2011, 12:45:02 pm »

honestly, sometimes I think I long for closure for the hope that maybe things will turn around, maybe he'll realize that ako pala ang mahal niya. or I am just looking for closure that I know I wont get just for an excuse to hold on to him much longer. Pero eventually I realize that I have to snap out of it, sinasaktan ko lang ang sarili ko so why dont I just do something to get away from the pain, which is what I have been doing. I know its not easy but I have to do it for myself. I cant live in pain I have to keep moving forward and find the happiness I deserve.

gurlzat03 · « **Reply #47 on:** June 25, 2011, 04:37:01 pm »

^ ganyan din ako sis when the breakup is still fresh.. alam mo 'yung pakiramdam na literal na parang sasabog ka na lang bigla anytime. pero nakakapagod din pala, until I bumped into an article entitled as "closing cycles". sabi kasi dun, we should stop asking ourselves what went wrong and start moving forward.. true enough na maaalala mo pa din ang mga memories nyo together, pero hanggang dun na lang 'yun.. if we keep on longing or holding on, we are losing the opportunity of the best thing that will come our way. Sa ngayon, pakiramdam ko nagiging masyado akong "mind over the heart". alam mo 'yung feeling na takot mag-risk kasi ayokong maramdaman ang dating sakit na naramdaman ko.. pero I know in time, I'm ready to take the risk with the person that God will give to me. Basta I'm enjoying my singlehood as of the moment.

_gigles_ · « **Reply #48 on:** June 25, 2011, 09:54:58 pm »

^ganyan din ako ngayon, minsan nga naiisip ko will I ever feel the "omg I am so happily inlove" feeling or will I ever be able to open up to someone as much I did. Parang hindi ko na ata kaya, ang hirap kasi to pick up the pieces again. But yeah maybe in time I will be ready again, idk pero as of now super guarded ang heart ko.

_gigles_ · « **Reply #49 on:** June 26, 2011, 08:14:52 pm »

^be strong sis! alam ko mahirap at masakit pero kailangan mo maging strong for yourself. Try to get yourself busy with something else para hindi mo maisip.

gurlzat03 · « **Reply #50 on:** June 27, 2011, 12:16:39 pm »

normal lang ang nararamdaman mo sis.. I would suggest na instead of asking God why, ask yourself how... You have to put your complete trust to him and I assure you, everything will be fine. Personally, until now, I'm not 100% over him but I can say that I'm better now as compared before. Ang medyo kinakatakot ko lang talaga sa ngayon eh ang masyadong pairalin si mind, kesa kay heart. Right now I'm in the process of balancing my mind & my heart. magulo ba? basta, parang feeling ko kasi ngayon wala na kong pakiramdam or magandang comment about love.. Pero in time, I know magiging normal na ulit ako.

kidding aside sis, kung nakaya ko, I'm sure makakaya mo rin. Basta advice ko lang sa 'yo, learn your lessons very well. As long as may sunrise, palaging may hope. Keep on praying and thanking God na everytime there is a sunrise, he is giving you a chance to have a change of heart and correct all the mistakes that you've done in the past. cheer up! life is yours!

_gigles_ · « **Reply #51 on:** June 27, 2011, 12:36:27 pm »

^i totally agree with you, I used to be so bitter and cynical about love and ang tingin ko sa mga lalaki dati lahat manloloko pero eventually my heart healed and nabawasan din yung cynicism. I cannot say that I'm ready to give my heart to another guy again, but eventually I will be. I'm still a work in progress, one day at a time. and yes I am still not over him if I see or hear him with someone else I know I'll still get hurt. But I've accepted the fact that we can never be together again.

I think we will always have a soft spot for an ex we truly love, they once meant the world to us, so they will always matter to us maybe not as much as they used to be but they will always have a piece of our heart.

haha parang broken hearts club tayo dito.

gurlzat03 · « **Reply #52 on:** June 27, 2011, 05:50:16 pm »

^ korek sis.. update update tayo sa lovelife natin.

basta, all I know is that someone will come along at the right time.. Importante sa ngayon, we've learned our lessons very well and that we're not hurting anybody. I totally agree na hindi mawawala 'yung soft spot for the person we truly love, napaka-emotional pa naman nating mga girls.

_gigles_ · « **Reply #53 on:** June 27, 2011, 06:51:41 pm »

^there will always be a soft spot for them but never would they have our full heart again. hay sana soon enough we can be happy na. goodluck to us mga sis!

gurlzat03 · « **Reply #54 on:** June 28, 2011, 07:26:35 am »

^ super agree ulit sis.. natural palang nangyayari 'yun noh, 'yung tipong mahal mo pa pero hindi na katulad ng dati.. pasensya naman, first bf & breakup ko kasi 'yun kaya ngayon ko lang na-feel..

gurlzat03 · « **Reply #55 on:** June 28, 2011, 12:18:42 pm »

ganyan din ako sis when the breakup is still fresh.. and admittedly, until now, may pain pa din akong nararamdaman pero hindi na katulad ng dati.. just feel the pain sis, ganyan talaga.. minahal mo kasi, pero kung bale wala lang, for sure dali lang nyan kalimutan. just don't forget to take care of yourself.. cheer up!

_gigles_ · « **Reply #56 on:** June 28, 2011, 01:55:46 pm »

ako din may pain pa rin pero di ko alam naging numb na ata ako or napagod na yung puso ko. eventually you will be okay sa una lang talaga mahirap but eventually when you start to accept na wala na talaga siya sayo you'll be okay. Nobody said it would be easy, just keep moving forward and try to get yourself away for further more pain from him.

gurlzat03 · « **Reply #57 on:** June 29, 2011, 09:29:27 pm »

^ definitely agree ulit sis.. i like your last statement, another encouraging thoughts to keep moving forward!

anne_mae · « **Reply #58 on:** July 02, 2011, 09:57:51 pm »

have you ever tried magpahula? i really want to believe those things.

it really hurts to see your ex, lalo na kapag it's your first time to see them after the breakup. nakita mo pa talaga together with the new girlfriend. like, heller, ang daming church dito sa metro manila, bakit kailangan doon pa sa church kung saan ka magsisimba.tsk. irritating.

_gigles_ · « **Reply #59 on:** July 03, 2011, 01:06:31 am »

^natry ko na pero so far none of the hula for me ang nagkatotoo. but for some it does come true so I guess theres no bad in giving it a try. parang for fun lang just dont put all the believes na it would happen whatever your hula will be just take it as a guide

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