Okay, first things first, ... Unless you feel like it's also your duty to "spoil" your husband then I think drawing the line and drawing it clearly will do your relationship a lot of good. Some people nga talaga are insensitive. Men, more often than women. And the best way around that is to simply deny them the things you believe aren't due to them. Like instead of picking up his mess, call his attention to the mess he's made. And the next time he criticizes your cooking, don't cook at all for like a week, or up until he apologizes for not appreciating Soup that's smartly incorporated into Rice.
Was your husband too sheltered or was spoiled by his folks? Because very often, men who were raised like 'Dons' by their parents have the tendency to expect the kind of service-oriented attention
from their wives and even their kids. They want the best food cooked just the right way. Their clothes stacked-up neatly and in accordance to what they want to wear during the time they want to wear it. And when they get home, they feel like they deserved to be treated like Royalty precisely because that's how things worked back when he was with his folks.
The solution is simple. Get a helper. That's the only way for it to work. You can of course take up the stuff the helper can't accommodate but since a lot of the household chores especially the ones that involves cleaning or preparing can be relegated to the helper, then you'll have enough energy and patience to the stuff THE KING
requires of his loyal subjects when he comes home.
Of course this could be one of those marriages where someone who happens to be fine with a little mess married someone who's so neat, tidy, and a clean-freak. Also a case of someone who wants his food 'perfect' married someone who can't cook anything that isn't microwave-able or be prepared by simply adding Hot Water.
Which is actually a case of two personalities clashing and nothing more than that.
This is also a common predicament for the Modern Stay At Home Wives
. The modern times apparently is too hectic and the pressure is much greater than it was during the days that Stay At Home Wives were actually considered luckier .... that's back in the mid 60's to the late 70's.
Sometimes, doing the household chores which includes raising the kids and preparing for the family's needs day in and day out will take it's toll on the err ... mental state of the wife. They feel inferior. Insecure. Over Worked and Unappreciated. And that is where the local hunk courier, the aggressive plumber, or the barely legal paperboy comes into the story ... wait. This is an actual situation pala.
Well, I'm sure you get my point. It's probably all a matter of you being burned out and too exhausted that a timely break is probably in order. We all need to re-energize. .... Uwi ka muna sa probinsya. Este, ... Ha-ha-ha-ha. Biro lang.
Ask for the break that you deserve.
Hope that helps.