Submissive BF? or Dependent???

[tokong]

Hi guys, its my first time to post here at GT. I just want to collect POVs of our guy friends here about my dilemma. Pls be patient, kinda mahaba ang post ko. Here it goes...

My bf and i have been living together for more than 5 years now. We started being in bf/gf more than 10 years ago. My bf is naturally the shy type guy. Napakatahimik at mahiyain nya. He was from a poor & simple family. He was able to finish college dahil na din sa determination nya at pagtatrabaho habang ng-aaral at sympre sa support na din ng family. since galing sa poor family, wala syang time to socialize & mingle w/ other people. so his exposure to the world is kinda limited.

When he graduated, i was the one who pushed him to work in manila (taga province kasi kami preho. We were neighbors) & moved in together. As in ako ang nag introduce sa kanya how to start here, pano makakuha ng job, what to wear sa mga interviews, where to apply, as in lahat..

The problem now is, parang masyado syang naging submissive sakin. Kung ano yong sabihin ko, yon na yon. Ako lagi ang nagdedecide. parang hindi na sya nag iisip on his own..i dont know if submissive bang matatawag yon or dependent na sya. Kahit sa mga simpleng bagay, hindi sya makapagsabi ng opinion nya. If i ask his opinion halimbawa kung gusto nya magpunta kami sa ganitong lugar, he would say, ikaw gusto mo ba? laging bumabalik sakin yong tanong. laging bumabalik sakin yong decision.

Halimbawa, i want us to start a business. then i would ask him, ano sa palagay mo ang magandang business? he would return the question to me na hmmm ano nga kaya hon??? hayz. wala syang sariling opinion.

I already talked to him na about what i feel. At lagi niyang sinasabi na sige babaguhin daw nya. pero nothing has changed. ganun parin sya.. madalas sinasabi ko sa knya, he has to assume the responsibility of decision making, planning about us kasi sya yong magiging head of the family, ako support lang.

napapagod na akong i-assume yong dpat responsibility nya.. gusto ko naman magpahinga sa mga isipin..siya naman..

ano sa tingin nyo?? i would appreciate any reply from you guys..TIA

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hindi ako makapagreply. anyway, tnx sau sis pretty & dell. i want him kasi to speak up. i want to know his thoughts too sa mga bagay bagay.. pero he always leave the planning sakin.. siguro kasi he thinks that i have better ideas than him? i am smarter than him ganun kaya? hayzz.. pero overall, i dont have anymore complains than that.. he is a nice a guy & very patient. very supportive din sya sakin..siguro nga you can't have everything. sabi minsan ng friend ko, everybody has flaws, its up to you to decide what flaw can you tolerate, then dun ka..

[prettykhae]

siguro sis, isip mo na kasi lalake sya dapat may backbone sya lalo na sa decision making? tama ba? sa akin kasi, ako ang mas dependent e... lalo mas matanda sya sakin... baka ang point nya is, lagi nya consider ang gusto mo, imbes na yung sa kanya ang consider.